[skinsguy]

Well, to give a quick word of advice. Always take a good amount of time between relationships for yourself. You'll know how long you'll need. Take advantage of that time you're single to work on things about yourself that either need to be changed or improved. Think of it as giving yourself and your life a good "tune up" so that you'll be at your best when a new person comes along. You want to be able to devote your all to that new relationship, not have nagging "issues" from a prior. Even if you feel you're ready to move on, if there are any sort of lingering thoughts or feelings for a prior ex, you're probably not honestly ready to move on. Its normal to still have sexual desires for the ex, but if you still have them lingering on, you're going to eventually act upon them.

The hardest thing with allowing yourself time to get away from dating is the sex part. Most people place sex at such an important part of their life that they're not strong enough or willing to give up sex long enough to allow them time to focus on themselves. It's sad but true. I was able to do and I'm glad I did abstain. Was it difficult? Sure it was. And the funny thing is that my current fiancee' is saving herself for marriage, lol! So, I had to abstain even after finding a new person. But, I have no regrets from that at all.

The biggest point is to give yourself a chance to relax and reboot, even if it makes your look "weak" to your ex. You'll be glad you did so.