F....Cigarettes

[mredskins]

Over the past few months my wife and I have been turning a blind eye to the fact that her folks smoke and their second hand smoke is affecting our son's health. Yesterday was kind of the straw that broke the camels back..per say.

My son and wife went to visit my in-laws yesterday for most of the day. When they came home my son was sneezing and his eyes were really red, this continue through most of the night it was obvious it was from the smoke that final got to him or at least this was his worst bout yet with it.

My in-laws love my son (their grandchild), he is definitely my MIL whole life. He goes to her every Monday and she cares for him, he is 2.

We are now at the point where we don't want to take him over there anymore becasue it is really starting to bother but we also know it will launch World War 3. There are 3 full time smokers that live at my in-laws house, they do smoke outside but really it is still second hand smoke.

My MIL is the biggest hypochondriac you ever meet but yet she still smokes and won't stop. She is afraid to drive over the Key Bridge and/or go through either tunnel in MD but yet smokes a pack and a half a day. I said to her one day in a fit of frustration "I am almost positive more folks have died from smoking then driving over the Key Bridge."

Well basically I just want to say F cigs for putting my family is this bad situation.

I WISH THEY WOULD QUIT OR AT LEAST TRY!!!!!!!

[mooby]

I agree. As my father's healthy keeps declining, not just from cigs but from working a hazardous job for the last 15 years, I really wish he'd just quit. But he's way beyond the point where quitting would do more harm than good, having smoked constantly for the last 35+ years. He starts getting the shakes if he tries to smoke less, and none of the patches or other ideas have worked for him. He switched to lights a couple years ago but it's really not that much better.

Plus I've been around smokers all my life, from family to friends and for a while I was tolerate of their smoke but lately it seems it's hurting more. People have blown smoke in my face and it's even sent me into a constant fit of coughing on rare occasion and it's really starting to get annoying.

I might also add F smokers who are inconsiderate of other people. There's nothing worse than getting caught up in someone else's cloud because they don't care where they light up.

[Schneed10]

Word, cigarettes are the grossest thing.

It sounds like your son is allergic to tobacco smoke. Those allergic to it are more prone to developing asthma from it. Take it seriously, it represents a threat to his health.

Start WW3 if you have to.

[Schneed10]

PS When I saw how much Megan Fox smoked it ruined her forever for me. In that hypothetical scenario where she wants a piece of the Schneed, I'd have to turn her down. That's how gross cigs are to me.

[saden1]

Don't smoke around my kids or you won't be around my kids. It is a simple request and a simple response to the denial of you request. The choice is theirs and whatever they choose your kid's health problems will be solved.

[Hog1]

Originally Posted by mredskins

Over the past few months my wife and I have been turning a blind eye to the fact that her folks smoke and their second hand smoke is affecting our son's health. Yesterday was kind of the straw that broke the camels back..per say.

My son and wife went to visit my in-laws yesterday for most of the day. When they came home my son was sneezing and his eyes were really red, this continue through most of the night it was obvious it was from the smoke that final got to him or at least this was his worst bout yet with it.

My in-laws love my son (their grandchild), he is definitely my MIL whole life. He goes to her every Monday and she cares for him, he is 2.

We are now at the point where we don't want to take him over there anymore becasue it is really starting to bother but we also know it will launch World War 3. There are 3 full time smokers that live at my in-laws house, they do smoke outside but really it is still second hand smoke.

My MIL is the biggest hypochondriac you ever meet but yet she still smokes and won't stop. She is afraid to drive over the Key Bridge and/or go through either tunnel in MD but yet smokes a pack and a half a day. I said to her one day in a fit of frustration "I am almost positive more folks have died from smoking then driving over the Key Bridge."

Well basically I just want to say F cigs for putting my family is this bad situation.

I WISH THEY WOULD QUIT OR AT LEAST TRY!!!!!!!

Do your kids get the second hand smoke outside?

[BleedBurgundy]

Yeah, kids health > MIL's feelings.

[Monkeydad]

Originally Posted by Schneed10

Word, cigarettes are the grossest thing.

It sounds like your son is allergic to tobacco smoke. Those allergic to it are more prone to developing asthma from it. Take it seriously, it represents a threat to his health.

Start WW3 if you have to.

Definitely stand by your son, mredskins.

Schneed, you mentioned being allergic to smoke...it's my ONLY allergy.

My throat starts to burn and I get nauseous. Once in a bar/dance club in college, that was VERY smoky...I had to go to the restroom to puke three times. Didn't go back obviously.

I have NO other allergies that I know of, but this is not a fun one. Sometimes when a stinky smoker gets out of an elevator and I use it afterward, my throat starts to get sore...don't even have to be around "live" smoke.


So stick up for the kid and if they won't be considerate enough to put their selfish habits aside when he's around...they're choosing cigs over your son and it's their loss.

But if he does have an allergy, you may just have to make their house off-limits completely, because if they stink, their house will....even if they always smoke outside. If his health is being affected by them...TELL THEM and don't worry about their reaction.

Is your wife on your side? If not, get her on it before you bring it up with her mother...you may need the backup.

[jsarno]

Originally Posted by saden1

Don't smoke around my kids or you won't be around my kids. It is a simple request and a simple response to the denial of you request. The choice is theirs and whatever they choose your kid's health problems will be solved.

I 100% agee.
There are points in your life that you need to stand up to people. Whether it be your parents, your teacher, your in laws, a bully...whatever. This is a no brainer, you either stand up to your in laws and demand they stop smoking around them, or you will take him away from them. This may not be taken with a grain of salt, but you need to draw the line in the sand. If they truly love your son, they will comply.

[mredskins]

Let me be clear here and I am not defending them but they have never smoked "around" my son indoors or out. It is the second hand smoke on their hands and clothes that makes him sick.

My MIL smokes a pack a day and I have never seen her actually smoke, it is always in some secret place, she is very ashamed of her habit.

My wife is in my corner and we are going to confront them this week.

[saden1]

Originally Posted by mredskins

Let me be clear here and I am not defending them but they have never smoked "around" my son indoors or out. It is the second hand smoke on their hands and clothes that makes him sick.

My MIL smokes a pack a day and I have never seen her actually smoke, it is always in some secret place, she is very ashamed of her habit.

My wife is in my corner and we are going to confront them this week.

Well if that's the case then tell them if they want to see the kids either quit smoking altogether (not likely seeing how old they are) or you can see the kids by coming over to our house fully bathed and as smoke-residue-free as possible.

[dmek25]

had this problem. only with my parents. my baby girl actually threw up from the smoke. gave them the ultimatum, either don't smoke around us, or we aren't coming over. still haven't been here, my daughters 22. caused a lot of hard feelings. would i do it again? definitely. my kids health was the priority. do i miss them as grand parents? sure. but the choice i made was the right one. but.... to want them to wash up, and whatever, is being a bit of a bigot. do you wash up before handling your kids? i think that's a bit extreme. just remember, your choice will have consequences, either way

[Hog1]

Originally Posted by mredskins

Let me be clear here and I am not defending them but they have never smoked "around" my son indoors or out. It is the second hand smoke on their hands and clothes that makes him sick.

My MIL smokes a pack a day and I have never seen her actually smoke, it is always in some secret place, she is very ashamed of her habit.

My wife is in my corner and we are going to confront them this week.

THAT should be exciting...Good Luck to you

[MTK]

Gotta put your kids first above all else.

[tryfuhl]

As a kid that grew up around smokers who didn't give a damn about how often and where they did it I will not allow any future children to become subject to the same type of environment.