Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane

mredskins · 08-04-2010, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by GhettoDogAllStars

For the record, "Droppin' Momma at the Plane" sounds like a movie with Martin Lawrence in it.

Still better then "Throw Momma from the Train" , maybe that is what TMC's wife wants to do to her.

Trample the Elderly · 08-04-2010, 12:47 PM

I don't understand why you feel that you need to explain yourself to your wife or anyone else? I respect my friends who rule the roost and ridicule the ones who let their wives run rough shod all over em.

My homeboy Jody tells his wife what's up and his kids are well behaved. I don't envision them getting a divorce, ever.

My hommie Bryan let's his wife break his ass down Cool Hand Luke style. His kids are always crying when they don't get what they want. They go to relationship "therapy". I expect them to divorce as soon as their kids are out of the house, maybe sooner.

Men should act like men.

If I was you, I wouldn't budge. It's not like you're being unreasonable. Although, I'm old school, and in my book the wife comes before the kids and the parents, etc. I'm sure you'll make the best choice in what you do but I wouldn't argue. Tell it like it is and stick to your guns.

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BDBohnzie · 08-04-2010, 12:54 PM

Been there, done that, was the mayor of that town for a while. I walk that tightrope that connects my wife and mother constantly, and for a while, I was walking while twirling blazing sticks of fire. But eventually I figured out the balance and haven't had too many issues since.

TMC - it's a losing battle. As it's been stated before, it's not because you are taking your family to the airport, it's because she had it all planned out that you guys were going to spend the weekend together or whatever it is that couples without children do (man how I long for those days sometimes), and this little cog burst her bubble. It could also be that she was going to surprise you with something? Either way, she's upset and somehow, you have to be the hero and make things right. And naturally, while you don't necessarily want to be, you have to be the voice of reason. You aren't going to tell your Mom no, but you want to make it up to your wife the best way you can, and let her know that.

She will get over it, but as you suggested (and continue to suggest), she could always come along and you guys could stay overnight somewhere (I assume you're taking the 'rents to Roanoke), perhaps somewhere you guys have never been before. Make the best of the situation.

saden1 · 08-04-2010, 01:10 PM

Are you kidding me dude? Your wife should be volunteering to drop them off herself. You need to squash this kind of thing real quick before it festers and grows into marriage killing cancer. Put your serious face on and let her know your family is just as important as hers and you will do things with them and for them now and then, and that her acting like this is unacceptable and will eventually lead to the demise of your marriage. Real talk time.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BDBohnzie

Been there, done that, was the mayor of that town for a while. I walk that tightrope that connects my wife and mother constantly, and for a while, I was walking while twirling blazing sticks of fire. But eventually I figured out the balance and haven't had too many issues since.

TMC - it's a losing battle. As it's been stated before, it's not because you are taking your family to the airport, it's because she had it all planned out that you guys were going to spend the weekend together or whatever it is that couples without children do (man how I long for those days sometimes), and this little cog burst her bubble. It could also be that she was going to surprise you with something? Either way, she's upset and somehow, you have to be the hero and make things right. And naturally, while you don't necessarily want to be, you have to be the voice of reason. You aren't going to tell your Mom no, but you want to make it up to your wife the best way you can, and let her know that.

She will get over it, but as you suggested (and continue to suggest), she could always come along and you guys could stay overnight somewhere (I assume you're taking the 'rents to Roanoke), perhaps somewhere you guys have never been before. Make the best of the situation.

This is exactly right. I've offered that as a solution. I said we can do a weekend next week, but no, it's THIS weekend only to her. I'm really trying to take the high road here, and I've been the one communicating, really trying to reach out and she wants no part of it.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 01:15 PM

Oh, and just an FYI to anyone who thinks I'm going to budge on this, I am not.

I will NOT call my mom and give her a big FU.

Basically, I'm trying to help all parties win. I take my mom to the airport, I come back home, pick up the wife and go for an awesome night somewhere for dinner and a nice hotel or resort. She's the one that wants no part of that. It's like she's DARING me to screw my mom over...

saden1 · 08-04-2010, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Oh, and just an FYI to anyone who thinks I'm going to budge on this, I am not.

I will NOT call my mom and give her a big FU.

Basically, I'm trying to help all parties win. I take my mom to the airport, I come back home, pick up the wife and go for an awesome night somewhere for dinner and a nice hotel or resort. She's the one that wants no part of that. It's like she's DARING me to screw my mom over...

This isn't a game of tug rope...this is a serious issue. Just don't be passive and wait things out.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Buster

Welcome to married life. The wife's mother-in-law (your mom) will ALWAYS be a tightrope walk...yet her mother will never be an issue...don't make it one either. Even if a wife adores her mother-in-law, they both will claim you as theirs and eventually, it will end up in a head-on collision.

Valid question...don't ask her though...time of the month? I know it comes across as a naive, chauvinistic, rude accusation to a woman, but whether they realize it or not, their sanity can go out the window and they end up regretting some things they say and do in a few days.

Just don't back down and let her walk all over you, but also don't go out of your way to be an instigator. Just do what you have to do, don't bring it up unless she does and do your best to try to balance the happiness of all of the women in your life.

If you do sit down to talk it over, try to stay calm and help her realize how much you do for her family and how you'd appreciate the same in return, even if less often from her regarding your family.

It's a battle that is inevitable in most marriages...unless the wife hates her own family and replaces them with yours.

*married almost 9 years if that means anything

And saden, my relationship is a LOT like Buster's...

saden1 · 08-04-2010, 01:25 PM

I get that the readership between her and her in-laws is funky but not speaking to you for 48 hours crazy.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by saden1

I get that the readership between her and her in-laws is funky but not speaking to you for 48 hours crazy.

THIS I agree with. I mean, I get some initial frustration like everyone else said, but the fact we've hung onto this for this long is borderline insane, considering how many times I've reached out and tried to be the bigger person.

mredskins · 08-04-2010, 01:46 PM

Ah the good times...

Sorry had to do it, it was too funny!

Monkeydad · 08-04-2010, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

And saden, my relationship is a LOT like Buster's...

Don't get me wrong, we have a GREAT marriage...very happy and satisfied...but my point was that any woman can have a crazy streak...we just have to try to survive it without doing any permanent damage or something that can be brought up later.

Stand your ground but also try to keep the peace. These things (moods) always pass.

We do seem to have something in common...seeing her parents ALL THE TIME.

mredskins · 08-04-2010, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Buster

Don't get me wrong, we have a GREAT marriage...very happy and satisfied...but my point was that any woman can have a crazy streak...we just have to try to survive it without doing any permanent damage or something that can be brought up later.

Stand your ground but also try to keep the peace. These things (moods) always pass.

To that note it be wise to learn your wives period panties if you see her wearing them keep back at least 100 feet.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Ah the good times...

Sorry had to do it, it was too funny!

Man that goatee was lame! Thank god I shaved that beast off.

TheMalcolmConnection · 08-04-2010, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

To that note it be wise to learn your wives period panties if you see her wearing them keep back at least 100 feet.

She takes Seasonale, so she only has four a year.

08-04-2010, 12:47 PM	#32
Trample the Elderly Playmaker Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Three Chopt Virginia Age: 47 Posts: 2,906	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane I don't understand why you feel that you need to explain yourself to your wife or anyone else? I respect my friends who rule the roost and ridicule the ones who let their wives run rough shod all over em. My homeboy Jody tells his wife what's up and his kids are well behaved. I don't envision them getting a divorce, ever. My hommie Bryan let's his wife break his ass down Cool Hand Luke style. His kids are always crying when they don't get what they want. They go to relationship "therapy". I expect them to divorce as soon as their kids are out of the house, maybe sooner. Men should act like men. If I was you, I wouldn't budge. It's not like you're being unreasonable. Although, I'm old school, and in my book the wife comes before the kids and the parents, etc. I'm sure you'll make the best choice in what you do but I wouldn't argue. Tell it like it is and stick to your guns. Anytimes I need male advice I consult these guys. The Art of Manliness \| Men's Interests and Lifestyle __________________ A funny thing happened on the way to the temple. The moneychangers bought the priesthood.

08-04-2010, 12:54 PM	#33
BDBohnzie Playmaker Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Frederick, MD Age: 45 Posts: 4,628	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane Been there, done that, was the mayor of that town for a while. I walk that tightrope that connects my wife and mother constantly, and for a while, I was walking while twirling blazing sticks of fire. But eventually I figured out the balance and haven't had too many issues since. TMC - it's a losing battle. As it's been stated before, it's not because you are taking your family to the airport, it's because she had it all planned out that you guys were going to spend the weekend together or whatever it is that couples without children do (man how I long for those days sometimes), and this little cog burst her bubble. It could also be that she was going to surprise you with something? Either way, she's upset and somehow, you have to be the hero and make things right. And naturally, while you don't necessarily want to be, you have to be the voice of reason. You aren't going to tell your Mom no, but you want to make it up to your wife the best way you can, and let her know that. She will get over it, but as you suggested (and continue to suggest), she could always come along and you guys could stay overnight somewhere (I assume you're taking the 'rents to Roanoke), perhaps somewhere you guys have never been before. Make the best of the situation. __________________ Bad Things man, I mean bad things... “WE TOOK HIM IN THE SIXTH ROUND SO WE'RE NOT SMART EITHER.” - Shanny on what the Skins saw in Alfred Morris

08-04-2010, 01:10 PM	#34
saden1 MVP Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Seattle Age: 45 Posts: 10,069	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane Are you kidding me dude? Your wife should be volunteering to drop them off herself. You need to squash this kind of thing real quick before it festers and grows into marriage killing cancer. Put your serious face on and let her know your family is just as important as hers and you will do things with them and for them now and then, and that her acting like this is unacceptable and will eventually lead to the demise of your marriage. Real talk time. __________________ "The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder." -Jenkins

08-04-2010, 01:15 PM	#36
TheMalcolmConnection I like big (_\|_)s. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Lexington, Virginia Age: 43 Posts: 19,225	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane Oh, and just an FYI to anyone who thinks I'm going to budge on this, I am not. I will NOT call my mom and give her a big FU. Basically, I'm trying to help all parties win. I take my mom to the airport, I come back home, pick up the wife and go for an awesome night somewhere for dinner and a nice hotel or resort. She's the one that wants no part of that. It's like she's DARING me to screw my mom over... __________________ Regret nothing. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.

08-04-2010, 01:25 PM	#39
saden1 MVP Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Seattle Age: 45 Posts: 10,069	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane I get that the readership between her and her in-laws is funky but not speaking to you for 48 hours crazy. __________________ "The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder." -Jenkins

08-04-2010, 01:46 PM	#41
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 12,801	Re: Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane Ah the good times... Sorry had to do it, it was too funny! __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

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