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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;706153]LOL. Hell yeah man. My wife and I had been together ten years before we got married. We're working on year three and we "had relations", as SBXVII so eloquently put it, in the Disney parking lot in the car this year. Things only get stale when YOU decide it does. It's gonna' be great man. Enjoy it.[/quote]

Haha nice. Yeah, our "relations" are better now than they've ever been. That's gotta be a good sign moving forward. As you age and have kids, I'm sure there's some degree of a drop off, but like you said, it only goes stale if you let it.

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[quote=Mattyk;706146]Yeah the thread has officially been Debbie downerd[/quote]

No worries. TMC and I pulled it right back up. :)

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[quote=SBXVII;706148]Pssst, It doesn't matter. I was with my wife 5 yrs prior to marriage. ;)

It will happen anyway.[/quote]

Is your marrige that sucky dude? I hear getting strap-on in the mix helps spice things up.

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[quote=GMScud;706154]Haha nice. Yeah, our "relations" are better now than they've ever been. That's gotta be a good sign moving forward. As you age and have kids, I'm sure there's some degree of a drop off, but like you said, it only goes stale if you let it.[/quote]

Let me say this from someone who is 28 and has no kids yet... DO NOT RUSH IT. There's no set plan for when you're supposed to have kids, it just happens when you're ready. Right now my wife and I know that we have a lot we want to do before those little shits come around (:)). Every single one of my friends with kids sometimes get black-balled from events because they HAVE kids.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;706158]Let me say this from someone who is 28 and has no kids yet... DO NOT RUSH IT. There's no set plan for when you're supposed to have kids, it just happens when you're ready. Right now my wife and I know that we have a lot we want to do before those little shits come around (:)). Every single one of my friends with kids sometimes get black-balled from events because they HAVE kids.[/quote]

Yeah we're not in a rush. I'm 31, she's 28 this year. We're AT LEAST 2 years away. We're looking to buy a house pretty soon, and we both have some traveling/career stuff we want to do first as well. 30 is the new 20, right? We've got time. :) My closest friend has an 18 month old, his wife is preggers again, plus he has two dogs, and they are both working full time. He's swamped at all times. He loves it, and it's what he's always wanted, so good for him. But I couldn't deal with that right now.

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[quote=saden1;706157]Is your marrige that sucky dude? I hear getting strap-on in the mix helps spice things up.[/quote]

Actually no. She is my best friend so I'm actually happy. Some things could obviously be better but time will tell how yours turns out.

Honestly I don't think I've met a married person yet or rather someone who has been married long enough who has not agreed with me. Good luck to you. :)

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Congrads young man ! Great pictures , wishing you and the wife many , many more happy years .... cheers to health and wealth :)

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Now let me explain the 3 stages of sex after you get married:

First year you have sex all over the house all the time.

Second to maybe fith year it turns into bed room sex and like it says you only have sex in the bed room.

Fith year on it becomes hall sex. You pass each other in the hall and she says FU and you turn around and say no FU.

Congrats and I wish you two a life full of joy.

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[quote=TheMalcolmConnection;706158]Let me say this from someone who is 28 and has no kids yet... DO NOT RUSH IT. There's no set plan for when you're supposed to have kids, it just happens when you're ready. Right now my wife and I know that we have a lot we want to do before those little shits come around (:)). Every single one of my friends with kids sometimes get black-balled from events because they HAVE kids.[/quote]

Agreed, hell I'm going on 38 with no kids. We're just enjoying life and doing what we want. She's 5 years younger than me so we've got time. Perhaps in the next couple of years.

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[quote=firstdown;706173]Now let me explain the 3 stages of sex after you get married:
[B]
First year you have sex all over the house all the time.[/B]
[B]
Second to maybe fith year it turns into bed room sex and like it says you only have sex in the bed room.

Fith year on it becomes hall sex. You pass each other in the hall and she says FU and you turn around and say no FU.[/B]

Congrats and I wish you two a life full of joy.[/quote]

Yeah, I don't really get that. She and I have been having "relations" all over the house all the time for a little over 7 years. Maybe we're exceptions to the rule. Granted we're young and things could change, but I don't see why they have to.

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[quote=firstdown;706173]Now let me explain the 3 stages of sex after you get married:

First year you have sex all over the house all the time.

Second to maybe fith year it turns into bed room sex and like it says you only have sex in the bed room.

Fith year on it becomes hall sex. You pass each other in the hall and she says FU and you turn around and say no FU.

Congrats and I wish you two a life full of joy.[/quote]

Last time I heard that i fell off my dinosaur

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GM hanging in there man! Every marriage in this world is different but one thing is consent is it takes work kids or no kids. I have been married 3 years; has very day been paradise, hell no but there has been more great days then bad days.

Listen to the song Love like Crazy

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4jkF20ba2s]YouTube - Lee Brice- Love Like Crazy[/url]

So you don't end up like this country song:

[url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZMCkufE0X0]YouTube - Highway 20 Ride[/url]

Sometimes life is like a country song!=)

Marriage and family is awesome but it takes work, hard work. I can remember my son was on his third night of being sick and we were up with him all night every night he was 16 months old and he looked at me at 3am or some ungodly hour and just gave me a huge unsolicited hug; number one highlight of my life right there.

If you only got married to get laid, probably doomed to fail.

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[quote=mredskins;706195]GM hanging in there man! Every marriage in this world is different but one thing is consent is it takes work kids or no kids. I have been married 3 years; has very day been paradise, hell no but there has been more great days then bad days.

Listen to the song Love like Crazy

[URL="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q4jkF20ba2s"]YouTube - Lee Brice- Love Like Crazy[/URL]

So you don't end up like this country song:

[URL="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZMCkufE0X0"]YouTube - Highway 20 Ride[/URL]

Sometimes life is like a country song!=)

[B]Marriage and family is awesome but it takes work, hard work. I can remember my son was on his third night of being sick and we were up with him all night every night he was 16 months old and he looked at me at 3am or some ungodly hour and just gave me a huge unsolicited hug; number one highlight of my life right there. [/B]

If you only got married to get laid, probably doomed to fail.[/quote]

That's pretty awesome stuff. I got married for many reasons. The top ones include: She's the best friend I've ever had, I love her more now than I ever have (known her for 8 years, together for 7), and I want to build a family with her, and we challenge each other and bring out the best in one another. We are a great team in many aspects. Kick ass "relations" doesn't hurt either. :) I know things change in life, but there is no doubt in my mind that I can happily spend the rest of my days with her.

All that said, I totally understand how much work relationships are. They're a living thing, and just like any living thing, they will die without care, attention, and nuturing. If marriage was so easy, everyone would do it, and do it successfully.

My eyes are wide open, trust me. She and I actually almost broke up about 3 years ago. We had just moved back up here from Gainesville, and we were both in very tough situations on the job front. We didn't have a very good living situation, money was really tight, and we weren't seeing each other much because of conflicting schedules. We were like two ships passing at night for the better part of 6 months. I felt us growing apart, and we had so much outside stress, when we were together we were fighting a lot. We nearly called it quits, but instead we rededicated ourselves to each other. It took some time, but things got better and better, and the flame was re-light so to speak. We both learned a lot from those tough times. We're better for it today, and it's definitely a positive to have persevered through that kind of adversity prior to a marriage. It was like training in a way I guess.

I like that song Love Like Crazy. Coincidentally, our first dance at our wedding was Crazy Love by Van Morrison.

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[quote=SBXVII;706142]AH HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Congrats, and welcome to the fraternity. Your life of bliss has ended...... welcome to hell. lol. Just a few things you need to know, which others will gladly confirm and help out with..........

Year 1- I'm sure your used to banging like rabbits and this will continue throughout your first yr. Enjoy it while you can. ;)

Year 2- Decisions have to be made. You both need to decide when to have kids(if you can tolerate them to have them). Thats if you didn't get married cause she's already pregnant. lol. The earlier you have kids the earlier in life you can possibly retire and start cruisinig the world. The later you have kids the longer it seems somewhat of a life will ever return. In other words you don't want to be 60 or 70 when your free of kids and can't enjoy life cause you can't get around very well anymore.

Year 3- because either she or both of you are so busy taking care of kids your to tired for relations. All you want is to get the most sleep you can before you have to get up for work the next day. Basically.... relations starts to fade and you might see it once twice a week.

Year 4- God for bid little GMScud gets raised all alone, now your having your second child. The courtship is over. Both of you are too tired for movies, dance clubs, or staying up late to watch your favorite sport. A nice dinner is out also cause the kids love to cry during it so ordering take home is your new friend. Relations are now once a week. Somewhere during this time you will not have time to hang out with your single friends so your life has become exclusive unless you find other couples who have kids the same age to let them play while you hang out and talk. Once and a while you can watch each others kids so you can get a night out with out the kids once and a while.

Year 5- If you can survive this last yr for which most couples leave each other your doing well. You might even say "I'm not going to be the statistic". Relations might now be reserved to weekends only by now. You might not even be seeing it for 2 weeks at a time due to weekend commitments.

Year 6- Congrats. Your not a statistic. As the yrs pass and you both get older all the fun stuff like hanging from the ceiling fan is too much work. Now it's just get it over with as fast as you can. God forbid the kids catch you or hear you. It doesn't matter where you go.... they will find you. After the kids go to sleep and before you do is your new best friend.... quick and quiet.

Unfortunatly I even have a lady I work with who totally believes her and her husband are both content with out it. The simple answer.... they both are just too damn tired for that and all they want to do is simply come home from work and rest.

I know I know, it seems completely unreal. I must be making it up. It sounds horrid. Unfortunalty I'm not. Also it doesn't matter if you say...."this is not going to happen to us" cause eventually it does. Wait..... I stand corrected, you might be the 1% that it doesn't happen to.

I'm totally sorry if I burst your bubble. I take pride in handing out the reality and enjoying laughing at those who say they are getting married or have just gotten married. See you guys are the ones we long time married people get to laugh at and we all get to look up to those who have lasted 30yrs or more.

Again welcome to the fraternity.

:)[/quote]

damn bro, you should've just posted [url=http://www.nomarriage.com/]NoMarriage.com - honest marriage and relationship advice for men.[/url]

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[quote=GMScud;706150]Wow. Sorry your life sucks.

I just started typing a long, drawn out, defensive response to this post, and then I just decided to delete it. Like Saden pointed out, she and I have been together 7 years. We know what we're doing. I don't need to justify anything else to you.[/quote]

Yeah it does...his life that is.

I've been married 8 years, we have a kid...my life is thankfully nothing like his.

Perhaps his lack of "relations" is more of a personal issue than a problem with marriage in general. :D



CONGRATS, GMSCUD.

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Damn, we might have to re-title this thread Sex In The Parking Lot...or something like that?!

Good advice floating around though. I like Matty's, happy wife happy life. I shared that with someone last night.

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[quote=12thMan;706289]Damn, we might have to re-title this thread Sex In The Parking Lot...or something like that?!

Good advice floating around though. I like Matty's, happy wife happy life. I shared that with someone last night.[/quote]

Yea, I tried to make my wife happy last night but she said she was too tired, and had a headach.

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GM you need a BroncoGator to celebrate your wedding!

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Congrats Scud! So happy for you.

- Aruba was indeed awesome. I loved it, can't wait to go back.

- Sex with the same person over and over loses some of the excitement, no doubt. If you've been together seven years you probably experienced this in some form already. I'm your age, but from what I read as you age your hormones naturally change, so both of you will feel a decreased appetite at times in your life. But it's OK, it's not about quantity it's about quality. As long as it's good for both of you, you'll be enjoying life. Like anything else, you get back what you put into it (pun intended).

- The when to have kids matter is one that draws strongly varied opinions. I had my first at 27 so I guess I'd consider that on the young side these days. There's no right or wrong. If you have them real early then maybe you're not mature enough to be a parent, maybe not financially secure enough, maybe you just have things you want to do first. Maybe you're not done growing up yourself and aren't fit to give somebody else guidance yet.

Then again though, if you have them too late, you risk birth defects (women over 35 have a much higher chance of having babies with Down Syndrome or Autism). You also wonder if you'll have the energy to keep up with an 8 year old when you're 45. And you burden yourself financially with consecutive huge bills in your 50's and 60's. First feeding a growing teenager, then right into college, then right into your retirement. Leaves you little time/flexibility to travel the world, or whatever.

I personally think age 30 (for the woman) is the perfect balance of all of the above. But everyone's different, every situation is different, so there's no right or wrong.

TMC and Matty give the view of the married couple without kids, but let me tell you that as someone who has young ones, don't be scared of it. It seems like a big scary thing that will totally change your life. But if you and your wife accidentally get pregnant, it will end up being the happiest thing. Fun does not end, the definition of fun simply changes. If you and your wife love each other and know how to live a fun life together, kids won't change that. Promise.

Now that I have kids, I don't find myself looking forward to my 50s when I can travel the world with my wife, I look forward to taking them to the beach and watching their eyes light up when they see the ocean.

Life's a fun ride, it's all good, don't fear any of it. You're a well-adjusted guy, you'll be happy with anything life throws your way.

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[quote=firstdown;706293]Yea, I tried to make my wife happy last night but she said she was too tired, and had a headach.[/quote]

First, you give me a headache and I'm not even married to you.

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[quote=12thman;706308]first, you give me a headache and i'm not even married to you.[/quote]


loool

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Schneed10 is most likely more correct. As you get older both your libido's slow down so your not as horny. I'll say I got married at around 28 had my first kid and second 2yrs later. Keep in mind after you have them you have to raise them for 18 yrs. You do the simple math and round up, If your 30 add 20 yrs to it and thats just your first kid. You'll basically be free again around 50 yrs old. If your closer to 40 then your stuck until 60. Average male lives to about 65 y/o. Average female 70.

All I'm saying is everyone I've met has the same story. Whether it's libido, or being too exhausted because of taking care of kids and working it's the same story. Obviously I don't know what I'm talking about. Your marriage is totally different. I hope you keep up the excitement. But for fun.... do your own survey. See what all the married people tell you about their marriages. ;) I even surveyed the ladies. Same issues. Except they said after being with kids all day changing diapers, feeding, and bathing they were too tired to do anything else. Then they said the male failed to romance them any more. It was all go to work, come home, help the kids with homework, eat dinner, get the kids to bath and bed and then pass out.

Maybe I'm totally wrong about your marriage. Good luck to you.

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By the way.... Homework. lol. It's supposed to be 15 min. a night. lol. It's more like 2-3 hours a night. God forbid they have a project. That's a parents nightmare. See projects are busy work for parents. The kids don't do it, you do. lol.

Just when you thought you could check school off you list of things to do then you have to do it all over again cause your kids don't understand the work the teacher gave them so you teach them the way you were taught only to find out they were learning another method and was not supposed to use your method. lol.

Anyway. I'm just having fun with you, I'm not trying to kill your excitement. lol.

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[quote=Schneed10;706303]Congrats Scud! So happy for you.

- Aruba was indeed awesome. I loved it, can't wait to go back.

- Sex with the same person over and over loses some of the excitement, no doubt. If you've been together seven years you probably experienced this in some form already. I'm your age, but from what I read as you age your hormones naturally change, so both of you will feel a decreased appetite at times in your life. But it's OK, it's not about quantity it's about quality. As long as it's good for both of you, you'll be enjoying life. Like anything else, you get back what you put into it (pun intended).

- The when to have kids matter is one that draws strongly varied opinions. [B]I had my first at 27 so I guess I'd consider that on the young side these days.[/B] There's no right or wrong[B].[/B] If you have them real early then maybe you're not mature enough to be a parent, maybe not financially secure enough, maybe you just have things you want to do first. Maybe you're not done growing up yourself and aren't fit to give somebody else guidance yet.

Then again though, if you have them too late, you risk birth defects (women over 35 have a much higher chance of having babies with Down Syndrome or Autism). You also wonder if you'll have the energy to keep up with an 8 year old when you're 45. And you burden yourself financially with consecutive huge bills in your 50's and 60's. First feeding a growing teenager, then right into college, then right into your retirement. Leaves you little time/flexibility to travel the world, or whatever.

I personally think age 30 (for the woman) is the perfect balance of all of the above. But everyone's different, every situation is different, so there's no right or wrong.

TMC and Matty give the view of the married couple without kids, but let me tell you that as someone who has young ones, don't be scared of it. It seems like a big scary thing that will totally change your life. But if you and your wife accidentally get pregnant, it will end up being the happiest thing. Fun does not end, the definition of fun simply changes. If you and your wife love each other and know how to live a fun life together, kids won't change that. Promise.

Now that I have kids, I don't find myself looking forward to my 50s when I can travel the world with my wife, I look forward to taking them to the beach and watching their eyes light up when they see the ocean.

Life's a fun ride, it's all good, don't fear any of it. You're a well-adjusted guy, you'll be happy with anything life throws your way.[/quote]

Boy I'd consider that wayyy on the old side where I live. Surveying all the chicks I've met in high school, through friends, and from all the places I've worked I'd say 80% of them have gotten pregnant or have had a kid by the time they turned 20. I wish I was lying with that figure but in the last 3 years it seems like the chicks I have hung out with have decreased steadily as more and more of them got pregnant and then had to start spending all their time supporting their baby. And the majority of these girls have had deadbeat baby daddies too.

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[quote=mooby;706360]Boy I'd consider that wayyy on the old side where I live. Surveying all the chicks I've met in high school, through friends, and from all the places I've worked I'd say 80% of them have gotten pregnant or have had a kid by the time they turned 20. I wish I was lying with that figure but in the last 3 years it seems like the chicks I have hung out with have decreased steadily as more and more of them got pregnant and then had to start spending all their time supporting their baby. And the majority of these girls have had deadbeat baby daddies too.[/quote]

Hmm, interesting. and I'm guessing they are still going on dates all the time and going at it like rabbits right?

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[quote=firstdown;706293]Yea, I tried to make my wife happy last night but she said she was too tired, and had a headach.[/quote]
And you fell for that ???? Next time she says "I have a headache " , take her over your knee and spank her ... she will quickly forget about that " headache ", and you should be good to go . Oh , don't bitch me out if you end up with a black eye :)

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[quote=mooby;706360]Boy I'd consider that wayyy on the old side where I live. Surveying all the chicks I've met in high school, through friends, and from all the places I've worked I'd say 80% of them have gotten pregnant or have had a kid by the time they turned 20. I wish I was lying with that figure but in the last 3 years it seems like the chicks I have hung out with have decreased steadily as more and more of them got pregnant and then had to start spending all their time supporting their baby. And the majority of these girls have had deadbeat baby daddies too.[/quote]

Yeah that's obviously way early. My first was an accident for us at age 27 (my wife is the same age as me). If all went according to our master plan, we'd be having our first right about now, when we're 30.

But it all worked out, I got far along enough in my career to allow my wife to stay home full time with the kids. I felt that was important, and boy does it make it easier to deal with the day-to-day stuff when somebody's at home to deal with it. All I do is cut the grass each week.

But yeah, you're talking like practically ruin your life type early. Having kids before you're done college means getting a job just to make ends meet and putting longer term goals on hold. That's sad.