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Vinyl siding? That stuff is super cheap to repair. Im no siding expert but Ive had my siding bulge out a few times, onetime the wind ripped a piece out. My experience, sometimes it can just be popped back in. One time, the guy had to cut it down a bit bc he said it was too big/wasnt cut right the first time.

im guessing he quoted you assuming his worker would take the siding down, inspect and maybe trim or have to buy and trim a new piece. But when the worker got there, he just popped it back in without checking to see what the actual problem was.

So no youre not the asshole imo, if they quoted you more than $100 and did the cheap fix and not actually repair it. You could have popped it back in yourself in 2 mins assuming it was somewhere accessible. Of course, itd probably pop right back out in a week or month.

Cold weather shrinks vinyl. I should check my siding.

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Vinyl siding is kind of a puzzle, sometimes it’s not as easy as popping a piece back in. Think of it as a game of Jenga.

Regardless you are right, we shall see if he comes back and does the fix. I am not chasing him down just won’t use him again or recommend.

Home repairs are the worst; just the whole process of trying to get them repaired and dealing with every sue dick and Harry, ugh.

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[quote=mredskins;1277506]Ok I have a decent AITAH:

Moved into a new to me house (17 year old) around Oct. Back of the house, a smaller bump out section, two sections of vinyl siding looked/were loose buckled out.

Call roof and siding guy. House needed gutters tighten up, shutters tighten up and the siding issue. Owner of company comes out show him the whole job quotes me XXX dollars of those XXX dollars i say he had the vinyl work listed at 75% of the cost; i am think oh that is a big part of this job.

Guy comes does the job and I notice super quick on the siding part of the job but it no longer looks loose in the two spots I pointed out. As a rule of thumb if you can do a job in half second and its done correctly and you charged me XXX so be it. A lot of folks are say the plumber was here for 10 seconds and fixed it but charged me XXX; I get it your a expert had to come out, etc... all that relates to dollars in your pocket. Again, if it takes you a second i don't care just do it right, actually i am more annoyed when they linger around for too long.

Fast forward to say December; notice on 20 mph plus days siding still shakes looks loose. Call up owner dude, he said no worries will revisit it.

Comes out today looks it over with expert siding guy; expert siding guy says large section needs to be removed and reattached. Owner guy gets a bit grumpy with me; i say i explained it all to you, you quoted me the price for the work and the invoice even shows the siding was the biggest part of the job.

Anywho, he says he will get it right but sure left at least in my mind that i some how tricked him or misinformed him.

I feel like i explained it all very clearly on the first quote; he is the expert i can only tell him what i saw and seen.

AITAH????[/quote]

Remember MRedskins, you're not an asshole if you believe you're not.

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Ha! Not sure how I lied to him but whatever.

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[quote=mredskins;1277535]Ha! Not sure how I lied to him but whatever.[/quote]

I wasn't calling you a liar, I should have clarified. I was just saying you're not an asshole if you don't believe it (jokingly) (I'm on your side on this one). Should have put a little disclaimer on my original message. Basically replace what the GIF says with being the asshole. I like Seinfeld too much, tried to squeeze it in there without it making complete sense.

I am the asshole for not explaining better what I was going for there. :embarrass:food-smil

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No worries sdskins !

I was more speaking to myself with the answer; I feel bad but I explained it to the best of my ability and he stood literally right next to me. He is a younger and I respect any small business owner trying to make it; that is a tough road.

I paid him a decent amount for all the work, to correct the siding it’s all labor maybe a few nails. Just felt bad for him.

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[quote=mredskins;1277541]No worries sdskins !

I was more speaking to myself with the answer; I feel bad but I explained it to the best of my ability and he stood literally right next to me. He is a younger and I respect any small business owner trying to make it; that is a tough road.

I paid him a decent amount for all the work, to correct the siding it’s all labor maybe a few nails. Just felt bad for him.[/quote]

Yeah I get it. Sometimes there is no bad guy in a situation. Just something that happens. Cost of doing business.

A lot of times how a business replies to an issue is more important than the original work, when it comes to using them again or recommending them.

Doesn't sound like there is much you could've done differently.

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All good points sds!

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This was a few weeks ago.

Friday night and we order a pick up pizza from Pizza Bolis. $15.99 for a large pepperoni, pick up in 20 mins. I get there maybe 30 mins later, pay for the pizza and the cashier goes in the back to check on it bc it wasnt up front.

Shes back there for a while. A line starts to form. Im standing to the side. She comes back out without my pizza and starts dealing with the line. One guy had been waiting over an hour, he was kinda pissed. Another guy had some type of issue.

The manager comes out and starts dealing with the customers.

The cashier lady starts to walk into the back and I remind her about my pizza. She comes out walking by me with another customers pizza and I had to get her attention and ask her if something is wrong with my order. She says they made it sausage instead of pepperoni.

Now Im a bit vexxed.

I tell her to just reverse the charge on my card. So the manager comes over and apologizes, nice as you could be, says ..

manager: "Im so sorry, I can have a large pepperoni to you in 5 mins."

me: "just give me my money back"

manager: "youre a loyal customer, please let me make this right. Ill get you a large pepperoni and put a free pizza on your account"

me: "just give me my money back"

manager: "Im so sorry, we have a new system (repeats his offer)"

me: "I just want my money back."

------------------------------

Felt like an asshole. I wasnt rude, didnt yell, just keep repeating "i want my money back". Honest mistake, you could see they were having ordering issues and I feel like the cashier lady taking the orders over the phone and working up front was really new.

Normally id just take the free pizza and call it a win. At that moment, i didnt want to seem like I was complaining to try and get free shit. I was little mad bc the cashier lady just ignored me and I had to remind her Ive been waiting for my pizza.

So my family had frozen cardboard pizza that night instead of a free pizza bc their dad was entrenched and couldnt take a breath and relax.

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[quote=SunnySide;1302714]This was a few weeks ago.

Friday night and we order a pick up pizza from Pizza Bolis. $15.99 for a large pepperoni, pick up in 20 mins. I get there maybe 30 mins later, pay for the pizza and the cashier goes in the back to check on it bc it wasnt up front.

Shes back there for a while. A line starts to form. Im standing to the side. She comes back out without my pizza and starts dealing with the line. One guy had been waiting over an hour, he was kinda pissed. Another guy had some type of issue.

The manager comes out and starts dealing with the customers.

The cashier lady starts to walk into the back and I remind her about my pizza. She comes out walking by me with another customers pizza and I had to get her attention and ask her if something is wrong with my order. She says they made it sausage instead of pepperoni.

Now Im a bit vexxed.

I tell her to just reverse the charge on my card. So the manager comes over and apologizes, nice as you could be, says ..

manager: "Im so sorry, I can have a large pepperoni to you in 5 mins."

me: "just give me my money back"

manager: "youre a loyal customer, please let me make this right. Ill get you a large pepperoni and put a free pizza on your account"

me: "just give me my money back"

manager: "Im so sorry, we have a new system (repeats his offer)"

me: "I just want my money back."

------------------------------

Felt like an asshole. I wasnt rude, didnt yell, just keep repeating "i want my money back". Honest mistake, you could see they were having ordering issues and I feel like the cashier lady taking the orders over the phone and working up front was really new.

Normally id just take the free pizza and call it a win. At that moment, i didnt want to seem like I was complaining to try and get free shit. I was little mad bc the cashier lady just ignored me and I had to remind her Ive been waiting for my pizza.

So my family had frozen cardboard pizza that night instead of a free pizza bc their dad was entrenched and couldnt take a breath and relax.[/quote]

No you're not the asshole. I had a very similar situation at a Ledo's and after ordering on line it was a thirty min wait and I was picking it up all ready charged to my card .SIL and I go in to pick this up and they say anoth 15 mins , 30 mins later I ask the manager he says a few more mins. To cut it short from start to finish it took two hours. Yes I was an ass when I left and I all so call the main office and filed a complant .

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Sunny your first mistake was ordering from Pizza Boli's.

Every Saturday at the dealership I used to work at they would feed us lunch because we were too busy to take lunch breaks. It was a steady rotation between sandwich shop, Popeyes, and Pizza Boli's. Initially I didn't mind it but it got to the point where eating Boli's would make me nauseous and start dry-heaving. Towards the end I used to start paying a porter to go pick me up lunch when they ordered Boli's.

Not sure if it was a food safety issue or what but I ain't ever going back there.

Also you're not the asshole - obviously they were having some sort of system error and I'm sure you weren't the only unhappy customer that night. I would've just taken the free pizza, but there's no guarantee they would've had the replacement ready in 5 minutes either.

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Pizza Bolis is straight shit ; they are pretty much all gone north of Bmore

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But ... there is an employment issue with min wage positions. Places like Bolis are hiring anyone and throwing them to the fire.

When covid first hit and we all scurried to our remote at home work .. it was the min wage grocery store cashiers and bolis cashiers who had to show up to work. This was back when we didnt know the extent or where covid was going to lead.

I tip sometimes 50% now, try an be overly understanding customer ... and I wasnt here.

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Pre COVID Pre 911 Pre WW2 Pre Ice Age....

One constant has always stood

[B]Pizza Boli's sucks!!!! [/B]

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I have a AITAH pizza story

I ordered a pie from a local place down the street from me. Go in say large cheese to go that is it. Literally less then 5 minutes later, I get a you are all set here is your pizza. Not thinking I was like thanks and headed straight home. Throw the pizza down and kids dive in. My son goes why is the cheese all hard all ready. I look at the pizza thing had to be a hour or longer old. I call the shop, old guy working there says I thought I give you a mistake we made and get you out the door faster. I cursed that dude out just out of hangry. Never gone back since.

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[quote=mredskins;1302825]I have a AITAH pizza story

I ordered a pie from a local place down the street from me. Go in say large cheese to go that is it. Literally less then 5 minutes later, I get a you are all set here is your pizza. Not thinking I was like thanks and headed straight home. Throw the pizza down and kids dive in. My son goes why is the cheese all hard all ready. I look at the pizza thing had to be a hour or longer old. I call the shop, old guy working there says I thought I give you a mistake we made and get you out the door faster. I cursed that dude out just out of hangry. Never gone back since.[/quote]

Lol, he was just covering his ass. Giving you an old ass pizza. The shop is 100% the asshole in that story.

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[quote=mredskins;1302825]I have a AITAH pizza story

I ordered a pie from a local place down the street from me. Go in say large cheese to go that is it. Literally less then 5 minutes later, I get a you are all set here is your pizza. Not thinking I was like thanks and headed straight home. Throw the pizza down and kids dive in. My son goes why is the cheese all hard all ready. I look at the pizza thing had to be a hour or longer old. I call the shop, old guy working there says I thought I give you a mistake we made and get you out the door faster. I cursed that dude out just out of hangry. Never gone back since.[/quote]

Wassamattawiyu? You putta da old za in da microwav, issagooasnew!

No mred, you are not the asshole here. Its da principle of da mattah.

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Just don't order from pizza by Alfredo, they are the worst, their pizza is a hot circle of garbage

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I went to GMU…Pizza Boli was the go to cheap pizza. 4.99 a large. I used to get their wings and loved them.

I also directed some pledges to wait in the handicap parking lot (where the delivery drivers would park) hide in the woods. The delivery drivers would come up and park leaving their cars going. When he would run in to deliver, I had them approach the car, open the unlocked door and lift other food orders waiting to be delivered.

These dubs were so big back then.

I’m the asshole…but full

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AITAH:

Wonderful youth sports.

Its hockey try out season (worst time of the year).

This past Monday and Tuesday was the u14 try outs. A top middle and bottom team was selected. The majority of the kids in our program have skated at this club for a number of years. I say this because the director and all the coaches know the majority of the kids very well, there are no parent coaches.

Rewind 2 weeks ago the director of the club calls me and ask if my son and another boy would like to come out for a private skate with some other boys looking to join our club to build a top team. At the 14u level we are very thin especially when it comes to top talent.

The new coach evaluates my son and the other boy over two private skates held in the weeks leading up to official try outs. They come back to me and say your son and the other boy are on the team but please keep this quiet as we are still evaluating others. I said sure fine, not a problem.

Of course during the whole process, parents are constantly asking do you know anything what is going on etc etc...rumor mill. I just stay quiet.

I say there were 4 other OG club members that had a potential to land on this team, the top coach saw them skate at 4 events pre skate 1 pre skate 2 try out 1 and try out 2, i recommend all 4 and said they had been loyal to the program and deserved a opportunity to play on the top team.

The new coach of the top team after try outs picked one of the 4.

Well one of the 4 that didn't make is a fairly close friend to me. He found out the team was being assembled prior to official try outs and that my son had already been chosen prior to try outs. Well all hell breaks out and he is so mad at me. I went back to him and said look they asked me not to say anything and even if i had told him it made no difference they had no interest in his son at that level. I endorsed his son numerous times through the process his son skated in front of the top coach 4 different sessions. His son has been in the program for 4 years, they know his kid very well he didn't make the cut.

So am I the asshole here? or is this guy just pissed off his kid is on a lower team and is scapegoating me for his angry.

I do agree with him it is shitty when they do backdoor try outs and stuff but i also realize in order for this club to have a top team it was going to need verbal commitments from outside top players in order to pull this off, those top kids could go anywhere and all clubs try out at the same time.

If i reverse the clock; me telling him does nothing to help his kid; if anything it probably pisses him off in that moment plus makes his kid feel bad he was not being chosen. I apologized to him and he just basically blew me off. Good grief Charlie Brown.

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[QUOTE=mredskins;1315014]AITAH:

Wonderful youth sports.

Its hockey try out season (worst time of the year).

This past Monday and Tuesday was the u14 try outs. A top middle and bottom team was selected. The majority of the kids in our program have skated at this club for a number of years. I say this because the director and all the coaches know the majority of the kids very well, there are no parent coaches.

Rewind 2 weeks ago the director of the club calls me and ask if my son and another boy would like to come out for a private skate with some other boys looking to join our club to build a top team. At the 14u level we are very thin especially when it comes to top talent.

The new coach evaluates my son and the other boy over two private skates held in the weeks leading up to official try outs. They come back to me and say your son and the other boy are on the team but please keep this quiet as we are still evaluating others. I said sure fine, not a problem.

Of course during the whole process, parents are constantly asking do you know anything what is going on etc etc...rumor mill. I just stay quiet.

I say there were 4 other OG club members that had a potential to land on this team, the top coach saw them skate at 4 events pre skate 1 pre skate 2 try out 1 and try out 2, i recommend all 4 and said they had been loyal to the program and deserved a opportunity to play on the top team.

The new coach of the top team after try outs picked one of the 4.

Well one of the 4 that didn't make is a fairly close friend to me. He found out the team was being assembled prior to official try outs and that my son had already been chosen prior to try outs. Well all hell breaks out and he is so mad at me. I went back to him and said look they asked me not to say anything and even if i had told him it made no difference they had no interest in his son at that level. I endorsed his son numerous times through the process his son skated in front of the top coach 4 different sessions. His son has been in the program for 4 years, they know his kid very well he didn't make the cut.

So am I the asshole here? or is this guy just pissed off his kid is on a lower team and is scapegoating me for his angry.

I do agree with him it is shitty when they do backdoor try outs and stuff but i also realize in order for this club to have a top team it was going to need verbal commitments from outside top players in order to pull this off, those top kids could go anywhere and all clubs try out at the same time.

If i reverse the clock; me telling him does nothing to help his kid; if anything it probably pisses him off in that moment plus makes his kid feel bad he was not being chosen. I apologized to him and he just basically blew me off. Good grief Charlie Brown.[/QUOTE]

Definitely not the asshole here. The club put you in a tough place. You're right, you telling him about your kid being given a pre-tryout spot would have no impact on his kid making it. Clearly, the coach thinks your son is better than him, so its not like you bumped him out of a spot. It was never his spot to begin with. Hopefully he gets over it.

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[quote=sdskinsfan2001;1315015]Definitely not the asshole here. The club put you in a tough place. You're right, you telling him about your kid being given a pre-tryout spot would have no impact on his kid making it. Clearly, the coach thinks your son is better than him, so its not like you bumped him out of a spot. It was never his spot to begin with. Hopefully he gets over it.[/quote]

Yeah, it sucks. he is a very nice and i value his friendship. next year this time they easily all could be on the same team again, it goes in cycles.

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[quote=mredskins;1315016]Yeah, it sucks. he is a very nice and i value his friendship. next year this time they easily all could be on the same team again, it goes in cycles.[/quote]

I would hope after a couple weeks he cools down and you can have a discussion about what happened.

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[quote=sdskinsfan2001;1315017]I would hope after a couple weeks he cools down and you can have a discussion about what happened.[/quote]

yeah i just left it with a apology and said if you like to talk be happy to do so

thanks for responding

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[quote=mredskins;1315019]yeah i just left it with a apology and said if you like to talk be happy to do so

thanks for responding[/quote]

[SIZE="5"]Youth Sports for Parents Sucks![/SIZE]


LOL, No , you're not the asshole here. First can I say I do not have a son and never played Hockey in my Life. I do however have three daughters who all played Soccer ,one at a pretty high level,she has 2 caps.(US Women's Indoor National team). Parents sometimes lack the objectivity in addressing their own children's ability. I say this not to be funny but in honesty, out of three girls one was very good ,one was decent , one was down right bad. It gave me perspective in what my kids wanted and they all did the same thing but wanted different things out of it. We, my Wife and I got the same treatment as you are now getting because we took our Daughter over to VA from Maryland to play. It was a move as parents we decided to do with her input because the situation(Coaching , teammates etc) was just better for our Daughter and that's what we had to live with ,didn't lose any sleep over it. I could go on but you get the drift,good luck!

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[quote=mredskins;1315014]AITAH:

Wonderful youth sports.

Its hockey try out season (worst time of the year).

This past Monday and Tuesday was the u14 try outs. A top middle and bottom team was selected. The majority of the kids in our program have skated at this club for a number of years. I say this because the director and all the coaches know the majority of the kids very well, there are no parent coaches.

Rewind 2 weeks ago the director of the club calls me and ask if my son and another boy would like to come out for a private skate with some other boys looking to join our club to build a top team. At the 14u level we are very thin especially when it comes to top talent.

The new coach evaluates my son and the other boy over two private skates held in the weeks leading up to official try outs. They come back to me and say your son and the other boy are on the team but please keep this quiet as we are still evaluating others. I said sure fine, not a problem.

Of course during the whole process, parents are constantly asking do you know anything what is going on etc etc...rumor mill. I just stay quiet.

I say there were 4 other OG club members that had a potential to land on this team, the top coach saw them skate at 4 events pre skate 1 pre skate 2 try out 1 and try out 2, i recommend all 4 and said they had been loyal to the program and deserved a opportunity to play on the top team.

The new coach of the top team after try outs picked one of the 4.

Well one of the 4 that didn't make is a fairly close friend to me. He found out the team was being assembled prior to official try outs and that my son had already been chosen prior to try outs. Well all hell breaks out and he is so mad at me. I went back to him and said look they asked me not to say anything and even if i had told him it made no difference they had no interest in his son at that level. I endorsed his son numerous times through the process his son skated in front of the top coach 4 different sessions. His son has been in the program for 4 years, they know his kid very well he didn't make the cut.

So am I the asshole here? or is this guy just pissed off his kid is on a lower team and is scapegoating me for his angry.

I do agree with him it is shitty when they do backdoor try outs and stuff but i also realize in order for this club to have a top team it was going to need verbal commitments from outside top players in order to pull this off, those top kids could go anywhere and all clubs try out at the same time.

If i reverse the clock; me telling him does nothing to help his kid; if anything it probably pisses him off in that moment plus makes his kid feel bad he was not being chosen. I apologized to him and he just basically blew me off. Good grief Charlie Brown.[/quote]


No your son’s club are the assholes for putting kids through fake tryouts.

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[quote=Giantone;1315025][SIZE="5"]Youth Sports for Parents Sucks![/SIZE]


LOL, No , you're not the asshole here. First can I say I do not have a son and never played Hockey in my Life. I do however have three daughters who all played Soccer ,one at a pretty high level,she has 2 caps.(US Women's Indoor National team). Parents sometimes lack the objectivity in addressing their own children's ability. I say this not to be funny but in honesty, out of three girls one was very good ,one was decent , one was down right bad. It gave me perspective in what my kids wanted and they all did the same thing but wanted different things out of it. We, my Wife and I got the same treatment as you are now getting because we took our Daughter over to VA from Maryland to play. It was a move as parents we decided to do with her input because the situation(Coaching , teammates etc) was just better for our Daughter and that's what we had to live with ,didn't lose any sleep over it. I could go on but you get the drift,good luck![/quote]

Yeah it does suck, my son and daughter have both been on the short side of the stick. I have learned lets get over the drama of not making the team hoped for and focus on the team we made and how to get better. Thebest rule you can teach yourself and your children is its not fair, rarely is life fair.

Also and you touched on it your child and yourself need to embrace both their strengths and weakness, if you are solid A player go play A and enjoy the sport.

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Not the asshole to the other dad or his kid. As a kid who grew up playing youth hockey .. so many try outs, levels and politics. Me and 2 friends used the "carpool" excuse to go up together through the years.

Slight breach of protocol to tell the other dad what the Director told you in confidence to not tell anyone else.


edit -- my funnest years were when I was one of the best players in a lower level, skating around kids who just started, scoring hatties. Next year moved to upper house hockey and I was the newbie with guys skating circles around me, moved from wing to 3rd D pairing and saw little ice time. That was a shitty year.

Kid and his dad will have fun in the B league.

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A while ago I pretended to take cell phone photos of my lady when she was changing her bra with her boobies out .. and I figured shed get pretend offended, wed laugh and Id erase them.

But she didnt notice.

I kept the photos.

And now I take photos and video of her from time to time when her boobies are out .. and she doesnt notice. I email them to me then delete the photos off my phone.

I dont know what to do at this point.

Either:

1. delete the emails and stop

or

2. graduate to secretly video recording us having sex

I feel really weird abut this .. leaning towards deleting them, not like I ever go and look at them. More or less just fun to try and do it and not get detected

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[quote=SunnySide;1327294]A while ago I pretended to take cell phone photos of my lady when she was changing her bra with her boobies out .. and I figured shed get pretend offended, wed laugh and Id erase them.

But she didnt notice.

I kept the photos.

And now I take photos and video of her from time to time when her boobies are out .. and she doesnt notice. I email them to me then delete the photos off my phone.

I dont know what to do at this point.

Either:

1. delete the emails and stop

or

2. graduate to secretly video recording us having sex

I feel really weird abut this .. leaning towards deleting them, not like I ever go and look at them. More or less just fun to try and do it and not get detected[/quote]

Option 1, definitely option 1!!

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[QUOTE=sdskinsfan2001;1327298]Option 1, definitely option 1!![/QUOTE]


Definitely this if you want to have the actual boobies around longer than the photos of the boobies.

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My roommate is my ex-girlfriend. We broke up well before I moved out here. But we remained good friends. So when I moved out here, she decided to move with me. But I told her I was getting my own place after our 1st lease at our apartment is up. Fast forward a year later...

I now own my condo. She was talking about buying her own place too. But then she decided she wanted to rent again. And she found a place literally in the exact same complex as mine. It's mix unit, has condos, apartments, and townhomes all within the same area. She was going to rent an apartment that was in the building directly adjacent to my condo. Like we would be able easily see the other person's home. I told her I did not want her to live there. I plan on starting to date again and want to eventually get married. It would in my opinion just be super awkward to have my ex-girlfriend living right next to me. Also, this will be my 1st time ever living on my own, having her right behind me, will almost be like we're still roommates. I want to experience this. I've always had to have roommates before. AITAH for saying that?

Now she's all pissed off at me and not speaking w/ me. Hopefully it's something she eventually gets over, as I still want us to be friends. And she doesn't know anyone else out here.

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I'd like to thank everyone here for the help!

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[quote=sdskinsfan2001;1338143]I'd like to thank everyone here for the help![/quote]

I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole

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[quote=mredskins;1338146]I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole[/quote]

Lol. I like it. So what I'm picking up is, I'm not an asshole! You should have posted that shit the 1st time.

Being a fucking idiot or asshole:

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[quote=mredskins;1338146]I wrote up something then didn’t posted it. I said to myself if you’re stupid enough to move across the country with an ex then be their roommate you’re just a fucking idiot not a asshole[/quote]

lol.................

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[quote=sdskinsfan2001;1338143]I'd like to thank everyone here for the help![/quote]

Sorry brother man ... didnt see this. I think this would fall under "need more info" for me.

Confused on why shed move across country if shes not in love with you.

Does she want to date you but you dont? Is she a leecher and youre her support system?

I think perhaps this recent "snap" was a result of you not setting clear firm boundries a year ago by letting her follow you .. perhaps moving cross country was a way of implying you want to live a free life without being direct with her.

You may have overreeacted here bc you under reacted in the past.

its a progressive build up of frustration.

I blame you 60% bc you passively acquiesced to the "break point" situation a year ago when that was the time to be direct and clear.

Sometimes you gotta break some eggs to make an omelette.

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Dont let another person passively steal years of your life.

SD youre in your prime my man

Go balls deep, find your love.

Hes out there somewhere, just waiting for you.

edit -- a thought out letter may help, writing you gt to think about and edit your words so your message may be more refined. if she was a good friend, you owe her an eloquent thoughtful explanation imo.

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Okay so my son has a robotics competition today. One of the teammates is ill today and can't make it, it is a team of 5 boys. His mom sends a message to all the parents from her son about the teams roles today that she says is from her son. The text has roles for 3 of the boys and excludes my son from the message.

I called her out on it and we ended up having a long phone conversation about the concept of a team. She sees nothing wrong with her text and her son wasn't trying to exclude my son. I explained excluding one member of the team is a problem regardless of whether it was intentional or not and it is her responsibility to proof the text if you are going to let someone else send a message from your phone to ensure the message is proper.

She told me my actions made her feel vilified in front of the other parents in the group text. AITAH?

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[quote=BaltimoreSkins;1338519]Okay so my son has a robotics competition today. One of the teammates is ill today and can't make it, it is a team of 5 boys. His mom sends a message to all the parents from her son about the teams roles today that she says is from her son. The text has roles for 3 of the boys and excludes my son from the message.

I called her out on it and we ended up having a long phone conversation about the concept of a team. She sees nothing wrong with her text and her son wasn't trying to exclude my son. I explained excluding one member of the team is a problem regardless of whether it was intentional or not and it is her responsibility to proof the text if you are going to let someone else send a message from your phone to ensure the message is proper.

She told me my actions made her feel vilified in front of the other parents in the group text. AITAH?[/quote]



Not the A hole but I might have gone about it differently. I would have texted back on the original something like your son, "will take the sick boys place today as Captain like we agreed" or something like that. Then she either backs down or calls you.