advice needed...

jsarno · 03-28-2009, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Hog1

DITTO!
MAKE IT HAPPEN J!!! Countin' on you!!!!

That's right man, Julia and I will bring a SB back to DC!!!! I sacrificed myself for all the fans! I would appreciate a special SB ring when we win it all...maybe a spot in the parade.

love them hogs · 03-28-2009, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by jsarno

That is GREAT to know. It's good to hear I am not the only one that went through this. In particular I am interested to hear how well adjusted (or not) the kids are? (well in your case, your son)

He is very well adjusted.Gets good grades,plays baseball and soccer and is a completely normal kid.I suppose that he was so young when I came along that it all seems natural to him to have two Daddies.It also helped a bunch that his biological father and I got along rather well believe it or not.It got to the point where it was actually easier for just me to go and do the dropping off and picking up when it came time for visitation.Early on we had a conversation,his bio-father and I,where I explained that I would never try to replace him and that I understood that he was an important part of his life.You will have to be thick skinned at first because there is bound to be hard feelings, but hopefully with a little time and patience things will get at very least civil.

mredskins · 03-30-2009, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by jsarno

Well, I know the situation is still early, but its going great. Taking the kiddos to Chuck E Cheese today. We are extremely happy together, and the kids call me papi. I love that. Julia is amazed at how well they have taken to me. It's likely the attention I give them, and how happy both of us are, and they notice the difference. We both clearly made the right choice, even though we are still not out of the woods yet.
It's amazing how life brightens up when you are loved and give love.

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

dmek25 · 03-30-2009, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

what the heck is that all about? and congrats jsarno, i hope it all works out

EARTHQUAKE2689 · 03-30-2009, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

What the hell is that about????

SmootSmack · 03-30-2009, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

Goodness man, can't help but wonder if you've been "that dad" before

Approve or not, not sure calling jsarno a royal piece of shit adds anything here

saden1 · 03-30-2009, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

LOL...someone done stole your love and kids too? Time to get over it and be all the man you can be.

mredskins · 03-30-2009, 11:01 AM

^ Nope never been left out in the cold but if you are a parent and you can imangine someone coming along and taking your kids from you and "stealing" your daddy title you would be more then pissed. If you don't have kids you can pretend to understand but really any parent here wil ltell you that is one of the lows things going. To think of someone else raising my child pains me to no end.

The POS comment was probably over the top and I apologize.

saden1 · 03-30-2009, 11:11 AM

Fair enough. If you love your kids you got to fight for your kids and that guy aught to fight for them if he wants to keep them. I certainly wouldn't let her walk away with my kids and have another man raise them knowing full well that I kept my end of the "death do us part" bargain. Make her ass pay child support and shit to boot.

dmek25 · 03-30-2009, 11:32 AM

as long as you " man up" and be a part of their lives, you will always be " dad" in their eyes

GMScud · 03-30-2009, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

Seriously we are supoose to beleive this. After knowing the kids for a few months and only during short visits you have them calling you "papi" as though you were their dad. Man, you are royal piece of shit. If I was that dad I would have your crazy bi-polar ass in the hospital by now!

If you disagree with his situation or flat out don't believe him, why not just refrain from posting on this thread? At the end of the day we're all just nothing more than usernames to each other. To come at him with insults seems like a pretty big waste of time IMO.

GMScud · 03-30-2009, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

^ Nope never been left out in the cold but if you are a parent and you can imangine someone coming along and taking your kids from you and "stealing" your daddy title you would be more then pissed. If you don't have kids you can pretend to understand but really any parent here wil ltell you that is one of the lows things going. To think of someone else raising my child pains me to no end.

The POS comment was probably over the top and I apologize.

Yeah but if everything Jsarno is saying is the truth, this guy has had ample opportunity to be a good father/husband and has failed thus far. Hopefully he'll still be a part of his kids' lives, but it sounds like he has to make some changes.

Look, shit happens. My parents divorced when I was 14 and my brother was 10. It was tough, but leading up to the split they were both so unhappy in their marriage, and it trickled down to me and my brother. It was tough and awkward for a while, especially when my Dad started dating other women right away. Sure they both made some mistakes. Who doesn't in life? They have both since re-married, and I went from having two miserable parents to having four very happy parents.

mredskins · 03-30-2009, 12:52 PM

GMScud sorry for your childhood and the crap you had to go through. The point of my outrage was not the divorce, it was the point that these kids are basically being messed with by having to call Jasnro daddy or papi (even if it is by their own choice they should be corrected).

How would you feel if after your parents divorce your dad ask you to call one of his GF mom or mommy? Would that not have have messed with your mind?

GMScud · 03-30-2009, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by mredskins

GMScud sorry for your childhood and the crap you had to go through. The point of my outrage was not the divorce, it was the point that these kids are basically being messed with by having to call Jasnro daddy or papi (even if it is by their own choice they should be corrected).

How would you feel if after your parents divorce your dad ask you to call one of his GF mom or mommy? Would that not have have messed with your mind?

I had a great childhood, it was just a little rocky for a year or two.

I don't think the kids "have to" call Jsarno "dad." If they are, it shows they have strong feelings towards him. It's kind of a gray area as to whether or not they should be corrected. They are so young. Should they call him his first name? Or Mr. so and so? It's kind of awkward. I think you're focusing on the wrong thing though. If they are taking so well to Jsarno and going so far as to call him "dad," what does that say about their biological father?

As for me, I was 14 when my parents split, so I was old enough to understand what was going on.

I don't think there's any one standard this situation should be held to. It's unique. If I were Jsarno and Julia, I would definitely talk to a counselor or therapist, for three reasons:

1) the children - making sure their mental health and happiness are a priority.
2) her ex-husband - how to cope with his abusive nature and how to keep the children integrated with him in a healthy capacity
3) Julia and Jsarno - making sure they understand possible stumbling blocks in these kind of situations and how to best handle it. If the kids really do see him as "dad," then losing him after already losing their real dad could be really bad.

mredskins · 03-30-2009, 01:56 PM

^ Good Advice.

03-30-2009, 11:01 AM	#128
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 12,801	Re: advice needed... ^ Nope never been left out in the cold but if you are a parent and you can imangine someone coming along and taking your kids from you and "stealing" your daddy title you would be more then pissed. If you don't have kids you can pretend to understand but really any parent here wil ltell you that is one of the lows things going. To think of someone else raising my child pains me to no end. The POS comment was probably over the top and I apologize. __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

03-30-2009, 11:11 AM	#129
saden1 MVP Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Seattle Age: 45 Posts: 10,069	Re: advice needed... Fair enough. If you love your kids you got to fight for your kids and that guy aught to fight for them if he wants to keep them. I certainly wouldn't let her walk away with my kids and have another man raise them knowing full well that I kept my end of the "death do us part" bargain. Make her ass pay child support and shit to boot. __________________ "The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder." -Jenkins

03-30-2009, 11:32 AM	#130
dmek25 MVP Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: lancaster,pa Age: 63 Posts: 10,672	Re: advice needed... as long as you " man up" and be a part of their lives, you will always be " dad" in their eyes __________________ "It's better to be quiet and thought a fool than to open ones mouth and remove all doubt." courtesy of 53fan

03-30-2009, 12:52 PM	#133
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 12,801	Re: advice needed... GMScud sorry for your childhood and the crap you had to go through. The point of my outrage was not the divorce, it was the point that these kids are basically being messed with by having to call Jasnro daddy or papi (even if it is by their own choice they should be corrected). How would you feel if after your parents divorce your dad ask you to call one of his GF mom or mommy? Would that not have have messed with your mind? __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

03-30-2009, 01:56 PM	#135
mredskins Gamebreaker Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 12,801	Re: advice needed... ^ Good Advice. __________________ When life gives you paper jams, turn them into paper footballs!

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