Can Trust be regained after it is lost?

EARTHQUAKE2689 · 04-26-2008, 02:20 AM

If someone has wronged you i na way that makes you not trust them. Is that trust lost forever or can it be reagined in you guys and girls eyes?

Gmanc711 · 04-26-2008, 02:50 AM

Well, its really tough, but I think it can be....I've had people regain trust who have hurt me severley, but I just kind of depends on the situation, ya know?

hooskins · 04-26-2008, 04:28 AM

Girlfriend quake?

EARTHQUAKE2689 · 04-26-2008, 05:35 AM

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Originally Posted by hooskins

Girlfriend quake?

nope but as aspiring lawyers we were debating this

MTK · 04-26-2008, 10:12 AM

All depends on the person and situation.

If it's a cheating spouse, all bets are off for me. Relationship is done.

EternalEnigma21 · 04-26-2008, 10:28 AM

Situational. People are so unique that you can never really make one statement to completely generalize them. Except that one.

Even in cheating spouse situations, there are some people (my grandfather for instance) that had an affair because they were unhappy in their marriage. When faced with the choice to end it or work on it, they chose to work it out. It took them moving across the country and changing their lives completely, but they have a great relationship now.

Then there's my aunt, who is completely immature, and will cheat on anyone anytime anywhere over and over. She usually only attracts the type of guys who will put up with it for a long time and she's always in these long, drawn out relationships (been married like 6 times, 2x to the same guy)

Most people lie, if that's what you're referring to. I lie sometimes because I'm bored. Usually I'll just be messing with someone stupid, and if someone of marginal intelligence were to overhear, they would either rebuff, or laugh their heads off... depending on their sense of humor. Other than messing around, flattery, and situations where I may hurt someone, I'm brutally honest.

The answer is yes it CAN be regained. The question of whether it should be, is debatable and situational.

saden1 · 04-26-2008, 12:29 PM

I don't think it can ever be fully regained, you forgive but you never forget. It's like a bank account, every time you f'up you're withdrawing your trust credits. Eventually you will be down to zero. There are certain things though that will lead to a complete cutoff (i.e. opening a credit card using my name and info).

Gmanc711 · 04-26-2008, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by saden1

I don't think it can ever be fully regained, you forgive but you never forget. It's like a bank account, every time you f'up you're withdrawing your trust credits. Eventually you will be down to zero. There are certain things though that will lead to a complete cutoff (i.e. opening a credit card using my name and info).

Thats true...you do forgive, but I guess you never really forget about things like that..

I'm with Matty too, cheating spouse, done.

Schneed10 · 04-26-2008, 02:04 PM

Broken trust is like breaking a vase. You can glue it back together, but it's never going to seem the same to you, and you'll always know that it was broken.

The vase can function just fine if you glue it back together, but you'll never feel the same way about it.

I need to stop talking about vases.

TheMalcolmConnection · 04-26-2008, 02:07 PM

Very nice way to put it.

If there's something that truly breaks my trust in someone, they MIGHT be able to regain it to 99.99% but EVERYTHING they tell me from then on will always carry that .01% of doubt, and for me that's a LOT.

EternalEnigma21 · 04-26-2008, 11:33 PM

Maybe I'm different, but I don't really trust anyone fully anyway...

EARTHQUAKE2689 · 04-26-2008, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by EternalEnigma21

Maybe I'm different, but I don't really trust anyone fully anyway...

I am the exact same way. Maybe a poll would go well here

70Chip · 04-27-2008, 11:43 AM

Trust, but verify.

Hog1 · 04-27-2008, 07:35 PM

I'm having vase problems!
in all seriousness, time helps in such matters..........give it some. However, as Schneed's ..............stunningly tactful model indicated, it may never be the same again

riggins44 · 04-29-2008, 01:26 PM

Old saying..."trust is like a tree. You have slow growth, but only takes
one thing to cut it down."

Trust can be regained, but it will take a herculean effort from both parties.

04-26-2008, 02:20 AM	#1
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04-26-2008, 02:50 AM	#2
Gmanc711 Thank You, Sean. Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Gaithersburg, MD Age: 39 Posts: 7,506	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Well, its really tough, but I think it can be....I've had people regain trust who have hurt me severley, but I just kind of depends on the situation, ya know? __________________ #21

04-26-2008, 04:28 AM	#3
hooskins Most Interesting Man in the World Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Chantilly, VA Age: 37 Posts: 8,606	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Girlfriend quake? __________________ Vacancy

04-26-2008, 10:12 AM	#5
MTK \m/ Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: NY Age: 52 Posts: 99,569	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? All depends on the person and situation. If it's a cheating spouse, all bets are off for me. Relationship is done. __________________ Support The Warpath! \| Warpath Shop

04-26-2008, 10:28 AM	#6
EternalEnigma21 Assistant Regional Mod Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Carbondale CO Age: 44 Posts: 2,958	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Situational. People are so unique that you can never really make one statement to completely generalize them. Except that one. Even in cheating spouse situations, there are some people (my grandfather for instance) that had an affair because they were unhappy in their marriage. When faced with the choice to end it or work on it, they chose to work it out. It took them moving across the country and changing their lives completely, but they have a great relationship now. Then there's my aunt, who is completely immature, and will cheat on anyone anytime anywhere over and over. She usually only attracts the type of guys who will put up with it for a long time and she's always in these long, drawn out relationships (been married like 6 times, 2x to the same guy) Most people lie, if that's what you're referring to. I lie sometimes because I'm bored. Usually I'll just be messing with someone stupid, and if someone of marginal intelligence were to overhear, they would either rebuff, or laugh their heads off... depending on their sense of humor. Other than messing around, flattery, and situations where I may hurt someone, I'm brutally honest. The answer is yes it CAN be regained. The question of whether it should be, is debatable and situational. __________________ I am the brute squad.

04-26-2008, 12:29 PM	#7
saden1 MVP Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Seattle Age: 45 Posts: 10,069	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? I don't think it can ever be fully regained, you forgive but you never forget. It's like a bank account, every time you f'up you're withdrawing your trust credits. Eventually you will be down to zero. There are certain things though that will lead to a complete cutoff (i.e. opening a credit card using my name and info). __________________ "The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder." -Jenkins

04-26-2008, 02:04 PM	#9
Schneed10 A Dude Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Newtown Square, PA Age: 45 Posts: 12,426	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Broken trust is like breaking a vase. You can glue it back together, but it's never going to seem the same to you, and you'll always know that it was broken. The vase can function just fine if you glue it back together, but you'll never feel the same way about it. I need to stop talking about vases. __________________ God made certain people to play football. He was one of them.

04-26-2008, 02:07 PM	#10
TheMalcolmConnection I like big (_\|_)s. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Charlottesville, Virginia Age: 43 Posts: 19,233	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Very nice way to put it. If there's something that truly breaks my trust in someone, they MIGHT be able to regain it to 99.99% but EVERYTHING they tell me from then on will always carry that .01% of doubt, and for me that's a LOT. __________________ Regret nothing. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.

04-26-2008, 11:33 PM	#11
EternalEnigma21 Assistant Regional Mod Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Carbondale CO Age: 44 Posts: 2,958	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Maybe I'm different, but I don't really trust anyone fully anyway... __________________ I am the brute squad.

04-27-2008, 11:43 AM	#13
70Chip Playmaker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Manassas Age: 53 Posts: 3,048	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Trust, but verify. __________________ This Monkey's Gone to Heaven

04-27-2008, 07:35 PM	#14
Hog1 Quietly Dominating the East Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Naples, Florida Posts: 10,675	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? I'm having vase problems! in all seriousness, time helps in such matters..........give it some. However, as Schneed's ..............stunningly tactful model indicated, it may never be the same again __________________ Goodbye Sean..........Vaya Con Dios thankyou Joe....... *“God made certain people to play football. He was one of them.” – Joe Gibbs*

04-29-2008, 01:26 PM	#15
riggins44 Special Teams Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Yorktown, VA Posts: 148	Re: Can Trust be regained after it is lost? Old saying..."trust is like a tree. You have slow growth, but only takes one thing to cut it down." Trust can be regained, but it will take a herculean effort from both parties.

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