understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

[JoeRedskin]

Originally Posted by tryfuhl

I've been there with you.. though I haven't been married and these guys that are sad that they're not single laughed at me for it

First, no, you haven't been there with him. He's married, you're not. Kind of apples and oranges. He's, supposedly, in it for the long haul. You, not so much. No offense, but that's just one of those - "I don't know what I'm talking about." comments.

Second, maybe I missed it, not seeing anyone bitching about being married. Sure, it's not wonderful all the time. Sure, I love to complain about my wife as much as the next guy. But guess what - you can have your singleness. Been there done that. Didn't get married until I was 37, and by the end there, I was pretty much - okay, this sucks. Enjoy you're single days - maybe they end never for you. More power to you. Me - I'll take the partnership of a good woman through thick and thin, hot sex and no sex, friendship and distance. In the end, hopefully a long time from now, when they bury me in the ground, it won't be the many flings I had in my man-slut single days that I will be sorry to let go of, it will be the timeless, committed love of my beautiful wife.

Finally, SS84, you know - I just don't know what to say to you. I tried to explain that the "I'm just not that into you right now" moments happen in marriage. Ain't nothing you can do about it. Forcing it w/out finding out what's really going on, especially after her time of the month, just struck me as ignorant and selfish. But - hey - don't listen to the advice of someone who actually has "been there with you".

Just a couple questions for you SS84 - Are you in this marriage for the next 5 months or the next 50 years? If the later, are a couple days really going to make a difference?