(Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions...

Schneed10 · 03-25-2009, 05:33 PM

I'd agree with other points made here too. You want to take the interest, inquire as to what's wrong, offer her the opportunity to tell you what's bothering her without coming down on her.

After you've heard what she has to say, just calmly explain that regardless of what's going on she shouldn't take it out on you. Say hey, I'd prefer that you talk to me and feel comfortable enough to tell me anything - this way you don't feel like you're bottling it up.

But no matter what you can't treat me like crap or I won't stick around, whether you're pregnant, sick, jobless, or simply moody.

Be point blank about it, be matter of fact, don't be inflammatory or raise your voice, just a direct even-keeled message. Because what she's doing to you is very passive aggressive; being snappy, not giving you the full story, but never coming out and directly dealing with her problem. The absolute best way to deal with a passive aggressive person is take them head on with a direct, but calm, message.

You take the interest and you ask her to open up, and then you communicate that you simply won't stand for the attitude. And if it continues, like I said, bounce.

MTK · 03-25-2009, 06:55 PM

In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits.

saden1 · 03-25-2009, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Mattyk72

In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits.

Are you speaking from experience or anecdotally?

olive523 · 03-26-2009, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Mattyk72

In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits.

you think so huh Matty?

FRPLG · 03-26-2009, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by olive523

you think so huh Matty?

uh oh...

GMScud · 03-26-2009, 05:57 PM

I'm no master at relationships, but I am in a very healthy one right now. And let me tell you, communication is numero uno in my opinion. Lay all your thoughts/feelings about your relationship on the table, ask her why she's acting the way she is... if you don't get straight answers or some sort of reciprocity as far as communication, then you probably need to rethink the whole deal.

Look EQ, I know you care for her, but you don't deserve to be treated like shit for being thoughtful. Besides, you're young, and you and I both know Gainesville is a gold mine for females.

Monksdown · 03-26-2009, 06:03 PM

i agree with the last post very much. communication is the most important part of any relationship. women will say that they want to hear what you think, and then when you tell them, most of them flip out. I am in a constant search pattern for a woman that actually means it when she says she's wants to know what is going on in my head.

I am also a slouch when it comes to proper relationship management. I am breaking up with my girlfriend today actually because she's pressing on me like im a goddamn eclipse. I feel like im suffocating every time i want to change plans with short notice. It's more me than her, im sure. But so be it.

searching for the right one is nearly as fun as finding her.

SmootSmack · 03-26-2009, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by FRPLG

uh oh...

Now we know who gave his Starbucks coffee thread one star

MTK · 03-26-2009, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by olive523

you think so huh Matty?

You took the bait, so predictable

olive523 · 03-26-2009, 08:18 PM

tough guy

The Goat · 03-25-2009, 09:47 PM

I agree w/ EE and the others... give her a taste of her own medicine so to speak. But don't be surprised if she just ups the ante on you and becomes unbearable.

... i don't know why but by age 19 or so i pretty much decided most women, and i'm gonna say like 99% of those i've known, are in one way or another manipulative, deceiving or at best speak a totally different language than all guys (meaning indirect and coded language LOL). Personally i can't stand that crap and figured i'd just never commit to anyone... i guess i have to admit luck kicked in cuz in my whole life i've met one straightforward woman and she thinks i'm alright too... after almost 10 years it still works

... i still can't stand about 99% of the female population though LMAO.

jsarno · 03-25-2009, 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by EARTHQUAKE2689

Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????

Don't know if this has been said, just saw your comment and wanted to respond.
I can't speak for everyone, but I've noticed that when people are either cheating, or interested in someone else, they seem to have MUCH shorter fuses. Not saying that your g-friend is interested in either, just making an observation that you might want to look into. Even in my own life, near the end of my relationship with my ex, I was much less tolerant of things she did, and had a much smaller fuse. I hope this is not the case man, and I wish you the best.
The ONLY way to get over this is to communicate with her. Gotta sit her down and be 100% honest and see what she says.

tryfuhl · 03-25-2009, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by EARTHQUAKE2689

Ok most of you know that I live with my girlfriend and everything has been fine up until now. Now I know that women have their moods and everyone needs space once in a while but this is crazy. Everything I do now seems to piss her off. I took her car to get new tires and an oil change (something she never does) and she says "I don't need you to do anything for me" Ok then. That was 3 weeks ago, then today when I get home from work and say hey baby how are you she says "I didnt ask you to ask me how I am doing! WTF!!!! Ok maybe I am doing something wrong so I am asking the path for advice what should I do????

What a bitch... do you live with her, does she live with you, or is it split?

Lady Brave · 03-26-2009, 12:54 AM

Sorry EQ, but it sounds like she's just picking fights because she's looking for an out. Jsarno hit the nail on the head with the short fuse comment.

As for the other random comments about women in this thread, I thought you guys were better than that. Hmmm... on second thought...

FRPLG · 03-26-2009, 01:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady Brave

Sorry EQ, but it sounds like she's just picking fights because she's looking for an out. Jsarno hit the nail on the head with the short fuse comment.

As for the other random comments about women in this thread, I thought you guys were better than that. Hmmm... on second thought...

Hey, what's a little sexism amongst friends right?

03-25-2009, 05:33 PM	#1
Schneed10 A Dude Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Newtown Square, PA Age: 45 Posts: 12,421	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... I'd agree with other points made here too. You want to take the interest, inquire as to what's wrong, offer her the opportunity to tell you what's bothering her without coming down on her. After you've heard what she has to say, just calmly explain that regardless of what's going on she shouldn't take it out on you. Say hey, I'd prefer that you talk to me and feel comfortable enough to tell me anything - this way you don't feel like you're bottling it up. But no matter what you can't treat me like crap or I won't stick around, whether you're pregnant, sick, jobless, or simply moody. Be point blank about it, be matter of fact, don't be inflammatory or raise your voice, just a direct even-keeled message. Because what she's doing to you is very passive aggressive; being snappy, not giving you the full story, but never coming out and directly dealing with her problem. The absolute best way to deal with a passive aggressive person is take them head on with a direct, but calm, message. You take the interest and you ask her to open up, and then you communicate that you simply won't stand for the attitude. And if it continues, like I said, bounce. __________________ God made certain people to play football. He was one of them.

03-25-2009, 06:55 PM	#2
MTK \m/ Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: NY Age: 52 Posts: 99,518	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... In regard to the thread title... women can always get crazier. They have no limits. __________________ Support The Warpath! \| Warpath Shop

03-26-2009, 05:57 PM	#6
GMScud Swearinger Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 12,626	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... I'm no master at relationships, but I am in a very healthy one right now. And let me tell you, communication is numero uno in my opinion. Lay all your thoughts/feelings about your relationship on the table, ask her why she's acting the way she is... if you don't get straight answers or some sort of reciprocity as far as communication, then you probably need to rethink the whole deal. Look EQ, I know you care for her, but you don't deserve to be treated like shit for being thoughtful. Besides, you're young, and you and I both know Gainesville is a gold mine for females. __________________ Tardy

03-26-2009, 06:03 PM	#7
Monksdown The Starter Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Warrenton, Virginia Age: 44 Posts: 1,515	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... i agree with the last post very much. communication is the most important part of any relationship. women will say that they want to hear what you think, and then when you tell them, most of them flip out. I am in a constant search pattern for a woman that actually means it when she says she's wants to know what is going on in my head. I am also a slouch when it comes to proper relationship management. I am breaking up with my girlfriend today actually because she's pressing on me like im a goddamn eclipse. I feel like im suffocating every time i want to change plans with short notice. It's more me than her, im sure. But so be it. searching for the right one is nearly as fun as finding her.

03-26-2009, 08:18 PM	#10
olive523 Camp Scrub Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Saratoga Springs Posts: 22	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... tough guy

03-25-2009, 09:47 PM	#11
The Goat Pro Bowl Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 5,662	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... I agree w/ EE and the others... give her a taste of her own medicine so to speak. But don't be surprised if she just ups the ante on you and becomes unbearable. ... i don't know why but by age 19 or so i pretty much decided most women, and i'm gonna say like 99% of those i've known, are in one way or another manipulative, deceiving or at best speak a totally different language than all guys (meaning indirect and coded language LOL). Personally i can't stand that crap and figured i'd just never commit to anyone... i guess i have to admit luck kicked in cuz in my whole life i've met one straightforward woman and she thinks i'm alright too... after almost 10 years it still works ... i still can't stand about 99% of the female population though LMAO. __________________ 24-34

03-26-2009, 12:54 AM	#14
Lady Brave The Starter Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Trinity, NC Age: 53 Posts: 1,444	re: (Edited) Just When Us Men Thought We Couldn't Make Any More Ignorant Assumptions... Sorry EQ, but it sounds like she's just picking fights because she's looking for an out. Jsarno hit the nail on the head with the short fuse comment. As for the other random comments about women in this thread, I thought you guys were better than that. Hmmm... on second thought...

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