The Relationships Thread

[DynamiteRave]

Well here I am back in this thread. Just got dumped after a year and a half. I'm not taking it too well. (And I'm coming to men for solace :P) I had been dating a chick for the past year and a half. Long distance because I'm finishing up grad school. I'm done in the spring, just got 2 classes left, but they're specialized so transferring isn't an option.

But she just got a job doing volunteer coordinating for a non-profit last month. It's really been taking a toll on her energy wise and basically she has zero left in the tank for the relationship. She says she fell out of love a month ago, although I don't totally believe that, I was just there last week and she wined and dined me and gave me my birthday gift which was a bit expensive. Then all of a sudden, I'm not in love with you. Wtf? Note she had NEVER mentioned any of this before. She mentioned the distance was hard and she was lonely and missed me a lot, but it had been like that the entire relationship.

When I ask her what's her logic behind leaving she says, "I need to go so I can be better for you if we're supposed to be together in the future." Like a bleeding heart female I told her my plan was to continue to love and support her, with some additional space in between us. I don't expect the same from her, but I was hoping that this would at least stick in the back of her head that I'm still here and in love. So basically, I wasn't going to change anything on my half. To this she responds that I'm a really good girl and you never know what can happen down the line. Dafuq? That was the vaguest non-committal response she could've given me.

Prior to all this, on Saturday, she had originally told me she loved me an had no intentions of leaving me. That all changed yesterday.

So... I'm not really sure what to do. I really love this chick and I'm not ready to take a wishy-washy no for an answer.