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The worst year of my life. In the first five months, five different relatives died. One each month, some unexpectedly others after long painful battles. Then things calmed down over the summer. The fall began with the wonderful news that me wife and I were expecting our first child this spring. Not only that but five other cousins were too all around the same time.

But now as the year ends with just a few months to go until my son is born we're told the baby has basically no chance at survival. So we have the option of ending it now or letting him die on his own, probably over the next few weeks. I cant even begin to describe how horrible this feeling is. For my wife to still feel him kicking, for us to see ultrasounds of him only to know we may never get to hold him. All my wife keeps telling me is "I just want to hold him in my arms, even if just for one minute before he goes" I'm getting teary eyed just writing this, so F...2010

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man... so sorry to hear this news, I can't imagine

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praying for you man. I hope you all get to hold and love him for even that one minute. The pain will be awful for you but the love you will hold in your hearts will be worth it.

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deep sadness for you and those close to you SS. It's a devastating thing to go through, for you and your wife. Hold close to each other, and remember the love that conceived your little one is very real. Hold tight to it, and know that many many people are sharing and supporting you. Just hold on sir, hard as it is.

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I'm so sorry to hear that SS. Deepest sympathies for you and your family at this time

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So sorry to hear this. There is nothing said that can make sense of how or why this happens.

If you don't mind me asking what are they seeing that leads them to believe he has no chance of survival?

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That freaking sucks SS, I got teary eyed reading that man, praying for you man.

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For lack of better terms that's ****ed up. I think the important part is how will the baby feel.. will it be suffering waiting to be born or is it just not expected to last past that point if it makes it? While you always want the miracle finish you do have to wonder about that.

Best wishes with everything man, try to stay strong for your wife; I can't even imagine having a year like that.

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SS I am so sorry. I don't even know what to type. =(


For what is worth you seem like a great person that cares genuinely for others; even in this internet blog world where it is easy for people to put on their "ugly face" you always seem to be fair with everyone on here and care about them.

So I got believe god has better plans for you in the future.

Stay strong!

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So sorry to hear, thoughts and prayers

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This news is disheartning to hear. I truly feel bad for you. I really hope that your child defies the odds and makes it through.

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SS we will definitely be thinking of you this season man.

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That is really heartbreaking Smoot,when you mentioned about your baby in another thread I was sure hoping for a better outcome,i thought your luck had to change.

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SS, I'm very sorry to hear about your child. My thoughts and prayers go to your and your wife. As mredskins said, stay strong.

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SS, my friend. I am so sad to hear this news. My heart goes out to you and your wife.

I hope you can take solace in the fact that you still have each other, and still have plenty of time in life to try for another child. That's probably no consolation right now, but try to stay positive.

All the best to you both this Christmas.

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I am so sorry to hear this, SS. I've never met you but from your posts here, you always seemed to be a good person. I don't know why your family has suffered like it has this year, but know that there people who are praying for you and will see you through this. We're all just a PM or an Email away if you need to talk.

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Wow, SS I'm so sorry you're going through all this. This is probably the toughest time in your life but try to keep your head up. You're definitely in all of our thoughts and prayers.

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Sad to hear the news. Stay strong for your wife she will need you and you will need her to get through these trying times.

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Sorry to hear about your loss and the baby. I hope 2011 turns out to be a more blessed year.

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I, like the rest am deeply disturbed to hear about the troubles of you and your wife. Indeed, life hands us things that are impossible to understand at the time....maybe never.
You and your wife will live your grief....and cry your tears. Eventually, you'll put one foot in front of the other and move forward as what other good choice do you have.
These tragedies will take their proper place in your hearts.
Not today, or maybe tomorrow..........but the sun will shine again.
Take care SS
My prayers are with you and your family.

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Things will be better in 2011. For you, certainly. Hopefully for the Redskins as well.

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SS, I am so sorry to hear this incredibly sad news. My prayers are with you and your family.

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Damn SS I'm really sorry about those news. Stay strong man, things always look darkest before the dawn. I'm sure you and your wife have the strength to pull through this. You'll def. be in my thoughts this holiday season, I don't want to imagine what you are going through but I do know you and your wife will be better from it at the end.

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My condolences, SmootSmack. Every moment with your child is precious.

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wow, haven't been on the board much over the holidays, not many words man, just sorry to hear. this year has been awful and great for me at the same time it was a hard year to handle from start to finish, i can not wait until it is over. i hope eveyrthing works out for you and yours. heres to 2011.

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Damn man, I'm sorry to hear about that Smoot. I know you were looking forward to the new addition. A friend of mine lost his daughter to a house fire in Baltimore about 2 weeks ago and I truly envy his strength because I don't know if I have that much in me. I'm sure you will show the same type for your wife.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

Keep your head up and stay as positive as you can !

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Wow. Such sad news SS. My sister in law had a similar situation. She has 4 kids today, but I imagine going through this gives one deeper perspective on life. I echo the sentiment to be strong for your wife, and keep hope that better days are ahead for you in 2011 and beyond.

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I'm sorry to hear about this SS. As you know, my wife and I were also expecting, similar timeframe to you... unfortunately, we lost the pregnancy, though earlier on. Wish you the best and am quite sure you will be the strength that your wife needs. Best wishes.

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I just saw this today after talking with Dasel...but I'm really sorry man. I cant even imagine the feeling

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SS , Im very sorry to hear that . i have not been on the site too much the last few months . You always came accross to me as one heck of a young man , so I really hope for the best for you and your family , again Im very sorry for your losses , god bless you and your family from here on .