Adoption.

[Citizens for 81]

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but if your planning on adopting from China, you might want to do it sooner rather than later.

China Tightens Adoption Rules for Foreigners - New York Times

Apparently the Chinese have something against fat, ugly, and single people.

I wonder what country this law is aimed at?

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by Citizens for 81

I don't mean to make light of the situation, but if your planning on adopting from China, you might want to do it sooner rather than later.

China Tightens Adoption Rules for Foreigners - New York Times

Apparently the Chinese have something against fat, ugly, and single people.

I wonder what country this law is aimed at?

That's interesting!
I don't have any interest in adopting any child that looks drastically different than I do. I just don't want to go through the slew of problems that would bring. Like if the child gets picked on, then of course I have no background to make him feel better...I feel it might alienate the child. But if I got a European child, especially an Italian child, I'd be able to have no problems overcoming the child's adversity.

[onlydarksets]

Originally Posted by jsarno

We've actually considered adoption a little Italian boy, but never looked into it. My wife is a mutt in terms of gene pool, I am 75% italian, as evident by my last name.
Is it easier to adopt overseas?

It's more certain, in that pretty much anyone can get a kid within a year. However, I believe it is more expensive (I'm not 100% certain on that), and, depending on the country, you could run a higher risk of adopting a child with mental or physical disabilities. However, there are steps you can take to minimize the likelihood of that (or increase the likelihood, since many people seek out children with difficulties).

[djnemo65]

Adopting girls from Asian countries, particularily China and Korea, is both a very easy and very noble thing, since many of these kids will grow up in an orphanage and end up as either sweatshop workers or trafficked sex slaves. Good for you that you are looking into this.....

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by djnemo65

Adopting girls from Asian countries, particularily China and Korea, is both a very easy and very noble thing, since many of these kids will grow up in an orphanage and end up as either sweatshop workers or trafficked sex slaves. Good for you that you are looking into this.....

I just don't know if I could handle the amount of issues that would pop up with an asian child. I don't want people to KNOW he or she is not my child.

[cpayne5]

Originally Posted by jsarno

I just don't know if I could handle the amount of issues that would pop up with an asian child. I don't want people to KNOW he or she is not my child.

What issues?

What's wrong with people knowing that the kid is not yours?

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by cpayne5

What issues?

What's wrong with people knowing that the kid is not yours?

Nothing really, it's more of protection for the child.
Maybe I'm just being stupid, I just know it's hard enough on kids, and I don't want to make it any harder.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by jsarno

Nothing really, it's more of protection for the child.
Maybe I'm just being stupid, I just know it's hard enough on kids, and I don't want to make it any harder.

Given a choice a kid would prefer to have adopted parents of different race than being dragged through foster care. It's really our own preference and the commitment necessary that keeps us from looking outside our race. Yes the kids will have a rough time and get that stare when they call you dad but that's minor compared to spending Christmas with different foster parents every year if that.

I'm not saying be color blind, far from it. It's the adopting parents' responsibility's to teach the kid about their race and often times that's one of the factors that discourages couples from adopting children of different race. That's a big challenge and commitment, and your really can't blame people if they take the shorter path.

Call me crazy but I'd love to see kids adopted even by gay parents. Why the hell should a kid be in foster care when there are people willing to adopt them and love them?

In any case I wish you and your wife the best of luck and I would encourage you to at least explore the possibility of adopting a black or mixed-race child.

p.s. Five of my cousins who live in Italy are married or engaged to Italian men/women so I know the kind of pressures exerted and expectations levied by Italian families

[dmek25]

Originally Posted by cpayne5

What issues?

What's wrong with people knowing that the kid is not yours?

if you get the kid early enough, it will be yours no matter what the color of his/ her skin

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by saden1

Given a choice a kid would prefer to have adopted parents of different race than being dragged through foster care. It's really our own preference and the commitment necessary that keeps us from looking outside our race. Yes the kids will have a rough time and get that stare when they call you dad but that's minor compared to spending Christmas with different foster parents every year if that.

I'm not saying be color blind, far from it. It's the adopting parents' responsibility's to teach the kid about their race and often times that's one of the factors that discourages couples from adopting children of different race. That's a big challenge and commitment, and your really can't blame people if they take the shorter path.

Call me crazy but I'd love to see kids adopted even by gay parents. Why the hell should a kid be in foster care when there are people willing to adopt them and love them?

In any case I wish you and your wife the best of luck and I would encourage you to at least explore the possibility of adopting a black or mixed-race child.

p.s. Five of my cousins who live in Italy are married or engaged to Italian men/women so I know the kind of pressures exerted and expectations levied by Italian families

Good post, thanks for the link. You make a persuasive argument.

[GhettoDogAllStars]

Originally Posted by saden1

Call me crazy but I'd love to see kids adopted even by gay parents. Why the hell should a kid be in foster care when there are people willing to adopt them and love them?

You are not crazy. I totally agree. It's incredible how some people can try to justify denying a child of a family.

I realize this post is kinda meaningless, and it might offend some people. Sorry. It just kills me to think of children without families.