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CRedskinsRule · 08-12-2010, 03:09 PM

Voicing that you knew this was coming is sort of a self fulfilling prophecy. If you are consistently talking to her, or yourself about how you know that sex will come to an end, you may have created an atmosphere that suffocates sex.

When I ended my marriage we hadn't had sex in over a year. I wasn't talking about how happy we were together, I was calling her many many variations of life sucking b****. You seem to me a far cry away from that point, so talk to her, find out what is wrong. Hold her, tell her how you feel, and most importantly let her know that it's the intimacy, not the act that you are missing (assuming that is true).

I wouldn't rule out pregnancy as you did, she may be in the first trimester and just was starting to feel outta sorts before the Florida trip and now is full blown hormonal. I knew my ex was pregnant each time because she looked me in the eyes and said she wanted a divorce. By the time our last little one was coming I just looked at her and said "your pregnant". (as a note, that happened the first time we had sex after my second was born and the vasectomy was scheduled shortly after that!!!)

Anyhoo, talk, discuss, listen to her body language and her words.

08-12-2010, 03:09 PM	#11
CRedskinsRule Living Legend Join Date: Aug 2008 Age: 59 Posts: 21,744	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Voicing that you knew this was coming is sort of a self fulfilling prophecy. If you are consistently talking to her, or yourself about how you know that sex will come to an end, you may have created an atmosphere that suffocates sex. When I ended my marriage we hadn't had sex in over a year. I wasn't talking about how happy we were together, I was calling her many many variations of life sucking b****. You seem to me a far cry away from that point, so talk to her, find out what is wrong. Hold her, tell her how you feel, and most importantly let her know that it's the intimacy, not the act that you are missing (assuming that is true). I wouldn't rule out pregnancy as you did, she may be in the first trimester and just was starting to feel outta sorts before the Florida trip and now is full blown hormonal. I knew my ex was pregnant each time because she looked me in the eyes and said she wanted a divorce. By the time our last little one was coming I just looked at her and said "your pregnant". (as a note, that happened the first time we had sex after my second was born and the vasectomy was scheduled shortly after that!!!) Anyhoo, talk, discuss, listen to her body language and her words.