Wife Question: Dropping Momma' at the Plane

[TheMalcolmConnection]

OK, so basically my wife and I haven't spoken in like 48 hours. The entire basis behind this tiff is that my mom asked to be dropped at the airport Saturday morning. It's a 2 hour round trip, and I don't know what the big deal is. My wife wanted to do something fun for the weekend, but we already had a commitment. While I do agree with her that it's ridiculous for my mom and stepdad, aunt and uncle to not drive themselves, I'm doing it as a son's obligation.

To put things in perspective, we haven't done a vacation where it wasn't HER families in years, so we don't have extra money to do stuff just the two of us. Whenever I post things about vacations here, it is ALWAYS with her family, and I'm just expected to smile and take it.

I think it's INSANE that this fight has gone on this long AND to the magnitude it has for what it's about. I'd love to get some input on this, and any females or spouses of members here, am I wrong or right?

I've given her about 4,000 outs on this one. I suggested I drop my mom off, then she and I go to a nice overnight in DC or Blacksburg, but that just won't work for her.

[SolidSnake84]

I am missing something here. What is your wife mad about? The fact that you had to drive your mother?

My friend, i have only been married a short time, but even i know that everything will always be "her way". Thats just the way things are. Good luck, buddy.

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Yeah, basically that's what she's mad about. I mean it's one thing to be annoyed that we have to do it. I do a lot of favors for her family that I get annoyed about but do them with a smile on my face.

[jdlea]

So, what "fun thing" were you guys talking about doing this weekend? How long have you known about dropping your mom off? And did you cancel plans in agreeing to drop your mom off?

I need those answers before I can properly give you input

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Did not cancel plans. The fun thing she was trying to set up was on Monday and apparently she didn't remember or know that I had planned to do this.

[KLHJ2]

Malcolm, your wife isn't mad about you driving your mother. That is just the straw that broke the cammel's back. She is pissed about something else or even someone else, but the fact that you have to drive your mother has pushed her over the edge. Rarely do women ever let on what they are really upset about. This is just a guess but she probably is upset about not having a weekend alone with you in general. You could have been asked by the president of the United States to fly to Africa and save a bunch orphans from a burning building and she would have still been pissed.

Go to savemyass.com and it will make it all better.

[MTK]

Based on the info you gave here TMC I can't see where you're in the wrong. Don't give in, this is something she needs to get over. Suck it up woman!

[jdlea]

Originally Posted by Mattyk

Based on the info you gave here TMC I can't see where you're in the wrong. Don't give in, this is something she needs to get over. Suck it up woman!

That's pretty much my thinking. She needs to deal with it and stop pouting, two hours isn't that long, you didn't have plans and it's in the morning on Saturday. You can still go do anything you want with the rest of your weekend.

I also agree with the idea that she's probably pissed about something else, but without talking to you, it's going to be tough to figure out what that is.

Bottom line: you didn't do anything wrong. I don't really understand where she has any room to be angry about anything here.

[firstdown]

Do you do a bunch of stuff for your mom and its ticking off your wife

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Thanks for making me feel vindicated guys. I absolutely am not backing down on this. I mean I'm typically never an asshole because I feel like that just makes her look more insane when she pouts. I just IMed her and was like, "When you're ready to be normal and get over this. We can talk."

[TheMalcolmConnection]

Originally Posted by firstdown

Do you do a bunch of stuff for your mom and its ticking off your wife

Honestly, not really. I see her grandmother who lives in Hawaii more than I see my own mom if I were to do the math on how many hours we spend with each of them.

[GhettoDogAllStars]

Originally Posted by Angry

Malcolm, your wife isn't mad about you driving your mother. That is just the straw that broke the cammel's back. She is pissed about something else or even someone else, but the fact that you have to drive your mother has pushed her over the edge. Rarely do women ever let on what they are really upset about. This is just a guess but she probably is upset about not having a weekend alone with you in general. You could have been asked by the president of the United States to fly to Africa and save a bunch orphans from a burning building and she would have still been pissed.

Go to savemyass.com and it will make it all better.

This 100%.

[BleedBurgundy]

She's marking her territory (you). It's a relatively minor "me OR your mom" type deal, but these things matter to women...because they're insane.

[Gmanc711]

I tend to agree with everyone who says that there is something more to it... meaning that shes probaboly mad that she hasn't spent a weekend with you latley or something like that. If my girlfriend gets upset with me, thats ussually the root cause and something else causes the fight and it just leads back to the same place...

But you're compeltley right in the situation. There is no reason it should be this big of a deal for thsi long. If shes pissed for a couple hours, whatever...but this is just stupid.

[SmootSmack]

One of the toughest jobs of being a husband, balancing responsibilities between and obligations toward your family and your wife. Somehow, the guy always has to be the voice of reason.

Whatever you do, don't tell her you don't know what the big deal is. If nothing else, acknowledge that whatever's bothering her is important to her.


Did you honeymoon with her family too?...'cause that's just odd