advice needed...

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by SmootSmack

At least now you finally get to move out of Albuquerque

Seriously though, I do have a question. Are you hoping to have kids with Julia or just take her kids as your own? And if it's the former have you told her this and is this what she wants to?

And why didn't the two of you get married the first time around?

I actually WISH I lived in Albuquerque...I live in Carlsbad, NM...which is like the arm pit of New Mexico. Funny, I may be moving from Carlsbad, NM to Carlsbad, CA. haha

About the kids, yes to both. She wants to have a kid with me, and of course, I want a kid of my own. I am also planning to take her kids as my own. They just had birthdays within the past 3 weeks. One is 4, the other is 2. Both kids ADORE me. Their father spends NO time with them, and I take them to parks, and to the beach etc...they cry when I leave, and they hug me and tell me they love me. Having them get on board, is not a problem at all.

OK, we didn't get married the first time around cause she moved to North Carolina with her parents (and I lived in Boston), and I cheated on her. The ONE time in my life I cheated and it haunted me for 14 freakin years. I was dumb, or honest, depending on your perspective, and I told her I did it. Of course she took it hard, and then her parents got in way and friends got in the way...really a long story. Both of us never stopped loving each other.