understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

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Originally Posted by skinsfan69

every girl i've ever dated i've grabbed her ass when she wasn't expecting it and vice versa. i can not remember ever getting a negative response. that's a small way of being affectionate w/ someone you're dating/married or what ever. sounds like she's way too uptight.

Gonna have to agree with you. Solid, there's really only so much you can do. Granted, it's only been a month, but you still need to consider some things here before you waste too much of your time "trying" and you let good things pass you by. I'd stay don't give up on her yet, because you're married, made a commitment to her through the good and bad and right now is a test of the bad. But there comes a point (at which I'd say around 2 or 3 months) that if it continues like this and she keeps pushing you away, you need to stop beating around the bush and stop trying to approach it nicely and being like, "hey, it's been months since we've been intimate and you've been acting cold towards me lately... What's going on?" I mean work can only tire you out but SO much, you know and the last thing she should be doing is taking it out on you. She's as much at fault as you are (if you've been doing anything wrong, which I don't really think you have been)

I'm sure you love your wife and she's a very nice woman but just like you, I know she has to have sexual needs. Being tired and not feeling like it, shouldn't last for months and months. After 2-3 months it should start sending up red flags and you should either start talking to her seriously about seeking marriage counseling or start considering that maybe there's something not kosher going on behind your back. I'm around your age (a couple years younger, though not married) but I couldn't imagine not being intimate with my significant other for over a month. Honestly the first thing that would come to my mind, is that they were cheating on me... But then again, I'm the paranoid type.

Something's just not stirring the koolaid here... But I do wish you luck and hope you and your wife work things out.