The Relationships Thread

[Schneed10]

I'm a big believer in completely and 100% moving on and leaving the past behind. All breakups should be permanent with no contact thereafter.

[skinsfanthru&thru]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I'm a big believer in completely and 100% moving on and leaving the past behind. All breakups should be permanent with no contact thereafter.

This. It's just way to hard and potentially messy to have ex's lingering around. Potential bad lack of judgement moments sometimes present themselves, constantly comparing your current relationship to things your ex did because they are always fresh on your mind, etc etc.

I'm only on decent speaking terms with one ex, but I try not to talk too much with her because she's now married with a kid and lately when we seem to talk she skews the conversation into a weird and inappropriate direction and I'm not that kind of guy.

I definitely know it can be tough, some relationships more so than others, but I know less than 3 people who keep in contact with ex's and they primarily do so for random late night hook ups.

[DynamiteRave]

Originally Posted by skinsfanthru&thru

This. It's just way to hard and potentially messy to have ex's lingering around. Potential bad lack of judgement moments sometimes present themselves, constantly comparing your current relationship to things your ex did because they are always fresh on your mind, etc etc.

I'm only on decent speaking terms with one ex, but I try not to talk too much with her because she's now married with a kid and lately when we seem to talk she skews the conversation into a weird and inappropriate direction and I'm not that kind of guy.

I definitely know it can be tough, some relationships more so than others, but I know less than 3 people who keep in contact with ex's and they primarily do so for random late night hook ups.

That's happened a lot with various exes. So far I've only managed to have 1 successful post break up friendship but only because I keep them emotionally at a distance since I think they're a bit crazy.

I dunno. I just feel like it's possible to be friendly and non sexual with an ex. Or at least that's always my bright side feeling. Most people I've talked to about their breakup habits seem to be in the "cutting off everything is best" group.

[Hog1]

Originally Posted by DynamiteRave

That's happened a lot with various exes. So far I've only managed to have 1 successful post break up friendship but only because I keep them emotionally at a distance since I think they're a bit crazy.

I dunno. I just feel like it's possible to be friendly and non sexual with an ex. Or at least that's always my bright side feeling. Most people I've talked to about their breakup habits seem to be in the "cutting off everything is best" group.

I am sure it's possible but in my case not very.....probable. In my case, if not a clean break and walk away kind of deal, things get wierd, messy, then poisonous...........

[RedskinRat]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I'm a big believer in completely and 100% moving on and leaving the past behind. All breakups should be permanent with no contact thereafter.

Wise man.

[saden1]

Relationships that end are like Skin cancer...you got to cut it off and let your wounds heal. Once they are healed you can go out in the Sun and enjoy all the vitamin D it has to offer.

Personally, if my relationship with you ends I don't fcking want to know you. I'll say hi if we ever see each other in public and shit but that's about it....life is too short and I could use one less "friend" I have to keep in touch with. Things are simpler this way.


Drop her like dead skin and move on!

[Chico23231]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I'm a big believer in completely and 100% moving on and leaving the past behind. All breakups should be permanent with no contact thereafter.

agree, ive always had to do that. Whats tough is when you work with the person. So ive said ill never do that again, but it elimnates a good pool of potentials because i spend 50 hours a week at work with alot of chicks from a lot of different areas of my job. So it feels like a catch 22.

[MTK]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

I'm a big believer in completely and 100% moving on and leaving the past behind. All breakups should be permanent with no contact thereafter.

Good advice, definitely agree but much easier said than done especially when you're younger and don't yet have experience on your side.