The Relationships Thread

[Lotus]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

The younger you are the more likely you are to think this way. At least that's my assertion.

The risk/reward just isn't there in my mind. The likelihood of a post-breakup friendship succeeding is low, there are emotional consequences, and friendship can be found with lots of other people who you never dated before.

The only reason people stay friends with an ex is because there are still feelings there, even if they don't want to admit it. Staying friends either leaves the door open for the future (false hope) or clings to the past (can't let go).

Rip it off like a bandaid and move on.

I'll be 50 this summer so age has nothing to do with my statement.

I agree that sometimes ripping off the bandaid is the right move. But, from another perspective, you saw enough in that person to be lovers but not enough to be friends? I therefore disagree that the only reason to stay friends is unresolved feelings. The fact is, if both parties are mature and caring, sometimes you can be just friends. Like I said, I have a couple of folks in my life who fit this description.