advice needed...

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by mredskins

S10 stop blowing the train horn, you going to screw up this train wreck.

If you went through all of Jsarno's 8k+ post you would find many stories about him and/or his life that simpley just don't add up. I think he is a lair and/or a drunk. He has been a know it all a$$ on this site for a long time and this story is just the icing on the cake.

My only prayers are for the childern in this story. Otherwise I belive Julia and Jsarno are just a bunch of snakes in the grass destorying god's work. What complete shelfness on both their parts. Some people are so quick to forget their vows to the lord just because they get a ach in their groin. Did you ever thing of marriage consuling or going to your preist for help?

As for Jsarno you get what you deserve and in a year or so you will look back and see the incrediable mistake you have made, it could not happen to a nicer guy, really.

Sorry for being a d*ck but this story really rubbed me the wrong way and I believe a lot of America's problems today are due to the high divorce rate i nthis country. Also, sorry for the grammer I am in a rush to get to a meeting this morning, no time to proof.

Wow, I think the title of this thread was "advice needed" not "be judgemental of my situation and character without even meeting me and be a namecalling idealist simultaneously."

Some things are better left not said. That was an opinion you probably should have kept to yourself, IMO.

[MTK]

Originally Posted by Slingin Sammy 33

It's not the firefighter and police officer from the Village People is it (not that there's anything wrong with that)?

Just thought I'd lighten the mood a bit.

lol that would make sense, check out this recent pic of jsarno:

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by jsarno

In terms of being a know it all a$$, maybe you're right. I apologize. My intent is obviously to never be an a$$, or to come across as a know it all. I know I can say things in a very matter of fact way and I rub people the wrong way.



I wasn't going to comment, but I felt compelled. Yes, I know in God's eye I am doing something wrong. I can only hope for forgiveness.
I do find it ironic that you are pointing out what God wants but are calling me an a$$ and I will get what I deserve. But hey, I understand you don't like me for reasons already stated. I haven't posted here in a long while, I hope you find my future posts less intrusive, and I will make more of an attempt to be patient and less of an a$$.

This is classic jsanro.

Now if you go back to the 8k+ post that he has and droped them into excel and data sorted them according to time. You would find that between 11pm and 6am he is a know it all a$$ but then if you looked at the postings between 8am and say 8pm you will get the "I am so sorry Jsarno". I think someone likes to drink then come on here with their beer muscles and talk crap at night.

Shockingly this thread started at 2 in the morning. Not saying you are talking crap in this thread but some of your best stories are webbed together in the early morning hours with a bottle of your favorite posion.

And yes we are all sinners and I sinned by judging you. I will ask for forgivness at church this Sunday.

[Slingin Sammy 33]

Originally Posted by Mattyk72

lol that would make sense, check out this recent pic of jsarno:

Can't get to the pic?

[SmootSmack]

jsarno, just wondering about this

http://www.thewarpath.net/526429-post41.html

I'm curious to know (not so much the part about jamf , )

[firstdown]

If her husband is violent why not just get proof and it would make things that much easier but I also believe that this is what she is telling you. I'm sorry but this whole thing does not really add up. You replied to SS that you have visted a few time and allready the kids cry when you leave after just a few times of meeting you? You also said her current husband does not find this strange and with a violent past this seems very odd that he does not get ticked over you visting with her. If she told him she was leaving and then you start showing up how can he not put two and two together?

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by firstdown

If her husband is violent why not just get proof and it would make things that much easier but I also believe that this is what she is telling you. I'm sorry but this whole thing does not really add up. You replied to SS that you have visted a few time and allready the kids cry when you leave after just a few times of meeting you? You also said her current husband does not find this strange and with a violent past this seems very odd that he does not get ticked over you visting with her. If she told him she was leaving and then you start showing up how can he not put two and two together?

Story=Swiss Cheese

Many holes my friend, many holes.

[Schneed10]

I also feel like I need to state what seems to me as somewhat obvious:

If Julia tried to divorce her husband 3-4 weeks ago, and he got violent with her, isn't it somewhat convenient that she is now calling you up out of the blue after 12 years?

Did it ever occur to you that she's running to you because she needs security, or financial support, or she's simply on an emotional rebound, or all of the above?

It sure feels like you're being used.

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I also feel like I need to state what seems to me as somewhat obvious:

If Julia tried to divorce her husband 3-4 weeks ago, and he got violent with her, isn't it somewhat convenient that she is now calling you up out of the blue after 12 years?

Did it ever occur to you that she's running to you because she needs security, or financial support, or she's simply on an emotional rebound, or all of the above?

It sure feels like you're being used.

Nail on the head.

[firstdown]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I also feel like I need to state what seems to me as somewhat obvious:

If Julia tried to divorce her husband 3-4 weeks ago, and he got violent with her, isn't it somewhat convenient that she is now calling you up out of the blue after 12 years?

Did it ever occur to you that she's running to you because she needs security, or financial support, or she's simply on an emotional rebound, or all of the above?

It sure feels like you're being used.

Now that you mentioned that he did say he talked to her right before he got married and left it up to her but she did not stop him.

[SmootSmack]

Sweet revenge for jsarno cheating on her and leaving her at the alter over a decade ago.

But seriously, that's kind of why I'm trying to figure out how and when the kids became so lovey-dovey with you if all this is rather recent.

Just saying, be careful jsarno. Don't rush into something that you could regret.

Another question for you, all this time you were "going through the motions" with your wife (now ex), you never strayed? Were you spending the last decade or whatever holding out hope you and Julia would be back together one day?

[over the mountain]

i read the first page and the last, sorry if i speak out of turn or cover old ground.

1) most family law attorneys will tell you from the get go: "the only person who wins in divorce proceedings are the attorneys". ive clerked for judges and seen 10 plus year old divorce cases repeatedly come back into court for one thing or another, especially around the holidays with kids involved.

2) apply at the san diego post office, they are always hiring b/c not too many san diegans can pass the drug screening b/c most people out there are potheads!! 55k/yr plus 2 weeks paid vacation, gov't pension (maybe). my friend was a mail carrier, he would wake up around 6ish, pick up his mail, walk around in sunny san diego in his shorts listening to his ipod delivering mail, then be off by 3-4 o'clock. i honestly am thinking of abandoning my law career in maryland and returing to san diego to apply as a mail carrier.

3) either live in North Park or one of those areas where the rent is lower/reasonable b/c all the surfer trust fund kids think it is ghetto. its really not, it is quite nice if youve lived on the east coast and experienced the real ghettos. i compare it to silver spring. the occassional gun shots or police heli flying low announcing they are looking for an armed robber on your street is about the only embarrasing thing that can happen if you have guests over. and it is embarrassing.

4) there are so many apartment/comdo complexs in SD that there are always a ton of part time employment positions as an apartment manager. you get free or greatly reduced rent and still have your days to work a regular job, you just have to collect rent and interact with the maintenance poeple.

5) trust your emotions and feelings. once you start suspecting things from your girl (and vice versa i assume) it is hard to quiet those doubts. i am in a kinda similar situation as well where i question whether my current girl is with me for me or the idea of me. i decided im not gonna dwell on some negative with no proof, rather enjoy the moments together and if it aint meant to be then it will end eventually.

[saden1]

You guys are awful, this isn't f'ing Jerry Springer. Don't let these guys poison you against the woman you love jsarno. If she is using you so be it, you'll at least have her to thank for getting you out of a marriage you didn't want to be in.

Best of luck and assume her intentions are good.

[Schneed10]

Originally Posted by saden1

You guys are awful, this isn't f'ing Jerry Springer. Don't let these guys poison you against the woman you love jsarno. If she is using you so be it, you'll at least have her to thank for getting you out of a marriage you didn't want to be in.

Best of luck and assume her intentions are good.

Famous last words. This thread is for advice, and every person is calling it like they see it. He can take it for what it's worth.

[12thMan]

You boys are tough. But I would like to open this thread back up around Oct or Nov of this year.