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I, like the rest am deeply disturbed to hear about the troubles of you and your wife. Indeed, life hands us things that are impossible to understand at the time....maybe never.
You and your wife will live your grief....and cry your tears. Eventually, you'll put one foot in front of the other and move forward as what other good choice do you have.
These tragedies will take their proper place in your hearts.
Not today, or maybe tomorrow..........but the sun will shine again.
Take care SS
My prayers are with you and your family.