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[quote=EternalEnigma21;455895][B]The fact that he's asking his mom for advice means he's dead in the water.[/B] He's overthinking. I know it sounds stupid, but being yourself is much more interesting than trying to conform to rules and social regulations. F it, if he feels like having a couple of shots and calling in the middle of the night while he's pleasuring himself, by all means have him do so. At least it will be memorable, and at 15 that's all you can really hope for.[/quote]

Great point. At 15 years old I couldn't have imagined asking my Mom for advice on dating.

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[quote=jdlea;455918]I'm a little disappointed that no one caught this, but Swingers was a great movie![/quote]

One of my favorite scenes ever


[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: So how long do I wait to call?

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: A day.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Tomorrow.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0887187/"][COLOR=#003399]Sue[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Tomorrow, then a day.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: So two days?

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0887187/"][COLOR=#003399]Sue[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0887187/"][COLOR=#003399]Sue[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah, two's enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0246373/"][COLOR=#003399]Charles[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Then ask her where you met her.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0269463/"][COLOR=#003399]Mike[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?

[B][URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000681/"][COLOR=#003399]Trent[/COLOR][/URL], [URL="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0887187/"][COLOR=#003399]Sue[/COLOR][/URL][/B]: Six days.

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Swingers is easily one of my favorite movies of all time

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usually phone numbers picked up on the weekend are called on Monday. Makes life easy.

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[quote=jdlea;455928]Swingers is easily one of my favorite movies of all time[/quote]

Same here. It never gets old, I could watch it over and over.

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[QUOTE=jdlea;455918]I'm a little disappointed that no one caught this, but Swingers was a great movie![/QUOTE]

Why do you think I posted the video clip? :)

Fantastic movie

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[quote=BigSKINBauer;455931]usually phone numbers picked up on the weekend are called on Monday. Makes life easy.[/quote]
So does that mean that numbers picked up durn the week are called on the weekends and is after 5:00pm on Friday considered the weekend?

If the girl really likes him why would it even matter when he calls?

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[quote=EternalEnigma21;455895]The fact that he's asking his mom for advice means he's dead in the water. He's overthinking. [/quote]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Actually, I'm very close with my son and we have a great relationship. He wasn't asking me directly for advice, he was just talking about it which means he wants my opinion without coming right out and asking me (that would embarrass him).[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[quote=djnemo65;455901]Anyway, what I would tell homeboy is this: you are young, you have your life ahead of you, you are probably good looking because your mom is always talking about how hot she is:silly:. [/quote]

Yep, that's me.. super hot MILF......(sarcasm)

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[QUOTE=SmootSmack;455934]Why do you think I posted the video clip? :)

Fantastic movie[/QUOTE]

You Tube is blocked at my job, all I see is a giant white space. I knew that's what it was, just had no idea what clip it was...

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[quote=hesscl34;455821]If you met a girl on Friday, hit it off, and she's hotter than you but still gave you her phone number and seemed intersted, how long do you wait to call her?[/quote]

You met a girl you think is hot?

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At 15, timing really isn't that important...

At this point, it's one of two things. 1) She's quite interested and wants to talk to him or 2) She was being nice in giving him the phone number, and she'll tell him over the phone instead of to his face that she's not interested.

So, for his sake, the sooner, the better. That way he knows where he stands, and can move on.

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I've got to say, games can be fun. I like to drag things out a bit, so I can let the tension build. It makes the sex better.

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[QUOTE=BDBohnzie;455965]At 15, timing really isn't that important...

At this point, it's one of two things. 1) She's quite interested and wants to talk to him or 2) She was being nice in giving him the phone number, and she'll tell him over the phone instead of to his face that she's not interested.

So, for his sake, the sooner, the better. That way he knows where he stands, and can move on.[/QUOTE]

About 2: When I was younger and a girl approached me that I wasn't interested in...I would give her the wrong number without flinching. To hell with telling you over the phone, I'll never see you again

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Well, I guess when he dials the number and they answer at Joe's Tire World, he'll know where he stands with her...

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[url=http://www.southparkstudios.com/clips/154303/]Shock the Monkey - Clips - South Park Studios[/url]

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It's funny how almost every person (man) that I ask this question has a different answer.

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[quote=firstdown;455942]So does that mean that numbers picked up durn the week are called on the weekends and is after 5:00pm on Friday considered the weekend?

If the girl really likes him why would it even matter when he calls?[/quote]

If its a weekday it is great because i'll probably be doing something Thursday night because i don't have friday classes and call her up with something to do that night or the weekend.

I feel it matters because it is important to display that you got your own shit going on. You want to be saying, you're cool but if nothing happens, thats ok because i got a lot of other stuff on my plate and a lot of other options.

But if we are really going to get into details... If i really have a good time then an e-mail (or facebook message) is a great way ot make a joke about something that happened that night and bridge the gap before you call her. I would proabably write to her tell her i'm going to call in a couple days and then call her. Most important you have to judge the situation. Each girl is different.

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;455991]It's funny how almost every person (man) that I ask this question has a different answer.[/QUOTE]That's because none of us really has a clue.
J/k I think it's more because this type of situation is completely relative to the person. One guy might be much more confident in himself so he'll say make her stew and call her when you feel like it. At the same time someone else might be worried that she'll forget all about him after a few days so he'll say to call ASAP.
I think the best bet is just to tell him to go with his gut. Call when he feels ready. I'd say that the worst thing he can do is to get too nervous and not call her at all because he will most surely regret it later on.


Now I've got to ask: if he met her on Friday and it's now Thursday, has he called her yet?

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Oh but at 15 i don't think it matters. She isn't jaded yet and probably expects him to call sooner than later. But really, she probably wants him to call if she gave him her number. I would tell your son to let her sweat it out a day and call the second day. By the time he calls she probably had been thinking about him for a bit and will be excited.

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;455991]It's funny how almost every person (man) that I ask this question has a different answer.[/QUOTE]

I think part of that is because most of us are at different walks of life. At 15, he'd probably be best served calling sooner rather than later. At 15 that girl probably wouldn't judge him for calling the same day, I mean, who really knows how to play games at 15?

At my age (college, before I got into my current relationship) half the time, I didn't know where numbers came from. We'd be out in New Orleans and I'd wake up with a new number with an "H" label which either stood for "Hot" or "hoe" depending on the case. Then, next time I'm out, I'd just text them to see if they felt like hanging out, if not...whatever, I knew very little about you anyway.

The thing is, I think what he says to the girl will be about the only thing that changes her attitude about him. I don't know, but I doubt a 15 year old will be like "Can you believe he called me the same day?!" I just don't think the amount of time he waits will matter that much. He just shouldn't wait too long though, that'd be my only advice.

I guess my recommendation is next day. He'll more than likely be nervous regardless, but the conversation will say a lot more than the amount of time he waits. He's off to a good start, though, pulling numbers at 15...nice!

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Bottom line: if the girl actually cares how long a guy waits to call her, whether it's 5 minutes or 5 days, then she's a waste of time anyway.

Makes no sense to worry about it. Get off the sidelines and just call her.

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[quote=hesscl34;455991]It's funny how almost every person (man) that I ask this question has a different answer.[/quote]

There's no right answer basically.

Let's turn it around, let's say you gave a guy your number and you were interested in him and you thought the feeling was mutual. If he called the next day or in 3 days would it really matter to you?

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[quote=ArtMonkDrillz;455997]Now I've got to ask: if he met her on Friday and it's now Thursday, has he called her yet?[/quote]

Nope, but he told her he was going to the beach until this Friday.... so he wasn't sure if he should call her while he's there or wait until he gets back... or just text. Poor kids mine is spinning... ha ha..

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[quote=Mattyk72;456012]There's no right answer basically.

Let's turn it around, let's say you gave a guy your number and you were interested in him and you thought the feeling was mutual. If he called the next day or in 3 days would it really matter to you?[/quote]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Hmmm, it all depends on how much we like the guy: [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If he's so/so possible like but unsure, you can call us whenever you want and we won't mind. [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If we think we could really like you, we quietly hope you'll call and make a date before the next weekend, but we don't want you to call right away because that makes the man look desperate and we want the man we are really interested in to be considerate (not rude). [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Men that call that same night we think only are looking to get laid, and fast. [/FONT][/COLOR]

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;456016][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Hmmm, it all depends on how much we like the guy: [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If he's so/so possible like but unsure, you can call us whenever you want and we won't mind. [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If we think we could really like you, we quietly hope you'll call and make a date before the next weekend, but we don't want you to call right away because that makes the man look desperate and we want the man we are really interested in to be considerate (not rude). [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR]
[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Men that call that same night we think only are looking to get laid, and fast. [/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

I'm just speaking in hypotheticals, but what if he texts you something like, "Nice meeting you tonight" or something of that nature...just curious

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[quote=jdlea;456017]I'm just speaking in hypotheticals, but what if he texts you something like, "Nice meeting you tonight" or something of that nature...just curious[/quote]

That's just sweet. We wouldn't mind it at all. But don't call the next day to make a date... that's too soon!

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[quote=hesscl34;456016][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Hmmm, it all depends on how much we like the guy: [/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If he's so/so possible like but unsure, you can call us whenever you want and we won't mind. [/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]If we think we could really like you, we quietly hope you'll call and make a date before the next weekend, but we don't want you to call right away because that makes the man look desperate and we want the man we are really interested in to be considerate (not rude). [/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Men that call that same night we think only are looking to get laid, and fast. [/FONT][/COLOR][/quote]

That's why 3 days is kinda money :)

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;456019]That's just sweet. We wouldn't mind it at all. But don't call the next day to make a date... that's too soon![/QUOTE]

When I was playing the field, I very rarely made "dates." It was more like, "I'll be here with my friends, if you and you and your friends are around, you should swing by or we could come meet you all." Pretty much, my litmus test for a real relationship was whether she got along with/could hang out with my friends, if not, they were there first and they'll be around after you. It was sink or swim pretty much right away.

If I was feeling like there could be something, then we'd go out on a date after that..

EDIT: And yeah, the text message used to my thing.

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[quote=Schneed10;456008]Bottom line: if the girl actually cares how long a guy waits to call her, whether it's 5 minutes or 5 days, then she's a waste of time anyway.

Makes no sense to worry about it. Get off the sidelines and just call her.[/quote]

HUH? You don't want the girl to care if you call her or not? .... ok, that's a first.

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[quote=jdlea;456021]When I was playing the field, I very rarely made "dates." It was more like, "I'll be here with my friends, if you and you and your friends are around, you should swing by or we could come meet you all." Pretty much, my litmus test for a real relationship was whether she got along with/could hang out with my friends, if not, they were there first and they'll be around after you. It was sink or swim pretty much right away.

If I was feeling like there could be something, then we'd go out on a date[/quote]

I think adults like dates, but this is good advice for my son.. to meet at the movies with friends....

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;456023]I think adults like dates, but this is good advice for my son.. to meet at the movies with friends....[/QUOTE]

I agree, I was more referring to parties/bars, but I could see where that may be a problem for 15 year olds, though.

Btw, did I correctly understand that your son thinks this girl is too hot for him?

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[quote=jdlea;456024]I agree, I was more referring to parties/bars, but I could see where that may be a problem for 15 year olds, though.

Btw, did I correctly understand that your son thinks this girl is too hot for him?[/quote]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]I don't know if she's too hot for him, but he kept telling me how hot she is and seemed nervous and a little insecure about it. My son is a great looking kid 6ft, 170 - tall, dark and handsome. He shouldn't worry about how hot she is.. but I can't tell him that. He thinks I'm biased because I'm his mother.[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;456026][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]I don't know if she's too hot for him, but he kept telling me how hot she is and seemed nervous and a little insecure about it. My son is a great looking kid 6ft, 170 - tall, dark and handsome. He shouldn't worry about how hot she is.. but I can't tell him that. He thinks I'm biased because I'm his mother.[/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

That's one thing that has me a little concerned. I think his confidence could be a bit of an issue. Most guys will agree that confidence is the biggest thing in the world when talking to girls, that and paying attention to what they say. I don't know how many times we've had that conversation with friends of mine...I digress. I think I would really mess this situation up as a parent. I'd be like, "You're only 15, you're not going to marry this girl, don't put pressure on it, call her and see what she likes to do. Do that with her and have a good time with this. You're too young to get this worked up about it."

Now, to most people my age, they would probably agree that that's true, but it's probably the last thing in the world a guy/girl who's 15 wants to hear.

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[quote=jdlea;456027]I'd be like, "You're only 15, you're not going to marry this girl, don't put pressure on it, call her and see what she likes to do. Do that with her and have a good time with this. You're too young to get this worked up about it."

Now, to most people my age, they would probably agree that that's true, but it's probably the last thing in the world a guy/girl who's 15 wants to hear.[/quote]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Um, that's pretty much what I said to him... but I am trying to understand that in his mind it's a big deal. I'm sure he'll be fine. I was just very curious what a man's perspective would be.[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[QUOTE=hesscl34;456030][COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Um, that's pretty much what I said to him... but I am trying to understand that in his mind it's a big deal. I'm sure he'll be fine. I was just very curious what a man's perspective would be.[/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Lol, was he like, "You don't understand, mom"?

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[quote=jdlea;456031]Lol, was he like, "You don't understand, mom"?[/quote]

of course.. he's 15. I won't understand until he's married with kids. THEN he'll appreciate me! :)

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[quote=EARTHQUAKE2689;455910]even at 15 if i like you then same or next day[/quote]


But I am only 19 with a 5 year long girlfriend so what do i know?

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Cant blame a guy for being nervous dating a girl too hot for him. Its intimidating at first, because at 15 you don't know that the dating pool is really full of wanker jerkoffs, and this chick, no matter how hot... really can't do better. She's lucky you're interested and thank god for that ass because if she didn't have it you wouldn't be interested and she'd be dating this guy, because she doesn't know any better:

[IMG]http://www.photopox.com/Images/Insults/1163955324-douchebag.jpg[/IMG]

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by the way, not to hijack, but if you are that guy, vegas wants you:

[IMG]http://www.vegastripping.com/images/vegas.com-douchebag.jpg[/IMG]