Are you bitter?

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Hey guys,

Just got a chance to read all the advice and the advice is good.

Schneed got it right when he said that she does get frustrated when she thinks I don't stand up for her. For ME, I think the reason I don't stand up for one reason or the other is that I feel like if YOU have a problem, then YOU need to deal with it, not put someone in the middle of their spouse and their family.

Basically, the way it goes is that people basically know my wife is a little extra-sensitive on a lot of things and in most cases, I'll take her side even when she's wrong EXCEPT when it comes to family. When it comes to family, I DO MIND creating friction. If it's just a co-worker or friend of her's, I don't give a crap. But when it comes to her family or my family in particular, I refuse to start crap because she's sensitive.

For those who were wondering, I did call my dad and was like, "You know it was Nicole's birthday a couple weeks ago right?" and he kind of studdered considering I NEVER even semi-call him out and he just went right on past it because normally our conversations consist of Skins news and light stuff. I think he truly forgot, because I have a step mom and two half-brothers and basically she is so up their ass that why would they remember my wife's birthday when they can be busy spoiling those two? I could tell my dad was definitely feeling guilty, so for me at least I let him know and I told my wife that I mentioned that to him she seemed happy with me.

NOW, I think the situation is settled and I'll probably remind him early next year, BUT if she holds on to the grudge too long (especially since he's taking two days of his life to come install hardwood floors for us in a week) then SHE'LL be the one getting called out.