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Originally Posted by TAFKAS

I appreciate all the advice guys...How about advice for the wedding itself? What are the things we need to look for. I know basics like the venue, the caterer, the photographer. And in what order should I be looking for them, and how far in advance? And I've heard the wedding is the bride's family's responsibility, the reception is the groom's, is that true? How do are the tasks divided?

Sorry for so many questions, but this is all very new to me. Even though the wedding isn't until August I don't want us to fall behind on anything

Throw all of that "Who is responsible?" out. It comes down to who can afford "The Day".

I paid for my wedding 32 years ago. Simple, cake, nuts, and candies at the reception at the Church. Paid the Pastor, and at that time, one of the Assistant Pastor's coordinated the Arch/Kneeling bench, and such. No meal, no big deal. My folks paid for the rehearsal dinner. Her family couldn't afford a whole lot.

However, my darling daughter and my son-in-law paid for their wedding, with help from his dad. None of his family was from here, and wanted the Hotel, the reception, the bar, the DJ, the Photographer, and such. Fine. Let'em.

Memaw and I took care all of the decorations at the Church purchased the flowers, and the ivy for the arch, along with a simple cake, nuts, and candies for those who were not invited to the reception. And we cleaned up after the photo session! Including waxed candles melted on the stage at Church! We were only a little late to the reception. A reception that could have easily have been held at our Church!

My son-in-law (Raiders fan) paid the Pastoral staff and for Houskeeping.

Someone else will have to fill you in on the time for dress sizing, food tasting, picking out cakes, and finding a reception hall. I'm not into all of that.

I'm just saying, there are no hard and fast rules. It goes to who wants/can afford what.

General rule: The bigger the wedding & reception, the more cost!