Prenuptial Agreements

saden1 · 05-26-2006, 10:55 PM

Does anyone here have one with their spouse? How do you get a woman to sign one without losing "trust" in a marriage?

Edit: posted in the wrong forum. mod, please move.

Schneed10 · 05-26-2006, 11:12 PM

I'm from the old school, I don't think there's any such thing as a prenuptial agreement where trust stays intact.

PS This should be a parking lot thread.

CooleyAsCanBe · 05-27-2006, 02:23 PM

My wife had more assets than I did when we were married, so she would have been looking for me to sign...

I do think the whole idea does hobble the marriage from the start.

Intolerable cruelty is a pretty hilarious movie about the topic if you are looking for ideas on how NOT to get your future spouse to sign one.

CooleyAsCanBe · 05-27-2006, 02:24 PM

P.S. I love that gold cup by my name now. I'll have to go back and always hold a high score just to keep that.

SkinsLove24/7 · 05-27-2006, 02:40 PM

What is with the gold cup and how did you/how do I get one??

CooleyAsCanBe · 05-27-2006, 03:36 PM

You get one with a first place score in any arcade game.

BDBohnzie · 05-30-2006, 10:12 AM

since neither me nor my wife come from any great wealth and fortune, it was not necessary. however, i really don't see it as a problem...those agreements can be written so that both parties are taken care of if the need for divorce arises.

TheMalcolmConnection · 05-30-2006, 10:19 AM

To me, it's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't kind of things. Like, say a divorce gets really messy, and maybe she cheated and you know it, but there's no real "proof", it would make it easy for everything to just be done.

But on the other hand, if you sign one, there's a problem with trust from the start.

BDBohnzie · 05-30-2006, 10:22 AM

why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage...

TheMalcolmConnection · 05-30-2006, 10:30 AM

That's true enough.

PWNED · 05-30-2006, 10:34 AM

ladies would be lucky to marry me. i just tell them to sign over 100 percent of their meager posessions before the wedding.

what am i talking about? i dont get married.

MTK · 05-30-2006, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by BDBohnzie

why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage...

That's it exactly.

I could maybe understand it if you were a multi-millionaire or something and had alot of assets, but otherwise I don't really think it's necessary.

Schneed10 · 05-30-2006, 11:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BDBohnzie

why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage...

I think you hit it on the head. If a prenup is even entering the discussion, then the relationship is probably doomed from the start. Believing a prenup may be needed (even if only as a "just in case"), shows trust issues in a relationship to begin with.

Successful marriages are based on a lot of things, trust being a big one. If you find yourself thinking about a prenup before getting down on one knee, I'd say it's time to go back and think about whether you should be proposing in the first place.

jbcjr14 · 05-30-2006, 11:27 AM

Actually I think the number one issue for divorce is due to money and/or arguments over money...so if you eliminate the arguement over money what's the issue? I personally don't have one, but if were asked wouldn't worry about it too much as you are eliminating the number one marriage killer (outside of Redskin football!!!).

firstdown · 05-30-2006, 11:55 AM

I signed one that if we split she had to take all of our junk. I'm tired of moving it. I do get to keep the boat, fishing equipment, and car. LOL

05-26-2006, 10:55 PM	#1
saden1 MVP Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Seattle Age: 45 Posts: 10,069	Prenuptial Agreements Does anyone here have one with their spouse? How do you get a woman to sign one without losing "trust" in a marriage? Edit: posted in the wrong forum. mod, please move. __________________ "The Redskins have always suffered from chronic organizational deformities under Snyder." -Jenkins

05-26-2006, 11:12 PM	#2
Schneed10 A Dude Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Newtown Square, PA Age: 45 Posts: 12,426	Re: Prenuptial Agreements I'm from the old school, I don't think there's any such thing as a prenuptial agreement where trust stays intact. PS This should be a parking lot thread. __________________ God made certain people to play football. He was one of them.

05-27-2006, 02:23 PM	#3
CooleyAsCanBe Special Teams Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Fairfax, VA Age: 48 Posts: 421	Re: Prenuptial Agreements My wife had more assets than I did when we were married, so she would have been looking for me to sign... I do think the whole idea does hobble the marriage from the start. Intolerable cruelty is a pretty hilarious movie about the topic if you are looking for ideas on how NOT to get your future spouse to sign one.

05-27-2006, 02:24 PM	#4
CooleyAsCanBe Special Teams Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Fairfax, VA Age: 48 Posts: 421	Re: Prenuptial Agreements P.S. I love that gold cup by my name now. I'll have to go back and always hold a high score just to keep that.

05-27-2006, 02:40 PM	#5
SkinsLove24/7 Special Teams Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Bowie, MD Age: 37 Posts: 423	Re: Prenuptial Agreements What is with the gold cup and how did you/how do I get one??

05-27-2006, 03:36 PM	#6
CooleyAsCanBe Special Teams Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Fairfax, VA Age: 48 Posts: 421	Re: Prenuptial Agreements You get one with a first place score in any arcade game.

05-30-2006, 10:12 AM	#7
BDBohnzie Playmaker Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Frederick, MD Age: 45 Posts: 4,628	Re: Prenuptial Agreements since neither me nor my wife come from any great wealth and fortune, it was not necessary. however, i really don't see it as a problem...those agreements can be written so that both parties are taken care of if the need for divorce arises. __________________ Bad Things man, I mean bad things... “WE TOOK HIM IN THE SIXTH ROUND SO WE'RE NOT SMART EITHER.” - Shanny on what the Skins saw in Alfred Morris

05-30-2006, 10:19 AM	#8
TheMalcolmConnection I like big (_\|_)s. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Charlottesville, Virginia Age: 43 Posts: 19,233	Re: Prenuptial Agreements To me, it's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't kind of things. Like, say a divorce gets really messy, and maybe she cheated and you know it, but there's no real "proof", it would make it easy for everything to just be done. But on the other hand, if you sign one, there's a problem with trust from the start. __________________ Regret nothing. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.

05-30-2006, 10:22 AM	#9
BDBohnzie Playmaker Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Frederick, MD Age: 45 Posts: 4,628	Re: Prenuptial Agreements why does it have to be a trust issue? perhaps I'm naive, but if there's trouble abrewin' from the mention of a prenup, perhaps the relationship isn't strong enough to consider marriage... __________________ Bad Things man, I mean bad things... “WE TOOK HIM IN THE SIXTH ROUND SO WE'RE NOT SMART EITHER.” - Shanny on what the Skins saw in Alfred Morris

05-30-2006, 10:30 AM	#10
TheMalcolmConnection I like big (_\|_)s. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Charlottesville, Virginia Age: 43 Posts: 19,233	Re: Prenuptial Agreements That's true enough. __________________ Regret nothing. At one time it was exactly what you wanted.

05-30-2006, 10:34 AM	#11
PWNED The Starter Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: ZOMGZZZ!!111 Age: 32 Posts: 1,160	Re: Prenuptial Agreements ladies would be lucky to marry me. i just tell them to sign over 100 percent of their meager posessions before the wedding. what am i talking about? i dont get married. __________________ 143 lbs of twisted steel and sex appeal.

05-30-2006, 11:27 AM	#14
jbcjr14 The Starter Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Austin, Texas Age: 54 Posts: 2,015	Re: Prenuptial Agreements Actually I think the number one issue for divorce is due to money and/or arguments over money...so if you eliminate the arguement over money what's the issue? I personally don't have one, but if were asked wouldn't worry about it too much as you are eliminating the number one marriage killer (outside of Redskin football!!!). __________________ "Work Harder: millions on welfare are counting on you" - Obama 2009 address to Congress.

05-30-2006, 11:55 AM	#15
firstdown Living Legend Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: chesapeake, va Age: 60 Posts: 15,817	Re: Prenuptial Agreements I signed one that if we split she had to take all of our junk. I'm tired of moving it. I do get to keep the boat, fishing equipment, and car. LOL

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