Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane

[cpayne5]

Probably NSFW...

There are a few good lines in this video that can be applied here.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents. I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day. Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.

Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."

[tryfuhl]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

THIS I agree with. I mean, I get some initial frustration like everyone else said, but the fact we've hung onto this for this long is borderline insane, considering how many times I've reached out and tried to be the bigger person.

women by nature are not rational beings. no matter what type of woman you have it is impossible to find one that uses logic when appropriate consistently. take for example the lady that worked at NASA that shit herself on a ride across the country over a broken fling. hell hath no fury, etc

[mredskins]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."

A two hour favor for your family and it is effecting your marriage??? Dude there is more to this story. Are you generally a happy couple?

You probably need to have a sit down with and not text and/or email because each of you are going to inflict your own emotions in to the message.

[tryfuhl]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."

exactly.. if that is doing it how dare she question the sanctity of the marriage when she's acting so selfishly.. side question, when does your family have to be at the airport?

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by TheMalcolmConnection

Exactly right. She was sending me texts at lunch saying how much this is affecting our marriage, blah blah blah. I wrote her back saying, "If this is truly affecting our marriage, then we truly had some underlying issues. Both you and me have done things for each other, our families, friends, and our work that we didn't want to do, but sometimes you just have to suck it up."

TMC, let me ask you, is she normally a really stubborn person? From the stories you've told on here, it seems to me that you and your wife have a pretty kick-ass relationship. It will be fine.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by GMScud

Fair enough. But I feel like the bigger issue isn't taking his mom to the airport just because he and his wife vacation with her parents. I think the issue is his wife being upset that they didn't spend some alone time together on that day. Maybe I missed something.

I think TMC is right in his stance though. As he said, he could have taken his mom to the airport and still had a nice time in DC/Blacksburg with his wife. She's just having one of those silly women moments where they blow the tiniest ish out of proportion.

Does his mom ask him for things constantly? Taking someone to the airport is once in a blue moon thing. He can either take them to the airport or he can't. If he already has plans with his wife then he should tell his parents I have plans. At the end of the day it's only a few hours and unless you planned to go out of town or on a road trip it's nothing to get worked up about. Certainly not the kind of thing you get pissed off about for 2 days.

You can play peacemaker all you want but this is an issue that's going to come up time and again and she needs to be set straight...in the nicest possible way of course.


My wife comes first but that doesn't mean my parents come second all the time. A wife and a husband are suppose to understand that about their respective in-laws to make their relationship work.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by mredskins

A two hour favor for your family and it is effecting your marriage??? Dude there is more to this story. Are you generally a happy couple?

You probably need to have a sit down with and not text and/or email because each of you are going to inflict your own emotions in to the message.

Also good advice. So much can be lost in translation with texts/emails. I've had more than one stupid argument because something that was text was taken the wrong way.

[GMScud]

Originally Posted by saden1

Does his mom ask him for things constantly? Taking someone to the airport is once in a blue moon thing. He can either take them to the airport or he can't. If he already has a plan with his wife then he should tell his parents I have plans. At the end of the day it's only a few hours and unless you planned to go out of town or on a road trip it's nothing to get worked up about. Certainly not the kind of thing you get pissed off about for 2 days.

You can play peacemaker all you want but this is an issue that's going to come up time and again and she needs to be set straight...in the nicest possible way of course.


My wife comes first but that doesn't mean my parents come second all the time. A wife and a husband are suppose to understand that about their respective in-laws to make their relationship work .

Well said. I'm not a big fan of my mother-in-law. She's a very good person, but we just don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. But we play nice and are pleasant to each other for my wife's sake. Marriage/family involves lots of compromises.

[mredskins]

this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport!

[Dirtbag59]

Go to downtown DC. I know a guy. He can get you a new ID and a new life. With your new ID open an account in the Cayman islands and transfer all your money. After you do that fly down to Mexico and live out the rest of your life as a free man. You're welcome. VIVA LA MEXICO!!!!!

[saden1]

Originally Posted by mredskins

this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport!

Good point...that's going to be a challenge even if everything is chirpy and when you throw a monkey wrench into the mix the relationship will only get strained.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Originally Posted by mredskins

this brings up point that is going to be hard for me in the future. At some point you will need to help care for your folks and hopefully at theat time your spouse will be understanding.

I can remember my mom caring for my grandmother in her last year of her life it was a big strain but we all understood and pitched in my dad included.


Also I can't wait for the follow up thread about this fight, the pickup from the airport!

Oh, I already got out of that so that we could do something that weekend, but that doesn't matter. It's like this weekend is the last weekend each of us will spend on Earth and I chose my family over her.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Originally Posted by GMScud

TMC, let me ask you, is she normally a really stubborn person? From the stories you've told on here, it seems to me that you and your wife have a pretty kick-ass relationship. It will be fine.

She's EXTREMELY stubborn, but yes, we have a great relationship and routinely I'll decline an invitation to have dinner with my family just so that she and I can have a date night. I've just never seen it like this.

[Trample the Elderly]

Originally Posted by Dirtbag359

Go to downtown DC. I know a guy. He can get you a new ID and a new life. With your new ID open an account in the Cayman islands and transfer all your money. After you do that fly down to Mexico and live out the rest of your life as a free man. You're welcome. VIVA LA MEXICO!!!!!

Will it work if I was to go to Costa Rica instead of Mexico?