understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

Monkeydad · 08-12-2010, 03:25 PM

Let me ask you this, SS84...have YOU changed anything since you've gotten married? Unknowingly and unintentionally, have you gotten too comfortable in the marriage and started slacking on how you treated her? Did you buy flowers before and now, not as much? Did you used to kiss her when leaving for work everyday and before sleep but now miss it sometimes?

Just throwing it out there, not blaming you.

I know it's tough, but try not to focus on it every day and let it ruin the whole day if another gets added to the tally. Maybe she feels pressured or that you just want her for sex...which is VERY easy for a woman to feel even if it's NOT true.

Try making her a nice meal, or get a movie and rub her feet with some lotion (that can flip a switch). Don't bring it up or put any pressure on her. Try just treating her extra special for a few days or week without mentioning it or making any moves. She may come back around if you don't make it an issue every day, which is tough to avoid for a guy. Just do your best to make her feel loved and appreciated, but not pressured for a while.

Wives can be confusing. Scratch that, they ARE confusing.

This will likely pass and some day, you'll have a kid together and she'll INSIST you go to Training Camp and won't take no for an answer.

SolidSnake84 · 08-12-2010, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Buster

Let me ask you this, SS84...have YOU changed anything since you've gotten married? Unknowingly and unintentionally, have you gotten too comfortable in the marriage and started slacking on how you treated her? Did you buy flowers before and now, not as much? Did you used to kiss her when leaving for work everyday and before sleep but now miss it sometimes?

Just throwing it out there, not blaming you.

I know it's tough, but try not to focus on it every day and let it ruin the whole day if another gets added to the tally. Maybe she feels pressured or that you just want her for sex...which is VERY easy for a woman to feel even if it's NOT true.

Try making her a nice meal, or get a movie and rub her feet with some lotion (that can flip a switch). Don't bring it up or put any pressure on her. Try just treating her extra special for a few days or week without mentioning it or making any moves. She may come back around if you don't make it an issue every day, which is tough to avoid for a guy.

She doesnt wake up with me in the morning, but i kiss her on the forehead every morning before work and tell her i love her. Maybe i have done something unknowingly...i will refocus over the next few days and let everybody know what happens...thanks

Monkeydad · 08-12-2010, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She doesnt wake up with me in the morning, but i kiss her on the forehead every morning before work and tell her i love her. Maybe i have done something unknowingly...i will refocus over the next few days and let everybody know what happens...thanks

Sometimes it feels like they're making you work for it.

mredskins · 08-12-2010, 03:29 PM

It is threads like this that make me miss jsarno.

Slingin Sammy 33 · 08-12-2010, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

It is threads like this that make me miss jsarno.

LOL the thread that will live in infamy. I don't think any of the personal threads will ever top that one.

SolidSnake84 · 08-12-2010, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

It is threads like this that make me miss jsarno.

Hey off topic for a bit, but what is this thread that jsarno started that everyone talks about? Even since I was a newb here I heard people talk about this one infamous jsarno thread...does anybody have a link to it???

mredskins · 08-12-2010, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Hey off topic for a bit, but what is this thread that jsarno started that everyone talks about? Even since I was a newb here I heard people talk about this one infamous jsarno thread...does anybody have a link to it???

http://www.thewarpath.net/parking-lo...ce-needed.html

Enjoy with a couple beers.

TheLastDon · 08-12-2010, 03:53 PM

thewarpath.net/parking-lot/28339-advice-needed.html

Enjoy with a couple beers.[/quote]

LMAO! When I get home from work I'm going to re-read this with a couple of beers! WOW!

Monkeydad · 08-12-2010, 03:56 PM

Re-read you say?

What's your other account?

mredskins · 08-12-2010, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Buster

Re-read you say?

What's your other account?

LOL! I was thinking that too. Probably Hess34 (or whatever her actual screen name was)

Monkeydad · 08-12-2010, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

LOL! I was thinking that too. Probably Hess34 (or whatever her actual screen name was)

http://www.thewarpath.net/parking-lo...tml#post717510

All if his/her previous posts were in the Mormon thread. Interesting someone would sign up at a Redskins site just to talk about Steve Young being a Mormon....or to provide extra "support" in a debate.

What's the deal, Saden?

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-12-2010, 04:20 PM

Not to be a jerk, but have you thought of getting an iPhone?

SolidSnake84 · 08-12-2010, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Not to be a jerk, but have you thought of getting an iPhone?

Haha i saw that statistic today on a news article....if it helped, i would honestly buy one

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-12-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Haha i saw that statistic today on a news article....if it helped, i would honestly buy one

I have to give SmootSmack first dibs on that joke...

...that being said, I told my wife your problem on the way home a few minute ago and she said unless there is something SERIOUSLY wrong, just be open, give some space and things will come around.

Until that time, the internet will be your best friend...

SmootSmack · 08-12-2010, 05:18 PM

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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

I have to give SmootSmack first dibs on that joke...

...that being said, I told my wife your problem on the way home a few minute ago and she said unless there is something SERIOUSLY wrong, just be open, give some space and things will come around.

Until that time, the internet will be your best friend...

That's probably the biggest thing. Those rare times that Senora Smack is less than interested I used to get all frustrated with her. Like my pride was on the line "I put a ring on your finger and now you don't want this?!" But I've since learned to be more "understanding" "Take all the time you need honey, I'm not going anywhere" I've started to learn all her non-verbal behavior too. 'Cause often times she'd be like tonight it's you and me! And I'd be all like that's what's up! Only to find out it was all talk by the time the evening rolled around.

But one thing I've learned, when guys are upset and frustrated usually the best release is to hit something or to hit something (if you know what I mean). For women, it's unfortunately not always the same.

Anyhow Snake, as has been said here you need to talk to her but not in a Mel Gibson-"you better blow!!!!! me" kind of way

08-12-2010, 03:25 PM	#1
Monkeydad Living Legend Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: PA Age: 47 Posts: 17,460	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Let me ask you this, SS84...have YOU changed anything since you've gotten married? Unknowingly and unintentionally, have you gotten too comfortable in the marriage and started slacking on how you treated her? Did you buy flowers before and now, not as much? Did you used to kiss her when leaving for work everyday and before sleep but now miss it sometimes? Just throwing it out there, not blaming you. I know it's tough, but try not to focus on it every day and let it ruin the whole day if another gets added to the tally. Maybe she feels pressured or that you just want her for sex...which is VERY easy for a woman to feel even if it's NOT true. Try making her a nice meal, or get a movie and rub her feet with some lotion (that can flip a switch). Don't bring it up or put any pressure on her. Try just treating her extra special for a few days or week without mentioning it or making any moves. She may come back around if you don't make it an issue every day, which is tough to avoid for a guy. Just do your best to make her feel loved and appreciated, but not pressured for a while. Wives can be confusing. Scratch that, they ARE confusing. This will likely pass and some day, you'll have a kid together and she'll INSIST you go to Training Camp and won't take no for an answer. __________________ Not sent from a Droid, iPhone, Blackberry or toaster

08-12-2010, 03:29 PM	#4
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 13,378	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? It is threads like this that make me miss jsarno. __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

08-12-2010, 03:53 PM	#8
TheLastDon Camp Scrub Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 12	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? thewarpath.net/parking-lot/28339-advice-needed.html Enjoy with a couple beers.[/quote] LMAO! When I get home from work I'm going to re-read this with a couple of beers! WOW!

08-12-2010, 03:56 PM	#9
Monkeydad Living Legend Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: PA Age: 47 Posts: 17,460	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Re-read you say? What's your other account? __________________ Not sent from a Droid, iPhone, Blackberry or toaster

08-12-2010, 04:20 PM	#12
TheMalcolmConnection I like big (_\|_)s. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Charlottesville, Virginia Age: 45 Posts: 19,272	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Not to be a jerk, but have you thought of getting an iPhone? __________________ Regret nothing. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.

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