Advice On Women Thread.

[12thMan]

Originally Posted by saden1

I feel you man...I've been there. I was seeing a chick for two years that wanted to save the children in Somalia after getting her masters. She wanted to leave the country for a few years for sure and I was cool with it for at least two years. I told her as much and asked her what's next after that? She replied "I don't know" and I told her if you don't know figure it out and let me know in a few days. Few days came and I asked her again and again she replied "I don't know." I knew it then and there it wasn't meant to be and I told her "go live her life and enjoy it." I figured I wasn't part of her plan and I moved on and she did too. Ever since then I haven't talked to her at all...I figured there is no point in small chit-chat.

In hindsight it was one of the best decisions I ever made because I'm now with a woman that I'm completely in love with and is going to my wife. And of course it doesn't hurt that I think she is hotter, smarter, is on the same page as me and when I asked her if she wanted to save children in Africa or some such place and she replied no.

My take know what you want this relationship to develop into and ask her if you're part of her plans...if she hesitates and gives you the "I don't know" line bail and find yourself another woman.

I'm not a part of her plans and vice-versa. See here's the thing guys, we're both clear about what this is and what it isn't. We had many discussions about how having sex could screw up our friendship. So far it hasn't, but I'm honest about my feelings and she's somewhat coy. At least that's what I think.

I'm not trying to be in her life and she's not trying to be in mine, but I have to deal with her for the time being and I'm not enjoying the ride. If I cut her completely off, I look petty and immature.