understanding a sexless marriage: Should I stay or go??

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Originally Posted by SolidSnake84

Fine. F#ck this. F#ck all of this. The first few days of this thread everybody says how its not my fault. Now the last few days and this says its got to be because of me and how i'm being selfish.

So F#ck my problem and F this thread. Congrats to everyone sincerely who are happily married and get it more than once a month. I tip my hand to everybody else who says that sex dries up in marriage and thats just the way it is. If i missed anyone, let me know.

You really missed the point. A relationship is NEVER one person's fault. I am divorced and I would love to blame my ex - Can I get some backup Joe? - but reality is marriage is a 2 person commitment. From many of your posts, here and in other threads, it is clear that you can be impetuous about things, and I was trying to point out that a bull headed rush the first day that she is off of her monthly time may not be the best move. You still need to understand why she has backed off, and what her issues are. We all have supported you that she needs to be more talkative and clearly discuss why she has, and lacking that discussion, your frustration is certainly understandable. BUT, if you haven't had the discussion, and you choose to push a now or never approach, then yes you start becoming a larger stumbling block to your own stated goal of getting the relationship on track.