F... total losers!

Schneed10 · 01-23-2007, 03:09 PM

Life is too short to bog yourself down by worrying about the fate of losers like this. Cut these people out of your life altogether.

Makes it tough when it's your wife's brother. But definitely don't pay any money on his behalf. If you can't convince your wife to completely sever ties with him, at least don't enable his pattern of illegal behavior. Giving him ANY kind of help would do just that.

And NEVER buy into their claims that they plan to reform. For every 1 guy you're wrong about, you'll be right about 99 of them if you simply assume that their claims are full of shitake mushrooms.

gibbsisgod · 01-23-2007, 03:10 PM

I have helped this person before only to have it blow up in my face. When he was first arrested in '00 i think, he was charged with Distribution of heroin. He gave me this big sob story about how he was framed. He told me it was all a setup. Somebody came to his house to drop "something" off that somebody else was supposed to come by later and pick that "something" up. When the other person came by, he was wearing a wire.

The only reeason I helped him out is because there was a child involved. His girlfriend was in trouble too because she was there and the state was gonna take his kid. I gave him $3000 for a lawyer retainer fee. Of course here it is 7 years later and I have yet to see a dime of that money.

The thing that gets me the most is what he did this time to get arrested. Stealing from people who have already lost everything. If he is willing to do something like that, why would he care about stealing something from me? He has already stolen from his dad. His mother put up her home to get him out of jail the last time. Now that he is in N.O. i don't know if she is gonna lose her home or not.

mredskins · 01-23-2007, 03:12 PM

Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

GhettoDogAllStars · 01-23-2007, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

What?! Isn't the best man supposed to organize and lead the bachelor party? That's crazy man.

mredskins · 01-23-2007, 03:22 PM

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What?! Isn't the best man supposed to organize and lead the bachelor party? That's crazy man.

Thank you! It all comes around if he ever gets married I would do it for him

saden1 · 01-23-2007, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

What's more fun than being at a bachelor party and having bouncy tities in your face? He should be labeled an acquaintance at best.

firstdown · 01-23-2007, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

Find a new best man and friend he is the one who should be honored to be your best man and is suppose to throw the bacholer party. My best man was happy to do this for me and I have been happy to do the same when I was a best man. Just because you have known him sense third its time to move on. I had a friend who I grew up with and he never seemed to have money or a job just seemed to call when we where heading out in the boat for the day and stuff like that. He is still a friend but we have grown apart and he is far from my best friend. If I see him out its nice to see him have a drink and talk some of the past but thats what it is the past.

mredskins · 01-24-2007, 08:53 AM

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Find a new best man and friend he is the one who should be honored to be your best man and is suppose to throw the bacholer party. My best man was happy to do this for me and I have been happy to do the same when I was a best man. Just because you have known him sense third its time to move on. I had a friend who I grew up with and he never seemed to have money or a job just seemed to call when we where heading out in the boat for the day and stuff like that. He is still a friend but we have grown apart and he is far from my best friend. If I see him out its nice to see him have a drink and talk some of the past but thats what it is the past.

FIRSTDOWN! Sorry I can't say that with out yelling. I agree but for the sake of the drama train rolling through my wedding day, I will just stick it out. he lives in the mid west now so I hardley see him.

firstdown · 01-24-2007, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

FIRSTDOWN! Sorry I can't say that with out yelling. I agree but for the sake of the drama train rolling through my wedding day, I will just stick it out. he lives in the mid west now so I hardley see him.

I know how those wedding things go and its not good to tick off the soon to be wife. Good luck.

dmek25 · 01-23-2007, 03:15 PM

dude, i feel you. but in the end, you have to do what is in your heart. looking in from the outside, its easy to see that this guy is a loser. but when family is involved, sometimes its hard to say no

gibbsisgod · 01-23-2007, 03:26 PM

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dude, i feel you. but in the end, you have to do what is in your heart. looking in from the outside, its easy to see that this guy is a loser. but when family is involved, sometimes its hard to say no

I have tried so hard to get my wife to see that there is no hope for him. Its very hard being that he is her blood. For years we fought about this subject every time he got in trouble. She tried to defend him as a victim of circumstance every time. It took a great deal of time to get her to understand that he was putting himself into those situations and when it all boils down to it, it IS his fault.

Like my ole man used to say:

"Hang around a barber shop long enough, you are gonna get a haircut!"

mredskins · 01-23-2007, 03:24 PM

He is the type of guy when people buy rounds of drinks and it comes his turn....no where to be found!

BDBohnzie · 01-23-2007, 03:27 PM

No offense, but doesn't sound like much of a best man...

mredskins · 01-23-2007, 03:33 PM

BD I agree. Just one of those life situations. I think my other buddys are steping up to the plate to help out. they all know how he is.

firstdown · 01-23-2007, 05:45 PM

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BD I agree. Just one of those life situations. I think my other buddys are steping up to the plate to help out. they all know how he is.

Maybe you should ask one of your other buddies to be your best man and explain to you other (friend?) why you did what you did.

01-23-2007, 03:09 PM	#1
Schneed10 A Dude Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Newtown Square, PA Age: 46 Posts: 12,458	Re: F... total losers! Life is too short to bog yourself down by worrying about the fate of losers like this. Cut these people out of your life altogether. Makes it tough when it's your wife's brother. But definitely don't pay any money on his behalf. If you can't convince your wife to completely sever ties with him, at least don't enable his pattern of illegal behavior. Giving him ANY kind of help would do just that. And NEVER buy into their claims that they plan to reform. For every 1 guy you're wrong about, you'll be right about 99 of them if you simply assume that their claims are full of shitake mushrooms. __________________ God made certain people to play football. He was one of them.

01-23-2007, 03:10 PM	#2
gibbsisgod Playmaker Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: 129 W 81st street Age: 47 Posts: 3,503	Re: F... total losers! I have helped this person before only to have it blow up in my face. When he was first arrested in '00 i think, he was charged with Distribution of heroin. He gave me this big sob story about how he was framed. He told me it was all a setup. Somebody came to his house to drop "something" off that somebody else was supposed to come by later and pick that "something" up. When the other person came by, he was wearing a wire. The only reeason I helped him out is because there was a child involved. His girlfriend was in trouble too because she was there and the state was gonna take his kid. I gave him $3000 for a lawyer retainer fee. Of course here it is 7 years later and I have yet to see a dime of that money. The thing that gets me the most is what he did this time to get arrested. Stealing from people who have already lost everything. If he is willing to do something like that, why would he care about stealing something from me? He has already stolen from his dad. His mother put up her home to get him out of jail the last time. Now that he is in N.O. i don't know if she is gonna lose her home or not.

01-23-2007, 03:12 PM	#3
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 13,236	Re: F... total losers! Mooches are the worst! My best man for my wedding is a moucher. I have been friends with him since like 3rd grade. I hate it. Now he is saying he has no money to come visit for the bacholer party but I know he buys weed all the time and just got a new plasma. He just doesn't want to spend money on non-fun things. It is so irrating.

01-23-2007, 03:15 PM	#10
dmek25 MVP Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: lancaster,pa Age: 64 Posts: 10,672	Re: F... total losers! dude, i feel you. but in the end, you have to do what is in your heart. looking in from the outside, its easy to see that this guy is a loser. but when family is involved, sometimes its hard to say no __________________ "It's better to be quiet and thought a fool than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt." courtesy of 53fan

01-23-2007, 03:24 PM	#12
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 13,236	Re: F... total losers! He is the type of guy when people buy rounds of drinks and it comes his turn....no where to be found!

01-23-2007, 03:27 PM	#13
BDBohnzie Playmaker Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Frederick, MD Age: 47 Posts: 4,628	Re: F... total losers! No offense, but doesn't sound like much of a best man... __________________ Bad Things man, I mean bad things... “WE TOOK HIM IN THE SIXTH ROUND SO WE'RE NOT SMART EITHER.” - Shanny on what the Skins saw in Alfred Morris

01-23-2007, 03:33 PM	#14
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 13,236	Re: F... total losers! BD I agree. Just one of those life situations. I think my other buddys are steping up to the plate to help out. they all know how he is.

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