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Old 10-27-2011, 07:30 PM   #114
DynamiteRave
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Re: What would you do if this was your son?

I think gender is a social construct and I personally can't stand the gender binary.

That said, I think its a shame this kid can't join the girl scouts, but I understand why. Its tradition and I don't think anyone should break that for anyone.

I think the kid should be free to do what HE wants. I didn't read the link or much about the story just due to the hateful drivel most people spew in the comments section but if its the mother pushing this on her son then I don't even understand how the lady still HAS the kid. CPS anyone?

If it's the boy's wishes that he could join the girl scouts (without any of the mothers influence/pressuring him to act feminine), I think you just have to sit him aside and explain that sometimes the world is operated in a way that there are some things only girls can do and some things only boys can do and this is one of them. Basically the "sometimes life's not fair" kind of talk.

This reminds me of the family that was in the news not too long ago, who wouldn't tell anyone if their kid was a boy or a girl and wanted the kid to come to that conclusion himself (it was obviously a boy). I get what the parents are trying to do, but I mean you HAVE to give the kid some sort of structure. If its a boy you need to let your kid know he's a boy and if he decides as he gets older that he wants to gender bend or do whatever he wants with his gender fine. But it's almost cruel and definitely destructive to not give your kid any sort of jumping off point in terms of self-identity.
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