understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

firstdown · 08-13-2010, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by 12thMan

Wait, you have a chick on the side or are you pulling our leg?

I figured someone would have remembered the Vasectomy Anyone thread. I had my first appointment yesterday and my luck would have it the practicing physician was a women. They made me sit in the freezing office for a 1/2 hours then she asked to check out my package.

SmootSmack · 08-13-2010, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by firstdown

I figured someone would have remembered the Vasectomy Anyone thread. I had my first appointment yesterday and my luck would have it the practicing physician was a women. They made me sit in the freezing office for a 1/2 hours then she asked to check out my package.

LOL! That's great

redskinjim · 08-13-2010, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

She says she is either too tired or just doesnt feel like it. If i prod and push her too much about it, she gets angry. Like badly angry.

Last night i actually slept on our couch it was so bad.

wow what the heck is wrong with her there has to be something that you dont know about maybe she has problems down there

MTK · 08-13-2010, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by firstdown

I figured someone would have remembered the Vasectomy Anyone thread. I had my first appointment yesterday and my luck would have it the practicing physician was a women. They made me sit in the freezing office for a 1/2 hours then she asked to check out my package.

We've been trying hard to forget about that.

FRPLG · 08-13-2010, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Okay good morning guys,

here are the updates so far. I got home last night, and tried talking to her. She was nice and she said that she cant just turn on a switch like guys and be ready to go. She says sometimes she is just tired and cant get in the mood.

No sex last night again, but at least she wasnt mean and i feel like we made progress. We have an easy weekend coming up, she doesnt work at all, so there is plenty of time to try and get something started.

Thanks again, this is an ongoing saga and i'll keep you updated.

That's not an answer. Logically it means she knows you can be ready to roll at any time yet there hasn't been any sweet sweet action so therefore she hasn't been in the mood at all.

FRPLG · 08-13-2010, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Mattyk

We've been trying hard to forget about that.

Yet here we are talking about it again. The tilt of the Parking Lot has been disturbing lately.

Monkeydad · 08-13-2010, 04:42 PM

Geez, we're scarred now...much like FD's....nevermind.

firstdown · 08-13-2010, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Mattyk

We've been trying hard to forget about that.

So does that mean I should not do the web cast of the procedure?

BleedBurgundy · 08-13-2010, 05:32 PM

This thread makes me thankful for my wife... she's DynamiteRave'esque, needs it at least 4-5 times per week, and we've been together for 7 years.

firstdown · 08-13-2010, 05:56 PM

BB can you get her to talk to my wife I thought I was doing pretty good at once or twice a week. Not sure what our age difference is but that might have something to do with it.

chica-alisha · 08-13-2010, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by DynamiteRave

As a 23 year old female.. There is no such thing as a dry spell. If I'm not getting it at least a couple times a week, I start getting irritated.

... I guess I'm an nympho...

amen to that! i hear women all the time "holding out" as "punishment" to their husbands or some crap like that...sex is a pleasure for both parties if done properly. I could not imagine going a week without much less that long. wow!!

BleedBurgundy · 08-13-2010, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by firstdown

BB can you get her to talk to my wife I thought I was doing pretty good at once or twice a week. Not sure what our age difference is but that might have something to do with it.

I'm 30, she's 26, so yeah, that probably has something to do with it... but I'm going to enjoy it for as long as it lasts.

SolidSnake84 · 08-14-2010, 10:44 AM

Hey good morning everyone again.

Last night didn't go so well. I was watching the Skins game alone, because my wife went to visit her parents because it was her brother's 19th birthday.

When she came home, it was about quarter after nine. She sat down on the couch with me, and i began to wonder if I could try and get something going, so i cuddled with her a bit that at first she seemed receptive to. I was rubbing her shoulders, kissing her on the side of the head, etc...

She then said the couch was uncomfortable, so she got up and laid on the other one to read a book. (Not interested in the game). I knew now that things were going downhill and i realized that any chance i had of getting anything going was over. I thought it was smart to abandon the plan because i knew she was only going to get furious if i kept trying.

The game ended and I went to bed. I have to sleep on the farthest edge of the mattress because she doesn't like being touched and stuff while this drought has been going on. She got in bed angrily and called me a son of a bitch, and she said all i ever want to do when i get in bed is to sleep.

I tried to reason with her, explaining to her that i knew she was tired tonight and that by reading her book, she wanted space from me, which i respected. She just got angrier and angrier as i tried to reason with her, and i knew that soon i was going to have to look for another place to sleep. (She will take the pillows and lay down on the floor if I don't leave at night, and she knows that i will feel sorry for her and want her to sleep in the bed, which i do, so i leave).

I walked out into the living room at 11:30, sadly cracked open a 40 of Bud Ice that I had bought for this game, and started drinking it as I watched Mike Shanahan's post game conference.

I drank the 40 and fell asleep. I woke up this morning at 3:30 and couldn't get back to sleep. Going back in the bedroom isn't an option either as she locks the door when i leave, and i could only break open the door with a sledgehammer. So I played Madden, all the while wondering what today was going to be like.

She is at her parents house right now and running some errands. She said good morning to me, but i couldn't tell if she was being mean or sarcastic about it. I almost find myself waiting in fear for her next move...

I had promise yesterday i thought, because she wanted to talk about the issues, but tonight was just a step in the other direction...I will continue to pray and seek advice from people and start getting a gameplan together, because I do believe now that this is the beginning of the end.

MTK · 08-14-2010, 11:18 AM

Seems that you have some serious miscommunication going on. When you're both in a good mood and open to it, you need to have a serious talk where you both lay out your issues on the table and work through them... together. There's something bigger at play here. You need to find out what it is.

Chico23231 · 08-14-2010, 11:26 AM

Yep, time for a serious talk....and for god sakes a 40 of Bud Ice? Jesus i just threw up in my coffee

08-13-2010, 04:42 PM	#127
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08-13-2010, 05:32 PM	#129
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08-13-2010, 05:56 PM	#130
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08-14-2010, 10:44 AM	#133
SolidSnake84 Playmaker Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Stephens City, VA Posts: 2,947	Re: understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go?? Hey good morning everyone again. Last night didn't go so well. I was watching the Skins game alone, because my wife went to visit her parents because it was her brother's 19th birthday. When she came home, it was about quarter after nine. She sat down on the couch with me, and i began to wonder if I could try and get something going, so i cuddled with her a bit that at first she seemed receptive to. I was rubbing her shoulders, kissing her on the side of the head, etc... She then said the couch was uncomfortable, so she got up and laid on the other one to read a book. (Not interested in the game). I knew now that things were going downhill and i realized that any chance i had of getting anything going was over. I thought it was smart to abandon the plan because i knew she was only going to get furious if i kept trying. The game ended and I went to bed. I have to sleep on the farthest edge of the mattress because she doesn't like being touched and stuff while this drought has been going on. She got in bed angrily and called me a son of a bitch, and she said all i ever want to do when i get in bed is to sleep. I tried to reason with her, explaining to her that i knew she was tired tonight and that by reading her book, she wanted space from me, which i respected. She just got angrier and angrier as i tried to reason with her, and i knew that soon i was going to have to look for another place to sleep. (She will take the pillows and lay down on the floor if I don't leave at night, and she knows that i will feel sorry for her and want her to sleep in the bed, which i do, so i leave). I walked out into the living room at 11:30, sadly cracked open a 40 of Bud Ice that I had bought for this game, and started drinking it as I watched Mike Shanahan's post game conference. I drank the 40 and fell asleep. I woke up this morning at 3:30 and couldn't get back to sleep. Going back in the bedroom isn't an option either as she locks the door when i leave, and i could only break open the door with a sledgehammer. So I played Madden, all the while wondering what today was going to be like. She is at her parents house right now and running some errands. She said good morning to me, but i couldn't tell if she was being mean or sarcastic about it. I almost find myself waiting in fear for her next move... I had promise yesterday i thought, because she wanted to talk about the issues, but tonight was just a step in the other direction...I will continue to pray and seek advice from people and start getting a gameplan together, because I do believe now that this is the beginning of the end. __________________ Time to nut up or shut up

08-14-2010, 11:18 AM	#134
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08-14-2010, 11:26 AM	#135
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