death sucks

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Originally Posted by MonkFan4Life

Yeah death does blow hard.

When I was in the fourth grade I was hanging out with my friends playing basketball. My sister yells from a couple houses away and tells me that my mom wants me. I'm thinking that I'm in trouble for cleaning my room. She said she was on the phone and that she looked mad so I'm shook. We walk in the house (we had a split foyer) and I look up the steps and she get's off the phone. I walk up with that I didn't do it look. She put her hands on my face and said, "Baby, your father died today". Now I'm 32 and that day still kills me. I always wished that he could've been there to see me graduate, to see me get married, be there when I had my son and to be here knowing that he carries the name that he passed to me, be there for the guy talks... but it was okay. I just hope that if I go early that my son can remember me the way I remember my father. He wasn't the best guy, Lord knows he had his issues but damn he was the fucking greatest for me !

That day fucking sucked for me. I've lost 3 grandparents, aunts, uncles, and latest a very close friend to and athesma attack no less. I'm fearful of the days that I lose my mother, sisters, friends, if I am still here. I'm more so worried about my wife losing her parents because she has never experienced the death of someone very close to her before.

Give them their flowers while they can smell them, tell them you love them when you can see them, and hug them while they are with you.

Your dad didn't miss any of that he was watching just from a different place with a smile on his face.

[cookskin21]

Originally Posted by mlmdub130

i have been very fortunate in my life, i haven't had to deal with family deaths, i have both parents and all four grandparents around which i feel very fortunate to have since i will be getting married next year.



i have only had to go to a handful of funerals two friends, other friends family and great grand parents, which i don't really remember. the friends were hard it sucks losing some one so young, both were right around 20 when they died, i still visit them a few times a year. both of them had closed casket funerals and wakes, as well as the rest i have been too.



this evening i went to the wake for a couple friends of mine's mother, she was only 55, and they are all around my age mid 20's. it was the first open casket i have ever seen. i have seen dead people before but no one i knew, it really f-ed me up tonight, i haven't really kept in touch with them like we used to when we were younger, but we are still friends. i see them every so often as well as i used to see their mom. but seeing one i knew lying there really got to me, my stomach has been in a knot for a while, it was just weird.



i'm going to the funeral tomorrow hopefully it will be a little better, who knows. just needed to vent a little, and by the way death sucks.

yes, death is terrible, however think of it as not the end of their journey but a celebration of their life.

[MonkFan4Life]

I like to feel that way too first. Thanks man. I've told him about everything I just wish that he could've been able to respond. It is what it is. Much like the thread is titled, death sucks. However, it is a part of life. Someday I'll go and hopefully folks will stay laughing through the tears.
I've got something to keep a smile on my face though


This is one of the many songs that have helped me through the bad times.

My dad just had major surgery this past Monday and all I could do was pray I (we) didn't lose him. I have always been a daddy's girl and the thought of him not being here really trips me out. I sat in the chapel at the hospital praying and crying the whole time & promising to of course live a better life if my dad would just be ok. I'm sorry to everyone out there who has lost a loved one-that's hard enough-but a parent, I can't even think about it. It makes my heart hurt. It's agreed that death sucks and my heartfelt sorrow to anyone that has lost someone close to them.

[dmek25]

good post, and good luck

[tryfuhl]

I only have my paternal grandmother left and we've never really been close, never met my paternal grandfather
maternal grandpa died in 1997, grandma in 2004.. at least I knew my great-grandmother before she passed in 1996
my "second family" all that I have left is my best friend.. his father, brother, and mother all died within about 2 years of each other
a friend of ours that we went to beach week with in 2002 died about a week after coming back
my dad was killed almost 2 years ago.. my mother is alive but I haven't seen her in almost 3 years, not close to her though.. her 2nd husband and I are still on speaking terms though

also had a kid that I coached in a youth wrestling program.. Joey had found assembled a gun that has been discarded/disassembled by his grandfather in a waste bin because it no longer fired and along with his friends played out in the woods with it for about 6 months the kids said.. one day he put it up to his head and pulled the trigger and the thing finally fired.. that was a tough one.. the family requested that the other wrestlers and us coaches showed up in our warm-up attire and that made it even harder, but we obviously did it out of respect for the family's wishes

getting too meh to continue on but plenty more left that I could list (including family), so I know what you mean

[Hog1]

Originally Posted by smootistheman

My dad just had major surgery this past Monday and all I could do was pray I (we) didn't lose him. I have always been a daddy's girl and the thought of him not being here really trips me out. I sat in the chapel at the hospital praying and crying the whole time & promising to of course live a better life if my dad would just be ok. I'm sorry to everyone out there who has lost a loved one-that's hard enough-but a parent, I can't even think about it. It makes my heart hurt. It's agreed that death sucks and my heartfelt sorrow to anyone that has lost someone close to them.

Be true to your promises.....you WILL have the strength and courage you need when it is required.
Hopefully that will be many years from now!

[SmootSmack]

I had to bury an uncle this week. (not me personally of course). It wasn't totally unexpected, but still it's devastating.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

I'll keep all of you in my prayers guys. It's funny how a close friend or relative passing away changes the way you think.

[Duffman003]

Death blows.
I recently had one of my best friends pass away and I got really mad at people who went to his funeral that barely knew him(maybe because I'm an asshole). I guess they were sad that he's gone, but I wouldn't personally go to a funeral of a person I barely knew.
I dunno, I'm probably just an asshole.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Maybe.

Let me tell you from experience that the support means so much. I didn't care who it was, it just meant a lot that people were there for us.

[RedskinMike]

Originally Posted by smootistheman

My dad just had major surgery this past Monday and all I could do was pray I (we) didn't lose him. I have always been a daddy's girl and the thought of him not being here really trips me out. I sat in the chapel at the hospital praying and crying the whole time & promising to of course live a better life if my dad would just be ok. I'm sorry to everyone out there who has lost a loved one-that's hard enough-but a parent, I can't even think about it. It makes my heart hurt. It's agreed that death sucks and my heartfelt sorrow to anyone that has lost someone close to them.

my father died at 47 from cancer. It was the most devestating expierence of my life. It took years before I was able to fully cope with it.

[RedskinMike]

Originally Posted by Duffman003

Death blows.
I recently had one of my best friends pass away and I got really mad at people who went to his funeral that barely knew him(maybe because I'm an asshole). I guess they were sad that he's gone, but I wouldn't personally go to a funeral of a person I barely knew.
I dunno, I'm probably just an asshole.

I also had one of my best friends pass away two years later. There had to be 1000 people at his wake. His father was in politics and a lot of people were there to support him. At the time I felt like you and was mad, but now I think that it was pretty amazing that so many people came.

[mredskins]

Just got back from a viewing. Really sucks it was one of my co-workers he was 62 and set to retire this year. Just talked with him on Thursday and he died Friday. He loved the Steelers, kind of guy you want to hunt down on Monday morning if you beat his team but if your team lost to his you better be hiding on Monday.

RIP Tony, I will miss your NFL talk!

[RobH4413]

Originally Posted by RedskinMike

my father died at 47 from cancer. It was the most devestating expierence of my life. It took years before I was able to fully cope with it.

Very sorry to hear about your loss. Lost mine at 43, brain cancer.

It's extremely devastating, but it also brought my family together. We're all extremely close and value life that much more. I can remember my Dad breaking down while looking out the window during the beginning of spring, knowing it was probably going to be his last (which it was)...

Really makes you appreciate every day.

Life's too short to be an asshole.