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[hooskins]

Originally Posted by angryssg

Guys arent going to just go looking for something else just for the hell of it. There has to be a significant reason why he is looking for something different. In other words what is it with you that is making him look elsewhere? It's not the popular answer, but its my answer.

I think that goes both ways too. If your women is looking for others, there is probably a reason why. Something is wrong with you. Even if she is a messed up person, something is still wrong with you since you are currently with that person. I am a big advocate of self-responsibility.

[hesscl34]

Originally Posted by hooskins

I think that goes both ways too. If your women is looking for others, there is probably a reason why. Something is wrong with you. Even if she is a messed up person, something is still wrong with you since you are currently with that person. I am a big advocate of self-responsibility.

I think you are very naive to think that people don't just do what they want regardless of another person feelings. You can have the perfect relationship but if something like this is put in front of you there are plenty of people who are selfish enough to grab it. My whole point with this thread is that I think websites like this are a joke, disgusting, and wrong. But you have to make it about ME or others problems.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by hesscl34

I think you are very naive to think that people don't just do what they want regardless of another person feelings. You can have the perfect relationship but if something like this is put in front of you there are plenty of people who are selfish enough to grab it. My whole point with this thread is that I think websites like this are a joke, disgusting, and wrong. But you have to make it about ME or others problems.

Well its partly your own fault that you would even be with a person that selfish. If you are in a perfect relationship and your love is soo strong, it shouldn't fall to some stupid website.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by hooskins

Well its partly your own fault that you would even be with a person that selfish. If you are in a perfect relationship and your love is soo strong, it shouldn't fall to some stupid website.

Honestly forget the personal attack from me and start from here. This is my opinion about the matter. I apologize for the attack, you are right I should have PMed you.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by hooskins

Honestly forget the personal attack from me and start from here. This is my opinion about the matter. I apologize for the attack, you are right I should have PMed you.

Look when I first posted that response to this thread I didnt think it was going to be upsetting, but I do see how it can be. And I guess my above apology is kinda lame, I never was good at them anyways. I am sorry for making you feel alienated and called out. I know it might not seem genuine, but it is.

[Lady Brave]

Originally Posted by hooskins

Well its partly your own fault that you would even be with a person that selfish. If you are in a perfect relationship and your love is soo strong, it shouldn't fall to some stupid website.

Sorry hooskins, but I'd like you to make that same statement to my mother who tried her best to be the dutiful and faithful wife, but was cheated on by her husband who had no real reason to stray. He made a vow and didn't keep it. The responsibility lies with him.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

Sorry hooskins, but I'd like you to make that same statement to my mother who tried her best to be the dutiful and faithful wife, but was cheated on by her husband who had no real reason to stray. He made a vow and didn't keep it. The responsibility lies with him.

Well dont you feel that your mother should have then moved away from someone who cheats? I am not trying to push to the absolutes, but I do feel you have some control over matters in your personal life.

In general I believe in destiny and a higher order, but I do feel your choices can and will have an impact on that. The same carries on with relationships. You cant just always put blame on others, because your actions can prevent things from happening. Just my personal way of thinking.

[Lady Brave]

Originally Posted by hooskins

Well dont you feel that your mother should have then moved away from someone who cheats? I am not trying to push to the absolutes, but I do feel you have some control over matters in your personal life.

In general I believe in destiny and a higher order, but I do feel your choices can and will have an impact on that. The same carries on with relationships. You cant just always put blame on others, because your actions can prevent things from happening. Just my personal way of thinking.

She did move away, my dad made that choice for her by leaving us. I guess I take issue with what you said about outside influences not being able to affect a relationship if it is really strong. My mother thought she had a strong relationship for the most part. No marriage is perfect. Funny thing is my dad always detested men who cheated on their wives. However, he made some very bad choices in his life and allowed temptation to ruin his family. He eventually became the thing he hated most.

On a side note, men are bombarded by sexual images everyday and I believe it can have affect. I have witnessed more marriages being ruined by a man's addiction to pornography than I care to count.

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

She did move away, my dad made that choice for her by leaving us. I guess I take issue with what you said about outside influences not being able to affect a relationship if it is really strong. My mother thought she had a strong relationship for the most part. No marriage is perfect. Funny thing is my dad always detested men who cheated on their wives. However, he made some very bad choices in his life and allowed temptation to ruin his family. He eventually became the thing he hated most.

On a side note, men are bombarded by sexual images everyday and I believe it can have affect. I have witnessed more marriages being ruined by a man's addiction to pornography than I care to count.

I like porn, but that doesnt change my values toward my marriage or create a lust or a void that I feel that I need filled. I think that the deciding factor is if you watch it with your spouse or significant other then you are not at risk. It is when you try to hide it from them that you have an issue.

[EARTHQUAKE2689]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

She did move away, my dad made that choice for her by leaving us. I guess I take issue with what you said about outside influences not being able to affect a relationship if it is really strong. My mother thought she had a strong relationship for the most part. No marriage is perfect. Funny thing is my dad always detested men who cheated on their wives. However, he made some very bad choices in his life and allowed temptation to ruin his family. He eventually became the thing he hated most.

On a side note, men are bombarded by sexual images everyday and I believe it can have affect. I have witnessed more marriages being ruined by a man's addiction to pornography than I care to count.

I have seen women addicted to porn as well as men.

[hooskins]

Originally Posted by Lady Brave

She did move away, my dad made that choice for her by leaving us. I guess I take issue with what you said about outside influences not being able to affect a relationship if it is really strong. My mother thought she had a strong relationship for the most part. No marriage is perfect. Funny thing is my dad always detested men who cheated on their wives. However, he made some very bad choices in his life and allowed temptation to ruin his family. He eventually became the thing he hated most.

On a side note, men are bombarded by sexual images everyday and I believe it can have affect. I have witnessed more marriages being ruined by a man's addiction to pornography than I care to count.

Although I do agree with your assessment about your mother's situation I dont know how you can prevent yourself from noticing things that are clearly out there. Something like pornography can be avoiding but is out there, and I think quite a bit of people are either into that or not. I dont think a man not into porno will just become addicted and destroy his marriage to it if he sees it once.

EDIT: The point is that simply getting rid of these sites in order to protect marriages is silly, IMO. I think a marriage that cant hold through something like a sugar daddy website is not a strong marriage at all.

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by hesscl34

I think you are very naive to think that people don't just do what they want regardless of another person feelings. You can have the perfect relationship but if something like this is put in front of you there are plenty of people who are selfish enough to grab it. My whole point with this thread is that I think websites like this are a joke, disgusting, and wrong. But you have to make it about ME or others problems.

You are correct, those sites are wrong. The sad thing is that yes people will take advantage of them, however I do not totally agree with you. Not everyone will take advantage of them. I firmly believe that if you truly have a good relationship with your significant other that he or she will not stray. Just because you believe that your relationship is good does not necessarily mean that it is. The "cheater" for the lack of a better term, has some kind of void that he or she believes that can be filled by another. They include, but are not limited to physical attraction, romance, common intrest, attention, or plain old sexual desires.