[Schneed10]

But to more directly address Saden's questions:

To propose, I took her to her old house, the one she grew up in, at which she and I spent so much time together. We started dating when we were 19 and we both still lived at home. It was a place that was meaningful to us. I liked that better than going someplace cliche and romantic, like Paris or something, which definitely doesn't fit my style. I didn't do anything special, just got down on one knee and asked her. Where and how you do it is all about your own personal style, whatever fits with your personality.

As for why I proposed:

- She was crazy hot and good in bed.

- She had become my best friend, which is important because when all the head-over-heels-in-love feelings give way to the routine of daily life, friendship needs to be the foundation of a good marriage.

- She was thrifty with money like me, and had similar expectations for spending time with extended family. Those are important, those two issues cause a whole lot of divorces.

- And she was crazy hot and good in bed.

As for adjustments, none relating to seeing family or spending/saving money. I've had to be cleaner around the house, not a real big deal. She likes to know where I am at nearly all times, but that's not a problem for me, my life is pretty regimented and I like it that way. Overall we're a pretty good fit.

On kids, kids change things because they require so much work. We have similar family values so we agree on how to raise the kids. But it's the division of responsibility that takes effort. If someone is going to give the kids the bath, feed them, and change the diapers, somebody else has to come up with dinner at night and do the dishes.

If your wife will be a stay at home mom then division of responsibility gets easier, but still takes coordination and open communication.