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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection
For people who agree (like SS) you know how hard it is to be the asshole. For me, I'd much rather take the hit and please people I'm in the middle of (mostly family and wife).
Right now, I'm in a tough spot with the wife and my dad. Basically, this year was the first year we've been married and my dad forgot her birthday (let me remind you we've been together nearly ten years) and she was really hurt.
In my life I can't remember one time I've called my dad out, so basically rather than that, I'd rather just suffer and let there be weirdness between my wife and my dad. Am I wrong in thinking that if she has a problem SHE should be the one to address it and not me or is that part of my husbandly duties?
Sure I can see her point, and he should have at least called her or something, but when she gets mad at people she basically cuts them off and thanks to that I've almost estranged a couple of formerly close family members.
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Your dad forgot her birthday and she is upset. I'm lucky and some how someone or something reminds me of my wife's birthday or it could go by and I would have no clue. If your father is single he is just doing what most guys do, forget. I think if you asked my father when my wifes birthday, his grand kids etc... he might remember one of the 4. If your father is single and her parents are married then remind her that her father has her mother to remember all those dates. I know thats how it works for me, my father, Father-in-law and my brother-in-law's. If we were not married we would miss 90% of them.