understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Everyone goes through dry spells. What does she say when you bring it up to her?

[SolidSnake84]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Everyone goes through dry spells. What does she say when you bring it up to her?

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

[Gmanc711]

Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

See now that is a huge problem to me. Like hey, theres nights my girlfriend wants to and I dont and vice versa.....sometimes you're not feeling well, or just tired or whatever... but the fact that shes flipping out like that I think is a red flag.

Sex is a VERY important part of a relationship. If you're not having sex, why are people together? I mean that completley seriously.

I mean, how long has it been up to this point?

[SolidSnake84]

Originally Posted by Gmanc711

See now that is a huge problem to me. Like hey, theres nights my girlfriend wants to and I dont and vice versa.....sometimes you're not feeling well, or just tired or whatever... but the fact that shes flipping out like that I think is a red flag.

Sex is a VERY important part of a relationship. If you're not having sex, why are people together? I mean that completley seriously.

I mean, how long has it been up to this point?

32 days ago, or almost 6 weeks.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

While it's not uncommon for a marriage to have dry spell, it's still unsettling when it happens. You sound like me, blaming yourself and trying to figure out what YOU are doing wrong.

Sounds like it COULD be a physical/health issue...or hormonal. Is she on birth control pills? Years ago, my wife tried some BC and it had this same effect on her, it made her never feel in the mood. She stopped taking it...things returned to normal.

A wife can live without sex and just go through the daily routine otherwise and not even notice how long its been. A husband typically needs it to feel appreciated and a part of the marriage, so when its missing...we notice.

To them, it would be like a husband who stopped talking to their wife.

I would try a concerned approach to bring it up, but it will be a tightrope walk to not make her mad or feel like you only want her for sex...they're touchy with the subject, especially when in one of these "phases/moods".

Good luck. I wouldn't consider leaving the marriage at such a young age over this...work it out, try to wait it out until it's worked out. I know it's tough and confusing, but if everything else is OK with you two like you say it is, don't throw it all away, even if this IS a big issue that hurts you. It sucks to go through, but it can happen in any marriage. It's called life with a woman. It could pass and never happen again.

32 days is nothing/normal. Start worrying at the 3-month mark.

[redskinjim]

Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

wow what the heck is wrong with her there has to be something that you dont know about maybe she has problems down there

[skinsfaninok]

Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

Dude I'm 23 married, and a 1 yr old boy. Trust me I know what your saying. Most guys at my job warned me that when u get married the sex stops haha. I guess it's kinda true. I try and not bring it up anymore because I'm tired of asking and hearing her Bitch about it when I do ask lol. I'm faithful to my wife and have a little patience so I'm hanging tough.. Porn only last so long lol. Good luck man hang in there.