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Originally Posted by mredskins
GM hanging in there man! Every marriage in this world is different but one thing is consent is it takes work kids or no kids. I have been married 3 years; has very day been paradise, hell no but there has been more great days then bad days.
Listen to the song Love like Crazy
YouTube - Lee Brice- Love Like Crazy
So you don't end up like this country song:
YouTube - Highway 20 Ride
Sometimes life is like a country song!=)
Marriage and family is awesome but it takes work, hard work. I can remember my son was on his third night of being sick and we were up with him all night every night he was 16 months old and he looked at me at 3am or some ungodly hour and just gave me a huge unsolicited hug; number one highlight of my life right there.
If you only got married to get laid, probably doomed to fail. |
That's pretty awesome stuff. I got married for many reasons. The top ones include: She's the best friend I've ever had, I love her more now than I ever have (known her for 8 years, together for 7), and I want to build a family with her, and we challenge each other and bring out the best in one another. We are a great team in many aspects. Kick ass "relations" doesn't hurt either.
I know things change in life, but there is no doubt in my mind that I can happily spend the rest of my days with her.
All that said, I totally understand how much work relationships are. They're a living thing, and just like any living thing, they will die without care, attention, and nuturing. If marriage was so easy, everyone would do it, and do it successfully.
My eyes are wide open, trust me. She and I actually almost broke up about 3 years ago. We had just moved back up here from Gainesville, and we were both in very tough situations on the job front. We didn't have a very good living situation, money was really tight, and we weren't seeing each other much because of conflicting schedules. We were like two ships passing at night for the better part of 6 months. I felt us growing apart, and we had so much outside stress, when we were together we were fighting a lot. We nearly called it quits, but instead we rededicated ourselves to each other. It took some time, but things got better and better, and the flame was re-light so to speak. We both learned a lot from those tough times. We're better for it today, and it's definitely a positive to have persevered through that kind of adversity prior to a marriage. It was like training in a way I guess.
I like that song Love Like Crazy. Coincidentally, our first dance at our wedding was Crazy Love by Van Morrison.