Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

I mean I DO agree with my wife's point that it would basically cost nothing for the 4 people I'm taking to split the parking bill, not to mention all the people it's inconveniencing to take them to and from.

But what I am supposed to do? Tell my family, "Well, why don't you just take yourselves?"

Actually, in your case, that's exactly what I'd do.

My in-laws are down in Orlando, so I only see them a few times a year. But my mom, dad, stepmom, and stepdad all live within 4 miles of my wife and me. My mom, bless her heart, is a little nuts. She's just very hyper, and she ADORES my wife (the daughter she never had kind of thing). She's always asking us to come over and do this or that, or meet her out to do this and that...

Sometimes you just have to say no. My wife and I are both really focused on our careers right now and working a lot, so we don't have much free time together. I sure don't want to spend the bulk of it hanging out with my Mom. Going over for dinner a few times a month is fine, but sometimes she's just over the top with all her requests.

You could easily just tell your Mom that you and the wife need some time just the two of you, and that you can't accommodate her request this time. Like you said, it's totally reasonable that they split the parking. I don't think that's a big "FU" to your Mom as you said. I mean, if your Mom was disabled or something, then that's different.

Anyway man, it will all work out. You'll be having sexicans again before you know it.

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Actually, in your case, that's exactly what I'd do.

My in-laws are down in Orlando, so I only see them a few times a year. But my mom, dad, stepmom, and stepdad all live within 4 miles of my wife and me. My mom, bless her heart, is a little nuts. She's just very hyper, and she ADORES my wife (the daughter she never had kind of thing). She's always asking us to come over and do this or that, or meet her out to do this and that...

Sometimes you just have to say no. My wife and I are both really focused on our careers right now and working a lot, so we don't have much free time together. I sure don't want to spend the bulk of it hanging out with my Mom. Going over for dinner a few times a month is fine, but sometimes she's just over the top with all her requests.

You could easily just tell your Mom that you and the wife need some time just the two of you, and that you can't accommodate her request this time. Like you said, it's totally reasonable that they split the parking. I don't think that's a big "FU" to your Mom as you said. I mean, if your Mom was disabled or something, then that's different.

Anyway man, it will all work out. You'll be having sexicans again before you know it.

Newlywed,

Oh grasshopper much to learn.

[KLHJ2]

Just tell your wife that you are taking your mom and thats the end of it. If she starts to give you lip then you tell her that the next words that come outta her mouth oughta be her gagging on your non gender specffic nether region (PC).

Seriously though, like I said, take your mom to the airport then buy your wife some flowers, make up sex follows.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

She takes Seasonale, so she only has four a year.

Where can this be purchased?

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Just talk to the doctor. I great enjoy it.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by mredskins

Newlywed,

Oh grasshopper much to learn.

Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"

Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have two sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by Angry

Just tell your wife that you are taking your mom and thats the end of it. If she starts to give you lip then you tell her that the next words that come outta her mouth oughta be her gagging on your non gender specffic nether region (PC).

Hey there sweet talker, your screen name fits you well. :smashfrea

[KLHJ2]

Originally Posted by Buster

Hey there sweet talker, your screen name fits you well. :smashfrea

It was a joke. I found it funny anyway. I've been married 11 years so I'm doing something right.

[dmek25]

did she come right out and say " don't take her"? i cant believe that's what she wants? but don't get hard ass on her. small things like this, can be gigantic to women. its OK to hold your ground. just be gentle in the way you do it. are you trying to talk to her? if not, try. and ive got 25 years behind me

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by Angry

It was a joke.

Yeah, that was very obvious.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by dmek25

did she come right out and say " don't take her"? i cant believe that's what she wants? but don't get hard ass on her. small things like this, can be gigantic to women. its OK to hold your ground. just be gentle in the way you do it. are you trying to talk to her? if not, try. and ive got 25 years behind me

This is good advice. I'm not the most patient man, so I have a hard time not being a hard ass when I think I'm right and want to put my foot down.

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"

Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have to sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point.

For the record I was just giving you a hard time. there is no right answer only TMC knows the right answer since he knows all the parties.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Actually it has nothing to do with being a newlywed. My wife and I have been together 7 years and living together most of that time, so the fact that we recently tied the knot is pretty irrelevant here.

I'm not saying TMC is wrong for taking his family to the airport, just saying that it seems like it wouldn't have been a big deal at all for them to find their own way to the airport, and then his wife wouldn't be upset (however she shouldn't be this upset anyway). Wasn't it you who told me in a thread a while back, "happy wife, happy life?"

Anyway, 3 of the 7 years my wife and I have been together, we've been living very close to my family. Plus my parents are divorced/re-married, so I have two sets of parents here that always want to see us. So over these 3 years I've learned that there's a balance that needs to be found. Sometimes I simply have to turn down invites in order to spend some quality time with the wife. And sometimes when I accept invites, the wife gets a little annoyed, but I think I've almost got it down to a science at this point.

Just to clarify here, I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am TOTALLY blessed to have such great parents/step-parents, and it's in no way any type of chore to spend time with them. I love it. But I just have to find a balance to keep everyone happy, including myself.

After reading the part in bold, I feel like I came off pretty selfish.

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Just to clarify here, I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am TOTALLY blessed to have such great parents/step-parents, and it's in no way any type of chore to spend time with them. I love it. But I just have to find a balance to keep everyone happy, including myself.

After reading the part in bold, I feel like I came off pretty selfish.

This is exactly why TMC should take his mom it is a balance. Sounds like he has done a lot on her family's side and know his folks need a favor.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by mredskins

This is exactly why TMC should take his mom it is a balance. Sounds like he has done a lot on her family's side and know his folks need a favor.

Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents. I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day. Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.